jeffery Posted December 22, 2009 Posted December 22, 2009 went out last night with my ex girlfriend of two and half years we have been apart 5months and she has been in a relationship with a guy for 2 months,this guy is meant to be quite the idiot and does not treat her well,messes he around etc. before she offered me out on a drink she has tryed contacting me 4 times via email, then finaly she speaks to me on her mates instant messenger and tells me she cant stop thinking about me, miss everything about us and my family. so then i get the email the following day say if id like to meet up for a drink...so i went along bought new clothes,hair cut new scent the works. we had such a lovely time...laughing etc. then i text her today saying its not fair what do you want me or him, she said she cant not have me in her life and still has strong feelings for me even love. however has feelings for this guy shes in a relationship with... what do i do...i havent moved on as other girls dont really appeal to me.... so anything other than just move on...would be greatfull on what to do...do i wait for her to chose? is he a rebound? she text me last night saying "hey ;)" i didnt reply, i think she wants more than friends otherwise wouldnt lie to her man and wouldnt go to this much trouble...advice please
gaudi Posted December 22, 2009 Posted December 22, 2009 You're right. It isn't fair on you or the other guy, she needs to make a choice, if she can't make that choice, then you shouldn't keep waiting for her to do so......
singlegirl Posted December 22, 2009 Posted December 22, 2009 The longer you wait the less likely you are to eventually get her...It sounds to me like she wants to leave the guy but isn't ready to do so. IMHO you are her safety net and she's luring you back in to keep you on the sidelines if and if she needs you... Best case scenario, tell her you still love and want her but until she makes a clean break you don't want to hear from her .... Worst case scenario, she reels you in and eventually leaves this guy. she may even sleep with you but it sounds to me that she will eventually meet another and you will be frozen out in the safety net zone.... Don't be a shmuck, take back your power and place your boundaries firmly in your side of the fence...This may even snare her but either way you are in a win win situation. You don't have her now so you have nothing to loose
Space Ritual Posted December 22, 2009 Posted December 22, 2009 Agreed...she is keeping you on the backburner in case it does not work out with the other guy. Being second choice is not what you want to be, but its what you are. do yourself a favor...Go NO CONTACT. Because she has already gone back out with you behind her new BF's Back. who's to say she wont pull the same thing on you somewhere down the line?
Space Ritual Posted December 22, 2009 Posted December 22, 2009 PLUS....have you been a fly on the wall in her room during their relationship and witnessed first hand how badly he treats her...or are you taking HER WORD FOR IT??? People like this you don't take their word for anything. And she has already proven by going out with you that she isnt trustworthy. But don't take my word for it....
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