shadowplay Posted December 22, 2009 Posted December 22, 2009 (edited) Not because of some childhood trauma, or some fear of getting hurt, but because of something about the way you're wired? I've never experienced romantic love in the normal sense, and I've been in several serious relationships. The closest, most permanent feeling was for a guy I barely knew. The strange thing is I know what it feels like, because I've caught it in flashes -- in dreams mostly where I have a sudden instant of clarity. It's this incredibly warm, primal feeling of being at home. I think the feeling exists within people, even before they meet the first person who triggers it. Meeting the right person allows them to reconnect with that feeling and make it complete. I can feel it temporarily for a particular person I'm with, but it always disappears. It's frustrating as hell. Part of the problem is I see the value in too many potential partners. I can imagine how my love for different people would each carry its own distinct flavor, so it's hard for me to commit to just one when each type of love seems beautiful in its own right. Does one mature out of this? I really would like to be able to love just one person in a normal, healthy sense. Edited December 22, 2009 by shadowplay
betamanlet Posted December 22, 2009 Posted December 22, 2009 Not because of some childhood trauma, or some fear of getting hurt, but because of something about the way you're wired? I've never experienced romantic love in the normal sense, and I've been in several serious relationships. The closest, most permanent feeling was for a guy I barely knew. The strange thing is I know what it feels like, because I've caught it in flashes -- in dreams mostly where I have a sudden instant of clarity. It's this incredibly warm, primal feeling of being at home. I think the feeling exists within people, even before they meet the first person who triggers it. Meeting the right person allows them to reconnect with that feeling and make it complete. I can feel it temporarily for a particular person I'm with, but it always disappears. It's frustrating as hell. Part of the problem is I see the value in too many potential partners. I can imagine how my love for different people would each carry its own distinct flavor, so it's hard for me to commit to just one when each type of love seems beautiful in its own right. Does one mature out of this? I really would like to be able to love just one person in a normal, healthy sense. I would say it's fairly common, and those who have it don't mature out of it, they just lie and settle. But wish it were otherwise.
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