coolsenior09 Posted December 22, 2009 Posted December 22, 2009 Ok, I think I need to tell you that I'm in college. So I've been lead on by this guy. He acted very flirty with me for about 4 consecutive days (i.e. arm touching, face touching, hair touching) and then after the 4 days, he never called or texted me. Before that, he texted me quite a bit. Here's a flashback: During the four days, we ate meals together (he never paid for me though), and we watched movies and stuff. He and I have very different outlooks on life. He is very liberal and is an atheist, and I am conservative Christian. We had this whole philosophical discussion... it didn't get heated, but it was uncomfortable for me. We also discussed purity, i.e. staying pure until marriage. He obviously doesn't believe in that. So, I asked him the day after the 4 days, why he acted that way towards me. He told me that he was naturally a very flirtatious guy, and that it was all just flirting. He then explained to me, "...It would end badly. I know." I was just really confused when I heard that. His actions didn't match what he was telling me. I had a 10 minute talk with him recently, and I explained sort of how I felt. I told him I felt like he played around with me like a toy, and just let me go after that. He didn't make eye contact when I was talking to him... and he said, "Yeah, I'm sorry about that... I shouldn't have acted in that way." What's the deal? Is it appropriate to send an email telling him not to do this to any other girl? I still don't think he fully understands that this has affected me so much more than it has to him. Ultimately, did he decide I wasn't the girl for him because I wouldn't sleep with him? Did he really tell me that it wasn't going to work out because of our religious/political beliefs?
Yukikazi Posted December 22, 2009 Posted December 22, 2009 (edited) First.. move on Second.. you didn't sleep with him and have only known him for 4 days. He is well within his right to end things whether due to religious/political beliefs or because you are on different pages. He was honest with you before you slept with him so why are you complaining? Most girls would be quite happy to know this before they sleep with a person. You got that much respect out of him. So he was flirting with you.. so what? Its just flirting. Women have been known to loose interest in guys based off a single comment or action.. maybe you 2 just have too much in opposition and he realizes this and is nipping it in the bud before either of you get any more invested. I flirt with my friend (flirt with all of them even those with bf's).. she is married to my other friend. Do I intend to take it anywhere.. of course not. Does she flirt back.. yes. Its just harmless fun. She pokes me and I poke her back.. we both do the arm and back touching, she's even gone after my boxers wedgie style so I've done the same back to her. Hell our lips have even brushed against each others as we did the yell in the ear and change back and forth conversation style in a loud venue. Neither of us acknowledged it cause it was simply an accident of movement. Nothing will come of it.. EVER.. but we still have a fun time flirting. The husband trusts her and its against my morals to cheat or assist in cheating. Flirting isn't a bad thing.. don't treat it like such a huge deal.. alot of people do it w/o realizing it or meaning anything by it. Its just how some of us are. Only he can answer your last 2 questions.. we can only speculate. Edited December 22, 2009 by Yukikazi
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