bbasher75 Posted December 22, 2009 Posted December 22, 2009 If a woman has told you she isnt interested in dating you after the 1st date, then lets say you ignore her. And then after a while of ignoring her she starts trying to make you jealous. Is that some kind of hard to get krap? Or is she just trying to emotionally f you over because she's a wench?
Simon Attwood Posted December 22, 2009 Posted December 22, 2009 It's both a defensive manouvre, and also attention seeking. Not as contradictory as it sounds.
Author bbasher75 Posted December 22, 2009 Author Posted December 22, 2009 It's both a defensive manouvre, and also attention seeking. Not as contradictory as it sounds. What do you mean by "defensive" move? And why is she seeking my attention? Basically, she begged me to go out and after we did, said she didnt wanna date right now. My reaction was "sure, whatever" and bascially I ignored her (when I saw her I was polite, but thats about it). Why is she trying to get my attention now? She already said she didnt want to date me so why does she give a krap what I think? I find it very weird. Either way she's not getting my attention, even if I wanted to give it to her. Because I deleted her number as soon as I saw her doing it the 1st time. Good way to keep myself from doing anything dumb, I guess. Right?
InspiredbyYou Posted December 22, 2009 Posted December 22, 2009 Can you explain how she is trying to make you jealous? Meaning, you sure you are just not reading into things?
Simon Attwood Posted December 22, 2009 Posted December 22, 2009 What do you mean by "defensive" move? And why is she seeking my attention? She is both trying to protect herself emotionally, but still trying to reach out for something that she needs, but is too afraid of. Why is she trying to get my attention now? She already said she didnt want to date me so why does she give a krap what I think? I find it very weird. That is because you are making the mistake of thinking rationally Either way she's not getting my attention, even if I wanted to give it to her. Because I deleted her number as soon as I saw her doing it the 1st time. Good way to keep myself from doing anything dumb, I guess. Right? I guess ....
Author bbasher75 Posted December 22, 2009 Author Posted December 22, 2009 She is both trying to protect herself emotionally, but still trying to reach out for something that she needs, but is too afraid of. Sorry but I still don't understand. Protect herself from what? I'm not chasing her. And "reaching out for what she needs"? That's obviously not me, since she didn't want to go on a 2nd date. Soooo...huh? Doesnt matter I've moved on, but I just find it curious. Kind of leaves me scratching my head.
Simon Attwood Posted December 22, 2009 Posted December 22, 2009 Protect herself from what? Pain? Psychic destruction? Don't think of her as a rational human being, rather consider walking home one day and coming across an abused animal, a dog, and you want to approach that dog, help that dog, give that dog some love because you can see that this is all that dog needs. Now how would you approach that dog? And what reactions would you expect from that dog to your approach?
FilthMerchant Posted December 22, 2009 Posted December 22, 2009 Stay firm in your resolution not to contact her. Be polite but dismissive if she contacts you and don't contact her yourself. Let her see you with other women if that's possible... just show that you aren't affected by it. Women play jealousy games because some of them can't communicate any other way and most of them have stupidly low self-esteem levels.
Author bbasher75 Posted December 22, 2009 Author Posted December 22, 2009 Stay firm in your resolution not to contact her. Be polite but dismissive if she contacts you and don't contact her yourself. Let her see you with other women if that's possible... just show that you aren't affected by it. Women play jealousy games because some of them can't communicate any other way and most of them have stupidly low self-esteem levels. Someone told me to go after her to "show her how much I care" and that if I dont chase her, she will think I dont care about her and I will lose her. That shes "testing me" or some krap. I guess you dont agree with that lol.
Author bbasher75 Posted December 22, 2009 Author Posted December 22, 2009 Pain? Psychic destruction? Don't think of her as a rational human being, rather consider walking home one day and coming across an abused animal, a dog, and you want to approach that dog, help that dog, give that dog some love because you can see that this is all that dog needs. Now how would you approach that dog? And what reactions would you expect from that dog to your approach? OK but the dog has an excuse. The dog can't rationalize. It doesnt know I want to help it, it thinks I want to abuse it like the others. Are you saying women have as much rationalization as a dog? LOL sad part is youre probably right.
FilthMerchant Posted December 22, 2009 Posted December 22, 2009 Someone told me to go after her to "show her how much I care" and that if I dont chase her, she will think I dont care about her and I will lose her. That shes "testing me" or some krap. I guess you dont agree with that lol. She is probably testing you - yeah. But that is the worst solution possible. Testing you to see how desirable you are. A desirable person does not chase people who behave like that. Do you see?
Yukikazi Posted December 22, 2009 Posted December 22, 2009 Someone told me to go after her to "show her how much I care" and that if I dont chase her, she will think I dont care about her and I will lose her. That shes "testing me" or some krap. I guess you don't agree with that lol. Do you REALLY want to deal with someone that will test you like that on a whim? Cause she wont stop once she sees what she can get away with she will keep trying to push it.. even subconciously. Back off and let her come to you.. As you have already moved on.. its on her to bring your interest back.. but don't play her games.
phineas Posted December 22, 2009 Posted December 22, 2009 If she's playing a game, she just lost LOL! "hard to get" doesn't fly with a lot of people. I'm one of them. once they they turn me down It's up to them to rectify the situation created by their hasty mistake.
boogieboy Posted December 22, 2009 Posted December 22, 2009 Someone told me to go after her to "show her how much I care" and that if I dont chase her, she will think I dont care about her and I will lose her. That shes "testing me" or some krap. I guess you dont agree with that lol. Not after one date and a blowoff, you dont care about her THAT much. She says shes not interested, you treat her as such. Dont play into her jealousy games.
stillafool Posted December 22, 2009 Posted December 22, 2009 Can you explain how she is trying to make you jealous? Meaning, you sure you are just not reading into things? bbasher75 why didn't you answer this question? What did she do to try to make you jealous?
skydiveaddict Posted December 24, 2009 Posted December 24, 2009 If a woman has told you she isnt interested in dating you after the 1st date, then lets say you ignore her. And then after a while of ignoring her she starts trying to make you jealous. Is that some kind of hard to get krap? Or is she just trying to emotionally f you over because she's a wench? congrats basher! you are starting to display alpha male traits! she's trying to make you jealous because she wants you to chase her. dont do it. continue to ignore her, and if she really likes you she will come back. either way dont dont be the one to initiate contact
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