Lovestinks76 Posted December 22, 2009 Posted December 22, 2009 Let me first thank everyone on loveshack for helping me endure such a dark point in my life. I lurk without saying much but I will say that some of the posts on this site are truly beautiful. I think the overwhelming pain of heartbreak brings out something spiritual in the writing that resonates strongly with me and others with similar experiences. The practical advice has been very useful as well. Most of us are on our maiden voyage on this ship of pain so we appreciate the insight. My first post spoke of "The One"– the once in a lifetime connection that some never get. I asked if you ever get over her and was told that she wasn’t really the one or she would not have left. I think my case was especially horrible because there were no warning signs; no fights or signals or anything. She would always say how we are in complete alignment with the same values, chemistry, attraction, love. Etc. It was just great, almost dreamlike, for a year and a half and then it was like she acquired multiple-personality disorder and just turned into someone else on a dime. She had met someone else and everything she said we had evaporated into thin air in a mere fourteen days. It’s hard to believe she was lying the whole time. She has told me she simply fell out of love with me about the time she fell in love with the new guy. I am still very hurt but the pain is lessening with each passing week. She is, however, younger. She is 21 and I am 33. I usually only date women close to my age, but like I said, we really clicked from day one. A young lady at work(22) told me that women in her age group don’t really know what they want in a relationship. I will probably stay with the 25+ crowd if and when I get back out there. Does anyone agree that this kind of dramatic sudden change of heart is typical of her age group or am I just looking for a pattern that is not there?
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