trueluV Posted December 22, 2009 Posted December 22, 2009 I posted earlier about my "unusually slow" dating. for background info: we went on 6 dates, and still no touching (other than arm, a hug when seeing and leaving), let alone kissing. we're both asians and super shy. lol so, i met this guy again last weekend, and it was our 6th date. I want to know how this guy is thinking of me. we don't flirt and touch too much, so it's hard to read the signs. the facts are: we went on 6 dates, i touched him last time on his arm and he just let me do it, he pays for everything all the time (i insist though!). and he talks a lot. that's the basic fact, but i can't tell whether he's interested/likes in me or not. is there something not too obvious i can do to figure this out? some subtle things i can do? I like this guy, so i guess there's a high chance we'll go on a next date soon. any suggestions, guys?
Mr Locario Posted December 22, 2009 Posted December 22, 2009 Sometimes you might go out with men who just aren't that aggressive. So what you should do is play the aggressor and see how he responds to it. I know you said your shy but if you and him are both being shy then it might take forever for anything to happen and then you and him might end up just being friends. Someone has to step up.
boogieboy Posted December 22, 2009 Posted December 22, 2009 You might as well go for it, and make a move. If hes still going out on dates with you hes interested. Since hes not making a move, its probably because he isnt getting any signs from you that you like him. So you have to make things obvious now. Put your face close to his, say something, stop avoiding the risk. You have nothing to lose.
Vintage79 Posted December 22, 2009 Posted December 22, 2009 My twin brother was in that situation once - he kept going out with a girl, but nothing physical. He called me up one day and basically said that he likes this girl, but doesn't know what to do - he ws kind of under the impression that they were friends and nothing more...but he wanted more. That said, I told him to just go for it, as they had been spending so much time together - the worst that would happen is she says she just wants to be friends. Long story short, he kissed her on the next date - she apparently had been just dying for it to happen - they're now happily married. Yes, he was the guy, but I would, nonetheless, give you the same advice. It's been 6 dates, if you like him just go for it - either he feels the same way about you and you just made the relationship that much better, or else he wants to only be friends, which you'll definitely figure out after... I see no downside, you either get a more interesting relationship or else you save yourself potential heartbreak.
BobSacamento Posted December 22, 2009 Posted December 22, 2009 Make him want to kiss you. At the end of he date/night apply lip gloss while you have his attention. If he doesn't get the hint he's a moron.
Author trueluV Posted December 22, 2009 Author Posted December 22, 2009 You guys are so right. there should be an aggressor and seems like I should be the one! Not sure if i can kiss him or a kiss would happen soon, but i'll try to touch him more, on his arm, to give hints i'm comfortable with him and interested. if he doesn't resist, isn't it a good sign, at least? I'm going to cook for him (2nd time) on the next date, so i'll see how he behaves around me then. It'll be at his place so he'll be more comfortable. I've already been to his place twice, but nothing happened, of course. But he did seem to enjoy my food and company. anyway, i'll have some drink with him next time while having dinner and try to make a progress in this slow relationship-whatever you call it. but you guys think if he already went on 6 dates with me, he has interest in me? but he can back off, too, don't you think so?
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