vballtay Posted December 21, 2009 Posted December 21, 2009 picture of me (and my mommy) : http://tinypic.com/r/2a95zlw/6 i feel sick to my stomach because this seems to be a re-occuring problem.. for example, i was talking to this guy recently, and he was very attractive and seemed fun to be with. he then started to want 'pictures' and 'videos' and soon, our conversations were dominated by him asking if i was going to give him any and when. he kept pushing this topic, until finally i told him that i wasnt comfortable doing that because i knew what it felt like to be used (bad previous relationship) and i felt that by obliging to his wants i would be setting myself up to be hurt again. i told him i hope he understood and he just responded with a 'yeah, whatever' kind of attitude and we havent talked since.. i knew he wasnt a good guy when he aggressively pushed the idea of me sending him pornographic stuff. but it still hurts, and ive been upset ever since, especially since this isnt the first time something like this has happened. is there something wrong with me ?
Brady_to_Moss Posted December 21, 2009 Posted December 21, 2009 Things will get better BTW you are very very pretty!
D-Lish Posted December 21, 2009 Posted December 21, 2009 The moment someone asks for something like that from you- conversation and contact should be done. Delete them, block them, move on. That's how you show people how you want to be treated. Anyone that would ask this of someone they don't know is a douchebag. Once that fact is established, there is no reason to continue the conversation. You won't get used if you recognize red flags and stand up for yourself.
MichiganMan222 Posted December 22, 2009 Posted December 22, 2009 How many times have you come across users? You mention your previous RL and then this clown. Are there more or just these two? If you really do run into these types constantly, one has to wonder if you're attraction to certain types of guys is narrow and that its is ones to guys that have a propensity to be players. Do you limit yourself to only certain looks and/or personalities? You are attractive so I don't see why you'd have any trouble getting a look from a wide spectrum of guys. I can't help but wonder if its your selections that are what put you in these positions and not so much a flaw in you or your looks.
Woggle Posted December 22, 2009 Posted December 22, 2009 You are subconciously being drawn to men like this.
JustLooking123 Posted December 22, 2009 Posted December 22, 2009 I wouldn't let the internet guy get you down too much; that kind of stuff is ubiquitous on the web. I think your in-person experiences might be more telling. If there's a pattern with prior relationships, you have to look at what role you had in perpetuating it. Any more details you care to share?
meerkat stew Posted December 22, 2009 Posted December 22, 2009 The 80/20 rule applies to quality in prospective dates as well as other things. If only 20% of people are worth dating, you will be plowing through lots of chaff (80%) to find the wheat. Try not to let any one piece of chaff get to you, as each one moves you closer to the next grain of wheat. I have eaten too many Christmas cookies and other flour products today, obviously, but the analogy works. Stay focused and moving forward to the next opportunity.
Yukikazi Posted December 22, 2009 Posted December 22, 2009 Just be a tad more selective in your choices and don't send anything incriminating.. it gets out way too easy nowadays. And I agree you are very cute looking.
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