jod1463 Posted December 21, 2009 Posted December 21, 2009 I feel lost without my ex fiance, it's being 6 months and i still feel like this.:lmao:
HeavenOrHell Posted December 21, 2009 Posted December 21, 2009 5 months on for me and I'm still feeling like s*** too, together 18 years, How long were you together?
Author jod1463 Posted December 21, 2009 Author Posted December 21, 2009 six year's but we knew each other since i was 14 , now 27.
HeavenOrHell Posted December 21, 2009 Posted December 21, 2009 Are you still in touch with her? Most people here say we need to have no contact in order for us to heal, I am finding it hard to let go though, we still meet up as friends.
Author jod1463 Posted December 21, 2009 Author Posted December 21, 2009 only if i had that as friends... I have made all the mistakes in the book, it's so bad that she got a OP against me. Still at times i find my self texting or emailing her , i know i'm cutting it close. But i'm so lost i don't know what to do.
worldcavedin Posted December 21, 2009 Posted December 21, 2009 Are you still in touch with her? Most people here say we need to have no contact in order for us to heal, I am finding it hard to let go though, we still meet up as friends. I have not followed the NC rule but i do believe that is the only way to go, its hard to do nc if you have kids(like i do). If you dont have kids mate, i would suggest you try nc and see how it goes, nothing to lose except maybe your pain
worldcavedin Posted December 21, 2009 Posted December 21, 2009 only if i had that as friends... I have made all the mistakes in the book, it's so bad that she got a OP against me. Still at times i find my self texting or emailing her , i know i'm cutting it close. But i'm so lost i don't know what to do. You should also get your hands on some books regarding negative thoughts, you should try and think positively. it is hard to do as you have created negative thought habits in your head. When she enters your head try thinking this is just a thought that I created and i dont want to entertain this thought i will create a positive thought. You control your own thoughts no one else and chose your thoughts so that they dont cause pain. thats what i try
Author jod1463 Posted December 21, 2009 Author Posted December 21, 2009 No kids in my end just of couple of dogs i love with all my life. But can't longer see because of the OP. There's no hope in my situation, all i have is pictures of her and videos.
worldcavedin Posted December 21, 2009 Posted December 21, 2009 No kids in my end just of couple of dogs i love with all my life. But can't longer see because of the OP. There's no hope in my situation, all i have is pictures of her and videos. Put the videos and pics of her away somewhere they are hard to obtain, she is gone it sucks but that is the only reality there is. You need to think of yourself, obviously you are not in a happy place just now and only you can make youself content/happy. so you need to move on and take care of the things that you want in life without thinking about others. Try the NC for a couple of month figure out what you want for yorself, set a couple of goals to aim for and focus on making yourself happy as she is very very obviously making you unhappy. Think positive of yourself and soon enough she will be a pleasant thought which does not case you any pain.
HeavenOrHell Posted December 21, 2009 Posted December 21, 2009 You don't want to stay friends like I've done believe me, most people here have seen what I've put myself through, the false hope, the feeling crushed again and again, the terrible fear I will soon face of him meeting someone new, and being stuck in the past unable to let go, I wouldn't wish this on anyone. It's a nightmare. only if i had that as friends... I have made all the mistakes in the book, it's so bad that she got a OP against me. Still at times i find my self texting or emailing her , i know i'm cutting it close. But i'm so lost i don't know what to do.
Author jod1463 Posted December 21, 2009 Author Posted December 21, 2009 This is so hard specially times like this, i find my self on her fb page at times for hours. I wish i just forget everything about her, the good the bad ever meeting her everything bc the pain is so strong.
worldcavedin Posted December 21, 2009 Posted December 21, 2009 This is so hard specially times like this, i find my self on her fb page at times for hours. I wish i just forget everything about her, the good the bad ever meeting her everything bc the pain is so strong. the only way to forget her is to stop the fb surfing and going nc. try and get rid of everything that makes you think of her
Author jod1463 Posted December 21, 2009 Author Posted December 21, 2009 That also means getting rid off the laptop i'm using now...
worldcavedin Posted December 21, 2009 Posted December 21, 2009 That also means getting rid off the laptop i'm using now... get a new laptop if you can, you need to get her out your head and move on
Author jod1463 Posted December 21, 2009 Author Posted December 21, 2009 yeah getting new everything... since we lived together for the six years we was together.
tryagaintoday Posted December 22, 2009 Posted December 22, 2009 Here's how I did it. 1st week: Felt lost. Grief, denial, sucidal. 2nd week: Seek comfort in friends and family. Throw out all her things, deleted everything that has her in the pc. Block her, and go full NC. 3rd week: Focus entirely on myself and the ppl who are truly significant to me. The rest: Done and over! Easy peasy!
Author jod1463 Posted December 22, 2009 Author Posted December 22, 2009 Funny thing is when it comes to her i lack self control. only if it was that simple, i will be great this second.
tryagaintoday Posted December 22, 2009 Posted December 22, 2009 no one can help you if you don't help yourself. merry christmas and here's hoping that next year will be a better year for you.
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