worldcavedin Posted December 21, 2009 Posted December 21, 2009 hello everyone, its been about 6 weeks since my wife left me and as usually happens she is now seeing another guy. The thing is i still think about her constantly but nowhere near as much as i did and also the pain in my stomach is not really there anymore(sometimes it is. but not as bad). I have a couple of kids so the nc is hard to maintain. I have so much i want to tell her and when i get the chance to say these things to her i just cant as my mind goes blank. I think i would take her back but i dont know if i could forget the other guy, and then i think feck that why should i even want her, not that she would come back as i believe she is falling for this ney guy. So can anyone tell me what stage i am at? i just want to wake up and feel good and not think of her, i now wake up in the morning and go hey i never thought of her, then i go feck i just have. Sorry for sounding confusing.
HeavenOrHell Posted December 21, 2009 Posted December 21, 2009 It's different for everyone, I was with my ex 18 years, started feeling a bit better after the 3rd month and feeling happy again at times after 4 months, but hit a downer again at 5 months. Depends on how long you've been together and how much love there was, and the reasons for splitting.
Author worldcavedin Posted December 21, 2009 Author Posted December 21, 2009 It's different for everyone, I was with my ex 18 years, started feeling a bit better after the 3rd month and feeling happy again at times after 4 months, but hit a downer again at 5 months. Depends on how long you've been together and how much love there was, and the reasons for splitting. Together for 15 year married for 6 it was the ultimate love she kept telling me that i was pushing her away with my moaning, but i just kept getting stoned and put all our troubles to the back of my head it took her to walk away for me to realise just how much i loved her.
GrayClouds Posted December 22, 2009 Posted December 22, 2009 I think i would take her back but i dont know if i could forget the other guy, and then i think feck that why should i even want her, not that she would come back as i believe she is falling for this ney guy. So can anyone tell me what stage i am at? It looks like denial. Though the whole stage is a misnomer, it more like a tumble down the hill, you really do not know where you are until your done rolling. Even then it is not a liner process. I am really sorry about your loss. The best thing now is to focus on yourself an trying to help you heal. The less you thingk of her and more on you an your kids the easier it will be. Get some exercise, stay away from the drugs, find a professional to talk to about the loss and possible why getting stone what such a priority. I wish you well.
Author worldcavedin Posted December 22, 2009 Author Posted December 22, 2009 It looks like denial. Though the whole stage is a misnomer, it more like a tumble down the hill, you really do not know where you are until your done rolling. Even then it is not a liner process. I am really sorry about your loss. The best thing now is to focus on yourself an trying to help you heal. The less you thingk of her and more on you an your kids the easier it will be. Get some exercise, stay away from the drugs, find a professional to talk to about the loss and possible why getting stone what such a priority. I wish you well. Thanks, i do exercise 3 or 4 times a week and have virtually cut the dope out only having 1 joint every 4 or 5 days basically out of peer pressure everyone i know smoke it. I dont know what a professional can do to help and the dope thing is just something i have always done smoked it for over 20 year now, and where i grew up it dope smoking is more acceptable than going to mass
GrayClouds Posted December 22, 2009 Posted December 22, 2009 Thanks, i do exercise 3 or 4 times a week and have virtually cut the dope out only having 1 joint every 4 or 5 days basically out of peer pressure everyone i know smoke it. Peer pressure ends in high school for most I dont know what a professional can do to help and the dope thing is just something i have always done smoked it for over 20 year now, and where i grew up it dope smoking is more acceptable than going to mass Yes but it is not really working for you any more. but i just kept getting stoned and put all our troubles to the back of my head A professional can help you understand why you choose to put all your troubles to the back of your head. Why you choose getting stoned over your relationship. Exercise is great, what other things are you doing to help with the pain?
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