poppy13 Posted December 21, 2009 Posted December 21, 2009 Lyrics from Ingrid Michaelson - "Maybe" I don’t wanna be the first to let it go But I know, I know, I know If you have the last hands that I want to hold Then I know, I’ve got, to let them go ‘Cause maybe in the future You’re gonna come back Gonna come back around Maybe in the future You’re gonna come back You’re gonna come back Oh the only way to really know Is to really let it go Maybe, you’re gonna come back, Is this ever really the solution? We do SO well together but I can feel it in my gut that things are not right. I know it may sound silly, but the only way I feel like I can let it go of him is if there is a chance that time, different circumstances and a little maturing (on both sides) will help to make things 'fall in place'. Honestly I don't know how else to walk away
Boundary Problem Posted December 21, 2009 Posted December 21, 2009 I like this song. Life is long, and who knows what the future holds. All we have is today. And sometimes in life we have to make wrenching choices. Choices that cost dearly to follow our beliefs. But in the end people often find their way back to each other. Why? Because some things are meant to be and people have a connection. What they choose to do with that connection is up to them. Sometimes people have to give up a wonderful connection for religious, family, illness and other difficult reasons. All you can do is enjoy the moment, and later enjoy the memories. No one can take your memories away from you. Even if you have to let go. But I think this concept has been tarnished with the Facebook/emotional affair generation. Technology has made it so easy for people to covertly communicate with past loves. And that is not my intention. If a couple truly loves each other, I don't see them wanting to cheat on a spouse. I would think they would wait until they were both free and then could focus on each other. When you have had 100%, how could you settle for 60% and sharing that person with someone else? That is why I could never understand cheating. I would rather just let go and if love comes back into my life, I can truly enjoy it, without it being at someone else's expense (ie the betrayed spouse). If it is true love, it doesn't need secrecy to thrive. If anything the secrecy is impossible because wouldn't you want to share with others how things are going in your love life?
boogieboy Posted December 21, 2009 Posted December 21, 2009 You cant break it off with someone hoping they will come back. Chances are when you break it off, you will keep in contact which will push them further away. A year down the line, or maybe ven months, you will most likely find someone new, with a clearer head, and you will see that you had to break up for a reason, and you wouldnt want to try again anyway. If YOU feel that something is off, chances are that the person you are with has emotionally checked out, and they would not want to try again ever anyway. Its like going back to work at a job that you quit and hated.
Author poppy13 Posted December 21, 2009 Author Posted December 21, 2009 I agree BP, today's world makes it hard to cut of contact. boogieboy, it's not like things are bad. In fact we are great when we are together, but I think both of us are 23 and I feel like there so much more in life tht we need to experience on our own. I'm wondering if I should try to break away now, before things become unfixable. I care about him so much and I know he cares about me. Gosh I just don't know...
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