xoxo88 Posted December 21, 2009 Posted December 21, 2009 I'm in a very weird place right now. I feel so bitter and empty. I have let go off my ex but still i can't let anyone else in. Until some time ago i knew i couldn't come close to a man because i was still holding onto my ex, but now...what is it? I'm not ready for a new relationship even though i have accepted there's nothing left to do about my past relationship and it's just over. Is this a natural phase of recovery when you just need time on your own or there might be something about the past which is holding me back and i don't even realize it?
CarrieT Posted December 21, 2009 Posted December 21, 2009 That is a very natural feeling and it is called "healing." You can still hurt and be over the past relationship but not be ready for a new one. I've been single for 18 months and while I am beginning to date, I haven't gone beyond second dates with anyone because I just don't feel ready to commence and let someone into my life. It is not weird at all. It is very healthy to be introspective and want to be a solid, healthy individual before engaging in a relationship.
Author xoxo88 Posted December 21, 2009 Author Posted December 21, 2009 Yeah that's pretty much how i feel. First i wanna work on myself before i let anyone else in. I don't have a problem with being single. I can wait for as long as it takes in order to be a whole person again and have a meaningful relationship. But it scares me a bit because right now i don't see myself loving and trusting somebody at the point of having a relationship with them. I guess i'm gonna have to suck it up throghout these days and just be patient until my mind and soul feel love "friendly" again.
bayouboi Posted December 21, 2009 Posted December 21, 2009 I know how you feel and I think that it's completely fine. I have alot of friends and family that want to hook me up with someone. They use phrases like "love" and "meant to be" when talking about relationships and I'm at a point in my life where I no longer believe in those things, I believe in people who are willing to work on a relationship and people who aren't. But like you, I know my last relationship is dead and gone, but I don't really feel the need to start over again with someone else yet.
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