nobmagnet Posted December 20, 2009 Posted December 20, 2009 Hello all im new to this part of love shack but if anyonecan helpme i would be very very grateful My ex had custody every other week at his parents house. (its where he lives till we sell our home) A month ago my 6yr old came home and asked meif she was fat. I said no not at all you are perfect why would you ask? She said grandma and grandad had told her she was. I was very upset as you can imagine. Why would they put a seed in her head like that?? Well she has been asking me why she is fat and I am so thin and I reply "Mummy is far too thin and you are just right" (which is true!) since i cant seem to get through to her that she is just right. any ideas how to convince her??? ta xx:(
Clep Posted January 11, 2010 Posted January 11, 2010 I would create scenarios to express to her that all that matters is what she thinks of herself. I feel this is a great learning experience for her. I would: 1. Buy clothes that were too big for her on purpose and then let her know that you were going by her description of herself when you purchased them. oops. Take her back with you and get the clothes a smaller size. 2. Get others to criticize you slightly in front of her, and then continue to believe your own view of yourself. Make sure you verbalize this 3. Make sure she feels good about herself in every other way. Provide her lots of encouragement in everything she does. 4. Start talking if you don't already about healthy eating and nutrition. I would incorporate that into every meal. You can then forget things you have already taught her and she can correct you. In this way you can thank her for aiding in you being healthy, and in maintaining a healthy body weight. If she can teach mom or dad about healthy body weight hers must be just right. 5. Show her some pictures of women with anorexia and let her know that they think they are fat. I would stress to her through multiple conversations that body weight is not more important than a healthy body. I don't know if any of these ideas may work, or if she is emotionally ready for any of them but here is what I have. Good luck with it.
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