Lost-n-confused Posted December 20, 2009 Posted December 20, 2009 Took a girl out on a few dates, when I called her for a third she was very standoffish. Some may remember my thread "she's interested but not interest". Anyways the general advice I recived from firends, family and LS was to go NC. Last I heard from her was two and a half weeks ago when she texted me an appology for being standoffish. So she called about an hour ago and left a message to call her. I'm working for 3 more hours and will call her afterwork. How should I play this?
Yukikazi Posted December 20, 2009 Posted December 20, 2009 Don't call her. She's tugging the leash....wait till she tries a second time to contact you before considering responding. But only if she calls.. don't call her or "call her back"
Author Lost-n-confused Posted December 20, 2009 Author Posted December 20, 2009 It's been two and a half a weeks. She called and left a message to call her back. If I'm rude and don't call her back then she probably won't ever call me again. Maybe she wants to just talk... Who knows maybe she wants to ask me out. Tomarrow we are both going to endup at a party maybe she wants to go together.. How so I know... Could be an opportunity.
Yukikazi Posted December 20, 2009 Posted December 20, 2009 Then call her. Dude we can only make suggestions.. in the end the choice is all yours. But if you are going to see her tomorrow anyways.. yea return the call. But keep it short.. 5 minutes or less.. Don't catch up over the phone.. save it for the party.
Author Lost-n-confused Posted December 20, 2009 Author Posted December 20, 2009 She was moving and knew my parents had a pickup... She found someone else. A min of chat then she had to go because she was moving into her new place. She said she would call me back... I won't hold my breath. She now lives 30 mins away and no longer goes to my gym. I doubt I will ever hear from her or see her again.
Yukikazi Posted December 20, 2009 Posted December 20, 2009 She was moving and knew my parents had a pickup... She found someone else. A min of chat then she had to go because she was moving into her new place. She said she would call me back... I won't hold my breath. She now lives 30 mins away and no longer goes to my gym. I doubt I will ever hear from her or see her again. All the better and easier for you
DustySaltus Posted December 20, 2009 Posted December 20, 2009 She was moving and knew my parents had a pickup... She found someone else. A min of chat then she had to go because she was moving into her new place. She said she would call me back... I won't hold my breath. She now lives 30 mins away and no longer goes to my gym. I doubt I will ever hear from her or see her again. So she called because she needed something? That's a new one. This girl sounds like a rubix cube from what i've read in the past. you saved yourseld future frustration trying to figure this out. What happened with the other girl at the party?
boogieboy Posted December 20, 2009 Posted December 20, 2009 She was moving and knew my parents had a pickup... She found someone else. A min of chat then she had to go because she was moving into her new place. She said she would call me back... I won't hold my breath. She now lives 30 mins away and no longer goes to my gym. I doubt I will ever hear from her or see her again. UGH! What nerve! If she wants to use you for the truck, then she hasnt been interested in you for a while. No wonder she didnt say what she wanted over hte voice mail.
Author Lost-n-confused Posted December 21, 2009 Author Posted December 21, 2009 She's has some balls. If I was available and she called just for that I would of made an excuse up. If she would of left a message asking, I would of never called back. She like a broken rubix cube. Someone moved the stickers around so it impossible to solve. The girl I meet at the party... I messaged her friend. She told me shes going to contact her to see if its ok for her to give me her number. That was two days ago... Yet she is a single mother of two so she has priorities. So who knows if she contacted her or not. I assume she's not going to contact me to tell me the girl doesn't want me to have her number. As for the match.com girl she hasn't contacted me and its been 5 days... She hasn't been on match.com in 3 days either. She asked for my number and now she has it. Idk.. Things aren't working out... Could be the holidays.. So who knows maybe ill get the number of the girl at the party and maybe the match.com girl will call me.
Author Lost-n-confused Posted December 25, 2009 Author Posted December 25, 2009 She texted me this morning. "Hey our last conversation seemed to have a lil tension I hope we can be friends have fun with family these days :)" My reply "Sure no problem we can be friends. Merry Xmas" Why does she even bother texting me? Is she trying to keep the door open for future possibility or does she just feel bad for calling me after two and a half weeks just to get my help? If that's the case I know she doesn't feel bad for hurting my feeling but she just doesnt want to feel like shes a ****ty person. She so indecisive and self centered. She did this before after she shot me down for the third date. Texting me shes sorry for being so standoffish. She just doesnt want to feel like crap. I can imagin her siting alone in her new place on xmas eve thinking "Gee Im a real crappy person, this great guy was really interested and I shot him down and called him just for help. I better text him so I dont feel so bad". F*cking Bit*ch!
TheBritishGuy Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 Youre right about her but you know what your mistake was? Texting her back.
Author Lost-n-confused Posted December 25, 2009 Author Posted December 25, 2009 I figured why not... If I wouldn't not of texted her she would probably never text me or call me again. My text was basically cocky and careless. If she thought about it for one min she could conclude that I don't give a **** about her or her friendship. Saying "Sure no problem" to me means Hey whatever I don't give a ****, you didn't hurt my feelings. Telling her I want to be friends doesn't mean **** either. Two short texts don't mean anything. I'm just keeping the door open.
TheBritishGuy Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 I am curious why you are keeping the door open. From what you've put across she seems like a very horrible person that you will never have any sort of real bond or friendship with. Why not cut her loose and move on and get past that drama?
Author Lost-n-confused Posted December 25, 2009 Author Posted December 25, 2009 I have moved on, I don't contacted her at all, and I never think about her. Yet on the few dates we went on I had so much fun with her. If one day she changes her mind and wants to date and shows positive interest maybe ill have a change of heart. If I'm not with someone by then. To be fair she did tell me when I first asked her out that she wasn't looking for a relationship and I treated everything like I wanted a relationship. She knows I wanted her and she backed off. Yet we never once talked about it. Her actions suggest that she likes me but isn't currently interested in dating me, but she doesn't want to permanently close the door on me. I'm so far back on her back burner. I dont think she will call me to just talk or hang out. She has to suspect that after that text she sent me that if she called I will deffinity ask questions. It doesn't bother me thou. I'm more interested two other girls. One I met at a party who's number I didn't get and have to go thought a friend and a girl I met online. Neither situation looks good at all.
Yukikazi Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 Shoulda skipped the "we can be friends" part imo
TheBritishGuy Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 To be honest with you I think you are putting yourself in a situation were you can be strung along. I mean she is a vindictive manipulative sort who broke NC because she wanted to use you for her own gain and now that is done its back to normal. If you keep her around she'll think she has you by the balls as long as you refuse to break ties with her for the way she is behaving.
skydiveaddict Posted December 25, 2009 Posted December 25, 2009 spare yourself the grief dude. she's nothing but a selfish little bitch dont EVER contact her again for ANY reason
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