wallbuilder Posted December 20, 2009 Posted December 20, 2009 I am just divorced for about a year and have been in relationship that did not go well. I feel I need to build a wall to protect myself from further hurt and pain.
Boundary Problem Posted December 20, 2009 Posted December 20, 2009 Good luck. Some people are like water. You build the best brick wall. And they seep in through the cracks. It is hopeless. May as well build the wall, but put in a doorway. Once someone has earned my trust, I give them a key to the door and they come and go as they please. But to earn the key to the front door, they have to have the ability to seep through the cracks. Few are able to do so. Very few. Ok one. And if they break my trust, then I change the locks and they have to start again. I think most of us commitment-phobes are the same. Very Very slow to trust, but once we do, we are loyal.
nobmagnet Posted December 20, 2009 Posted December 20, 2009 even writting this is sounds sh*t. here goes................if you never want to feel the pleasure of a relationship again then build your wall. I have been hurt more times than I care to remember but it wont build a wall. I might never get the chance to feel love again....................i dont want to do that. xx
EricaH329 Posted December 20, 2009 Posted December 20, 2009 So many times I wished the same thing. That I could build a wall and never get attached to someone. What I learned though, is that i'm just not cut out for that. I couldn't force myself into building a wall that really wasn't there. After my ex and I broke up, there was a wall that was built without me even trying. Maybe it was just because I wasn't ready to date again, so I wasn't able to feel anything for anyone. It slowly started to crumble though. I think that you can't force something like that. You are either the type of person that has emotional walls, or you aren't. And if you aren't... there's no way of building one that remains permanent. Plus, why would you really want to do that? Don't you enjoy the feeling of being attached to someone? Even though in the end it hurts like hell, isn't it wonderful to be able to say that you have actually experienced that emotion?
Simon Attwood Posted December 20, 2009 Posted December 20, 2009 Some people you meet, will have their walls firmly in place. Some people you meet, will want to let you in, until you get too close to seeing things in them that they themselves dislike about themselves and you've never seen a wall go up so fast. Very few people have the courage to live without walls. Yes it takes a lot of courage ..
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