Miko Posted December 20, 2009 Posted December 20, 2009 So I'm sitting at home on saturday night b/c I been partying for 3 days for various reasons and I randomly text this girl I met at the fast food window like a YEAR ago. The first night I got her # we texted like 150 times while she was working & after, probably all night which was fun. I was being a dirtbag trying to get her to come over at like 1AM & I didn't know her. I text her randomly maybe every month or 2 for a year. So she says hi back and we text every minute or so for 4 HOURS, probably hundreds of messages and now we're hanging out i guess. Never even talked on the phone, which is cool with me b/c I absolutely loathe it until you hung out once at least and you know their expressions & such. THE single most awkward thing ever if you hate phones especially. Anyway, I thought it's really weird that this worked out AT ALL. Maybe it's b/c she's a bit younger (8 years) and anyone under a certain age these days text like LUDICROUS amounts & doesn't mind but it was a super fun way to kill 4 hours chilling at home. So that's my story, I never really thought we'd actually hang out but texting for hours and hours, assuming you have reason to believe you're physically attracted & pics & so forth, can be pretty kick ass b/c it's like spending a night together in a twisted, let's keep each other on hold for a while sort of way. LOL
meerkat stew Posted December 20, 2009 Posted December 20, 2009 A 38 y.o. woman I was dating in 2007 texted me over 900 times in one month. I answered every 5 or 6 texts, but that experience broke me from the "magic" of texting for good.
mixwell Posted December 20, 2009 Posted December 20, 2009 Damn bro all I have to say is I hope you have an unlimited text plan with your cell phone carrier Seriously though why don't you attempt to meet/hang out with her in person ?
SoulSearch_CO Posted December 20, 2009 Posted December 20, 2009 Ha. I've had a couple of months with 3,000 SMS for the month with the guy I'm seeing. He initiates most of it. I like it, though. Obviously he likes it, or he wouldn't keep doing it. LOL Texting is not so evil.
v g Posted December 20, 2009 Posted December 20, 2009 A 38 y.o. woman I was dating in 2007 texted me over 900 times in one month. I answered every 5 or 6 texts, but that experience broke me from the "magic" of texting for good. Relationship by text isn't my idea of fun.
sunshine94 Posted December 21, 2009 Posted December 21, 2009 A 38 y.o. woman I was dating in 2007 texted me over 900 times in one month. I answered every 5 or 6 texts, but that experience broke me from the "magic" of texting for good. Why did you answer every 5-6 texts? I met a guy recently online and I send him lots of emails while he answers every few emails. Sometimes I think if I send him an email that does not really intrest him he will not answer, he only answers emails that is of interest to him. Then again he is a very busy guy career wise. At times I am puzzled about this, but I do still think that he is interested in me else he would not answer at all. What do you think about this?
confusedmuch Posted December 21, 2009 Posted December 21, 2009 Why did you answer every 5-6 texts? I met a guy recently online and I send him lots of emails while he answers every few emails. Sometimes I think if I send him an email that does not really intrest him he will not answer, he only answers emails that is of interest to him. Then again he is a very busy guy career wise. At times I am puzzled about this, but I do still think that he is interested in me else he would not answer at all. What do you think about this? Uh, Sunshine? Why were you sending him more than one email at a time? Send him one, wait for an answer then send him another. If he's not interested, he won't respond to that single email you sent. Personally, I lose interest quickly in a guy that sends me a bunch of texts in a row without waiting for me to respond to the first one he sent. It reeks of desperation!
sunshine94 Posted December 21, 2009 Posted December 21, 2009 Uh, Sunshine? Why were you sending him more than one email at a time? Send him one, wait for an answer then send him another. If he's not interested, he won't respond to that single email you sent. Personally, I lose interest quickly in a guy that sends me a bunch of texts in a row without waiting for me to respond to the first one he sent. It reeks of desperation! I send him an email wait a day or two/three and then send another one. He generally says that he is very busy, which he is. I guess I am hanging on to the hope that if he was not interested he would not answer at all. This is really a very nice guy, so I am hoping that it is only because he is so busy.
Kamille Posted December 21, 2009 Posted December 21, 2009 Glad it worked out Miko! Now, sorry for the threadjack: This is really a very nice guy, so I am hoping that it is only because he is so busy. Or he could be really nice and feels bad for not answering at all. The only way to know for sure if he's interested is to revert to more balanced contact style. Send and email and wait for his response.
sunshine94 Posted December 22, 2009 Posted December 22, 2009 Glad it worked out Miko! Or he could be really nice and feels bad for not answering at all. The only way to know for sure if he's interested is to revert to more balanced contact style. Send and email and wait for his response. I think you are right, he feels bad for not answering at all. He is a very polite, kind and considerate person. I will back off with sending so much emails and see what he does, just hope he does not stop sending me emails.
Kamille Posted December 22, 2009 Posted December 22, 2009 I think you are right, he feels bad for not answering at all. He is a very polite, kind and considerate person. I will back off with sending so much emails and see what he does, just hope he does not stop sending me emails. You could ask him out. Or are you hoping he'll do that?
sunshine94 Posted December 22, 2009 Posted December 22, 2009 You could ask him out. Or are you hoping he'll do that? I live in St Maarten (Dutch Caribbean) and he lives in the USA. We met while he was on vacation in St Maarten. He wants to come back on vacation soon, but because he is so busy with his work he has not been able to make it back. He does keep saying that he is looking forward to seeing me again. Don't know if he is just being polite again.
meerkat stew Posted December 22, 2009 Posted December 22, 2009 Why did you answer every 5-6 texts? Because I was actually dating her at the time, and we were already spending 2-3 days a week together. Had never heard the phrase "personality disorder" before that rollercoaster of a relationship, or would not likely have wasted so much time with that one.
Kamille Posted December 22, 2009 Posted December 22, 2009 I live in St Maarten (Dutch Caribbean) and he lives in the USA. We met while he was on vacation in St Maarten. He wants to come back on vacation soon, but because he is so busy with his work he has not been able to make it back. He does keep saying that he is looking forward to seeing me again. Don't know if he is just being polite again. I love St-Marteen! Visited last year as a tourist - loved having French Bakeries and Dutch pubs in a Carribean setting. I didn't realize you were keeping in touch with this guy long-distance and had already met. Now it makes more sense. I always seem to write to my bf more than he writes to me when I'm away (as I am now). Scale it back and keep it light. Who knows what the future holds.
sunshine94 Posted December 22, 2009 Posted December 22, 2009 I love St-Marteen! Visited last year as a tourist - loved having French Bakeries and Dutch pubs in a Carribean setting. The french pastries are to die for. I eat them often. He also loves St Maarten, and wants to come back soon. I really hope we can work something out as I like this guy.
TheLoneSock Posted December 22, 2009 Posted December 22, 2009 So I'm sitting at home on saturday night b/c I been partying for 3 days for various reasons and I randomly text this girl I met at the fast food window like a YEAR ago. The first night I got her # we texted like 150 times while she was working & after, probably all night which was fun. I was being a dirtbag trying to get her to come over at like 1AM & I didn't know her. I text her randomly maybe every month or 2 for a year. So she says hi back and we text every minute or so for 4 HOURS, probably hundreds of messages and now we're hanging out i guess. Never even talked on the phone, which is cool with me b/c I absolutely loathe it until you hung out once at least and you know their expressions & such. THE single most awkward thing ever if you hate phones especially. Anyway, I thought it's really weird that this worked out AT ALL. Maybe it's b/c she's a bit younger (8 years) and anyone under a certain age these days text like LUDICROUS amounts & doesn't mind but it was a super fun way to kill 4 hours chilling at home. So that's my story, I never really thought we'd actually hang out but texting for hours and hours, assuming you have reason to believe you're physically attracted & pics & so forth, can be pretty kick ass b/c it's like spending a night together in a twisted, let's keep each other on hold for a while sort of way. LOL Lol? IMO it's much easier to take things the wrong way through texts than actual phone conversations. Texts can be misinterpreted in so many more ways than speech can. At least in a phone conversation you get vocal tones, real laughter, and quicker reaction times. Your logic just seems funny to me. Neat story though.
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