Ruguxy Posted December 20, 2009 Posted December 20, 2009 Hello. I was with the same person for 2 years. I was the first girl that met his family and he even purchased the house that I picked out. We had a great relationship and bonded very well and loved eachother very much. He is a natural flirt and that drove me away. I recently broke up with him and moved everything out. The day after we broke up he told me that he hopes in 2 to 3 months even 6 we realize we need eachother and come back into eachothers lives." we didn't talk much until that Sunday when I asked why he hadnt been talking and if he had met someone he said; "I told you we are moving on and time will tell if we end up back together. We need our time." I went to get the rest of my things that same day. He unlocked the door before I got there because he said it would be to hard for him to see him take my things. I said "I wish you couldve been here to say goobye to me. I think you are a wonderful person and I wish you the best of luck." he said "you know we will talk soon." I didn't text him, he texted me and I would respond with small talk..one liners. Now that Saturday I texted him saying I do miss him and hope he is good. he said that he loves me and always will and he is sorry that we need this time apart...and called me by my pet name. He messaged me again saying Sunday was super hard for him. Finally, I broke down and wrote him a message. He read it and responded back to me via text and said that made him really sad but we need time because we had so much good yet so much bad in our relationship. I told him to quit focusing on the bad because we gave eachother so much good. He said valid point....and that he loves me so much and then said I hope and think someday, time will tell if we will spend our lives together.. How confusing! Where did our love for eachother go?
jms76 Posted December 20, 2009 Posted December 20, 2009 Rug, Sounds to me that he is asking you to sit tight on the back burner while he explores what else is out there? What do you think? Also, if he was a "flirt" and it bothered you, did you ever address this with him before breaking it off? Often lack of communication is a relationship killer (as I'm finding out myself). My only advice and I'm sure the LS community would agree, is to stop contacting him and start to heal. It's natural to do what you've been doing but it's not helping and it sounds like he is sending a clear message that "only time will tell". Don't give him the security of knowing that you are waiting around for him.
HeavenOrHell Posted December 20, 2009 Posted December 20, 2009 Good post, I agree with all of this. Rug, Sounds to me that he is asking you to sit tight on the back burner while he explores what else is out there? What do you think? Also, if he was a "flirt" and it bothered you, did you ever address this with him before breaking it off? Often lack of communication is a relationship killer (as I'm finding out myself). My only advice and I'm sure the LS community would agree, is to stop contacting him and start to heal. It's natural to do what you've been doing but it's not helping and it sounds like he is sending a clear message that "only time will tell". Don't give him the security of knowing that you are waiting around for him.
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