scenester Posted December 20, 2009 Posted December 20, 2009 So for the sake of names, I'm using - A, B, C, D, E, etc... Okay so I've been talking to Girl A for about a month or so. We connected very well. Everything was GREAT relationship wise. Last Saturday I start to slowly see her losing interest - less texts, short answers, unavailable, etc... So I start to initiate the texts more, and she is just showing low interest. I suspect something is up. I simply ask her if she liked someone else one night and she replied confidently, "I like a few people right now, I just got out of a long relationship and one that ended poorly so I'm still trying to get things together." I simply said "Okay, I can understand that." She is still showing lack of interest. So, basically I'm texting Girl A, then she says she cant text in that class. Her best friend Girl B texts me asking whats up with me and Girl A. I said what do you mean? She replies oh nevermind. I asked her again what she meant and then she just bails and doesn't text back. A couple mins after that Girl A texts me saying she can text again. After that day she was really short with everything I said, showed no interest, was blown off twice when I asked her to hangout. So I start doing the same thing. A couple days later I find out that Girl A (Mine) is hooking up with and dating Girl B's boyfriend's cousin. !!! What I'm thinking here is that Girl B prob said something to Girl A about this guy (her bfs cousin) and wanted to hook him up with her. So this is why Girl B texted me what was up hoping i said we werent "talking" anymore so that would give Girl A the right away to hook up with the other guy without feeling guilty or looking bad. Because she never really gave me a clear answer just gave me that i just got out of a long relationship bull**** and I never questioned her either I just gave her the "Whatever, IDC message." After relizing this I really want to just say something to both of them just to feel soo ****ty. I want something clevar haha. I don't care about Girl A so I dont want to try to get back, its clear she used me for attention, but anyways some clevar things to say to them? Thanks!
boogieboy Posted December 20, 2009 Posted December 20, 2009 They dont care what you say to them now because anything you say will be seen as pathetic and desperate. Your best bet is to not text them anymore at all. Erase their numbers, so that if they text you, you can was "who is this?" Thats the best thing to do. Or if they text you, just ignore them from now on. Ignoring a woman stings more than anything.
Author scenester Posted December 20, 2009 Author Posted December 20, 2009 You didn't lose a red cent in the end. Consider yourself very lucky and just move on. You didn't get played bad AT ALL. The sort of minor duplicity you experienced is the cost of doing business with women. Haha yes, but I'm still young and it's the worst I in particular have been played.
stevejohnson1976 Posted December 20, 2009 Posted December 20, 2009 They dont care what you say to them now because anything you say will be seen as pathetic and desperate. Your best bet is to not text them anymore at all. Erase their numbers, so that if they text you, you can was "who is this?" Thats the best thing to do. Or if they text you, just ignore them from now on. Ignoring a woman stings more than anything. this^^^^^^^
Angel1111 Posted December 20, 2009 Posted December 20, 2009 I don't really get how you were played so badly. The next time a girl stops showing interest - and then does it over and over again, stop acting like there's something of value between the two of you. As a matter of fact, back off completely. She also told you in so many words that she wasn't settling on anyone. Who knows if the cousin thing is going to work out or not? I think she felt you were too possessive and possibly strung you along - some for attention, and some because she didn't want to hurt you. Again, learn to read the signals.
boogieboy Posted December 20, 2009 Posted December 20, 2009 Heres the golden rule Scenester for new daters...when you feel them pull back...you pull back further. Watch how well that works.
Author scenester Posted December 20, 2009 Author Posted December 20, 2009 Heres the golden rule Scenester for new daters...when you feel them pull back...you pull back further. Watch how well that works. Thats exactly what I did.
meerkat stew Posted December 20, 2009 Posted December 20, 2009 Back away from the text. Slowly put down the phone and just back away. Once you are at a safe distance, turn and run up the nearest tree or telephone pole. The text will likely not climb up after you.
Angel1111 Posted December 20, 2009 Posted December 20, 2009 Thats exactly what I did. No you didn't. You backed off a little. Next time, walk away completely.
Author scenester Posted December 20, 2009 Author Posted December 20, 2009 No you didn't. You backed off a little. Next time, walk away completely. Alrighty. Thanks.
Rhythmic Posted December 20, 2009 Posted December 20, 2009 Haha yes, but I'm still young and it's the worst I in particular have been played. Then consider yourself lucky. The best way to get back at her is to go ahead and move on to other girls. She wouldn't give you a direct answer because she is hoping to keep you on the backburner in case things go south with her current hookup attempt.
Author scenester Posted December 20, 2009 Author Posted December 20, 2009 Thanks everyone for their input! Any others?
DustySaltus Posted December 20, 2009 Posted December 20, 2009 Don't give them the time of day. Go find Girl "C" and let A and B continue to be their shady selves. You know, instead of playing all these stupid games all she had to say was that she wasn't interested. Yeah, it would suck but at least they show you some respect. Instead it becomes a bunch of smoke and mirrors, texting and useless phone callsIt's amazing what people will do when they have no backbone...you don't want a woman like this. lesson learned.
bac Posted December 21, 2009 Posted December 21, 2009 Do not text so much. Why do you text to girls? Why don't you go for something physical with girls? IMHO girls, who are real, would want to do smth real with a guy. My guess is that she just used you for attention. In other words, because of you, everywhere she went, she could display to everyone how she was cool and popular because of typing answers to your texts.
Author scenester Posted December 21, 2009 Author Posted December 21, 2009 Hm, the one thing I don't get is that she openly admitted to me she really liked me, and I could tell. And everything was PERFECT relationship-wise. But why would she wanna go and do this? Why would she just wanna ruin everything.
Rhythmic Posted December 21, 2009 Posted December 21, 2009 Hm, the one thing I don't get is that she openly admitted to me she really liked me, and I could tell. And everything was PERFECT relationship-wise. But why would she wanna go and do this? Why would she just wanna ruin everything. Because the new guy seems a tad bit better than you. That is also why she is stringing you along. She won't tell you outright she found somebody else she wants to hook up with and risk you go off somewhere else unless she knows it is going to work out with the new guy. You are mr. backup right now.
JustLooking123 Posted December 21, 2009 Posted December 21, 2009 Did you guys actually have an established relationship? Did you have a discussion about being exclusive? If not, I'm not sure how you got "played"... Next time a girl showed decreasing interest, pull back instead of continuing to contact her the same amount or more.
seibert253 Posted December 21, 2009 Posted December 21, 2009 Heres the golden rule Scenester for new daters...when you feel them pull back...you pull back further. Watch how well that works. ^^^^^^ This right here. If she's bailing on you, it'll die it's own death.
Author scenester Posted December 21, 2009 Author Posted December 21, 2009 Well, she isn't going to be stringing me along any further, cause I'm done with her.
Author scenester Posted December 22, 2009 Author Posted December 22, 2009 I'm just kinda doubting myself, idk why she would wanna do this.
Author scenester Posted December 28, 2009 Author Posted December 28, 2009 She definitely found someone else. Should I talk to her in the future if she contacts me?
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