thatguy90 Posted December 20, 2009 Posted December 20, 2009 Hi Guys/Girls I was dumped and everything I know how you guys feel, you want to talk to them you want to try and get them back. It does hurt a lot when you lose them, but if you want them back or want to get over them. Here are some steps that you should do. 1st. This is the big one, it is hard, but delete everything off of your cell phone, any texts you got from them, her phone number, if you feel like you will forget it, write it down and put it in a box along with everything that reminds you of them. Get rid of everything that reminds you of them, put in a box, and put it in a place which it won't get destroyed but you won't be tempted to look at it constantly, I put mine in my closet and put stuff on top of it so I can't see it. Also DON'T TALK TO THEM!! It will help both of you, make them miss you and such etc. 2nd. Do different things, go hang around with friends, go out to the gym, keep yourself busy, and try to different things that you have never done before. Because sitting around and just thinking about it is the worst thing you can do, please note I have been there and done that. It is the best thing you can do. 3rd. Post something on this blog spot, people can give you advice, help you, plus sometimes it does feel good just to vent, and this is a good spot to do. If you don't want to post it here, write it out on your computer, or in a safe spot. The more you keep inside you it will ruin who you are, and make him/her think that they made the right choice. But don't tell them about it they either don't care or they do care, but it won't make them come back to you. No Contact will help you, that is what NC is. It does help with things a bit. 4th. Here look at this link ... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t212970/ It is murphy's law to break ups, it will help. 5th. Your family can help, talk to them also your best friend, even close coworkers, people are there that can help you, we have all gone through breaks up, good and bad ones, they can help you give you advice what to do, and say what is a good idea, but don't just do because they say it, do it because it was you want, and what you think is right, I did some stuff because people told me that it would make it better, but in the end it made it worse and stuff. So please use your discretion. 6th. Hang in there, you will find another one, if you are meant to be you will be back together, but not now, so you have to move on, the old saying is "If you love something you have to let it go ... if it comes back it was meant to be ... if it does not come back it was never meant to be" You can't control them, they have made there decision.
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