brady67 Posted December 20, 2009 Posted December 20, 2009 Alright, this might be a tad long, sorry. I met this guy early June. We started talking everyday/night since.. he was on summer break from his college and we had time to talk a lot. He'd call before he went to bed, and he'd text me those sweet names (sweetie, darlin, etc) I didn't think too much of it but after about a month of that, then I started to get a bit attached to him. He asked me to hang out with him the night that he went away for college, and during us hanging out, he told me that he didn't want to date me just yet because he doesn't want to hurt me with him studying all the time and not being able to see me at all (he was away at school) he told me that it's not other girls, because he's not like that. (He's really not) So he went to school, we'd talk a lot like before.. then.. it started to fizzle.. I got clingy at that time because I didn't want to lose him.. it scared me.. I didn't understand how much he really was studying.. so he got angry with me and told me that I needed to stop being so clingy, and I asked him if we would ever be anything in the future, and he said at the rate of it now, no, with me being clingy. I backed off for about a week, and he came running back to me.. calling a lot etc. We talked about dating another time and he said to wait till he got out in December and everything will be better. And that I shouldn't go getting too attached to him, "just yet at least" He doesn't want me hooking up with other people, and he knows I feel the same about him.. About 2 weeks before he got out of school we started texting all the time again, the phone calls before he went to bed, all the good stuff. He doesn't call me sweetie no more though which sucks... Now that he's out of school, he's just recently out though, came home yesterday, we've been talking like normally.. and I'm just so antsy to hang out with him.. I see a bit of jealousy in him, (we both fish and we get on the chat to talk to people on there), if someone talks about a guy or says something about someone flirting with me, he'll send me a message like "oh people flirting" or something stupid, and he makes it like a joke, or.. he'll say "that guy always flirts with you", or I told him that I got asked out on a date, and he was asking who, and then said "cool, go"...what the heck!? I am confused about his behavior, he said it'll be better after he gets out, he's out now.. so I'm waiting and waiting, I really like this guy and I want to be his girlfriend since to me it seems as if we are dating in a way ya know? I want to bring it up to him face to face though, and I'd rather HIM bring it up, everytime we talked about it, it was him who brought it up, not me. I mean, is he genually interested in me? Is there anyway I can figure out his true feelings for me without asking haha.. I want to know what's going on without bluntly asking.. I'm going to ask, just not yet.
boogieboy Posted December 20, 2009 Posted December 20, 2009 Ah you want to find out if he is really into you without risking being rejected? No that wont happen. If you ask him, you already know he will most likely say no. So you can wait for him to be ready to tell you what you want, it will be torture, but if youre afraid of rejection, thats the torture you have to endure. But since he wont say he wants to be exclusive despite the distance, he is protecting his own feelings, if he even has any for you.
Author brady67 Posted December 20, 2009 Author Posted December 20, 2009 Ah you want to find out if he is really into you without risking being rejected? No that wont happen. If you ask him, you already know he will most likely say no. So you can wait for him to be ready to tell you what you want, it will be torture, but if youre afraid of rejection, thats the torture you have to endure. But since he wont say he wants to be exclusive despite the distance, he is protecting his own feelings, if he even has any for you. I know I'm going to have to go through with it and ask, but... I want to wait for the perfect time I guess.. Why would he be protecting his own feelings?
boogieboy Posted December 20, 2009 Posted December 20, 2009 I know I'm going to have to go through with it and ask, but... I want to wait for the perfect time I guess.. Why would he be protecting his own feelings? Well if he was talking to you that long and that often, then he wasnt talking to you just for sex. Maybe he really does like you, but maybe hes the possessive type that will get attached, and it sucks to really want to see someone but you cant cuz youre away. Or he could just be using that as an excuse for finding someone else and keeping you on the backburner. Makes sense since he got jealous when you said you were asked out on a date.
Author brady67 Posted December 20, 2009 Author Posted December 20, 2009 Well if he was talking to you that long and that often, then he wasnt talking to you just for sex. Maybe he really does like you, but maybe hes the possessive type that will get attached, and it sucks to really want to see someone but you cant cuz youre away. Or he could just be using that as an excuse for finding someone else and keeping you on the backburner. Makes sense since he got jealous when you said you were asked out on a date. That actually makes sense.. I know he's very dominate, which is good for me because I like dominate guys, he's not MEAN with it, he's a sweetheart but he's a very strong minded person, which I love in guys. So maybe you're right.. I'll just wait for the perfect time to come out and give it a shot, if it happens then good, if not, then I move on simple as that thanks And no he's not trying to find someone else, he barely talks to girls as it is.. doesn't really hang out with any.. I'm honestly almost the only one he really talks too
boogieboy Posted December 20, 2009 Posted December 20, 2009 And no he's not trying to find someone else, he barely talks to girls as it is.. doesn't really hang out with any.. I'm honestly almost the only one he really talks too Eh, you dont know that if he doesnt want to tell you. If he slows down in texting you, then he most likely is texting someone else. Dont believe him just because he says it. Actions determine everything. He knows that if he told you he was talking to other girls that you might move on. So he could very well be talking to people on the sly. I mean, you said hes in town now, and you guys havent hung out much right?
Author brady67 Posted December 20, 2009 Author Posted December 20, 2009 Eh, you dont know that if he doesnt want to tell you. If he slows down in texting you, then he most likely is texting someone else. Dont believe him just because he says it. Actions determine everything. He knows that if he told you he was talking to other girls that you might move on. So he could very well be talking to people on the sly. I mean, you said hes in town now, and you guys havent hung out much right? Yeah there was a break in us talking, and i know that's a possibility, but he's not one to lie to say one thing to make me stick around. Like.. we've been texting/calling all the time now, and when we aren't I know what he's doing, wether it be testing, eating, working etc.. I mean he COULD be lying yes.. and he just got home last night, in the evening, and then had to sleep early because he went out this morning.. was out all day basically, trying to hang out tomorrow.
boogieboy Posted December 20, 2009 Posted December 20, 2009 Yeah there was a break in us talking, and i know that's a possibility, but he's not one to lie to say one thing to make me stick around. Like.. we've been texting/calling all the time now, and when we aren't I know what he's doing, wether it be testing, eating, working etc.. I mean he COULD be lying yes.. and he just got home last night, in the evening, and then had to sleep early because he went out this morning.. was out all day basically, trying to hang out tomorrow. Well thats cool, just a matter of time before you talk to him and let him know what you want.
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