PapiK24 Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 Hi, guys. So, here's the thing. I'm a teenager, 18, and I'm attracted to a girl in my school. We haven't met. I don't know much about her and we don't have any mutual friends. Also, she goes to school in the morning while I do so in the afternoon. The question is how to introduce myself. I have already come up with a few ideas but I want to see what other people can say about it. Please don't judge me too harshly, I'm young and relatively unexperienced. Thanks. Edit: Wow, this makes me look like a total loser.
Angel1111 Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 You're not a loser - it's really tough to walk up to a virtual stranger and strike up a conversation. But that's basically what you might have to do since the two of you don't have any mutual friends, and it seems you don't have an opportunity to get to know her in class or anything. Maybe if you see her walking to class with a bunch of books, offer to help her. Or, when you see her in the hall, just say hi to her and keep walking, then the next time, say hi again but stop and ask her her name. You know, just little meetings like that until you become familiar to her. Or observe situations that might give you an easy way to talk to her. Hope that helps.
Author PapiK24 Posted December 20, 2009 Author Posted December 20, 2009 You're not a loser - it's really tough to walk up to a virtual stranger and strike up a conversation. But that's basically what you might have to do since the two of you don't have any mutual friends, and it seems you don't have an opportunity to get to know her in class or anything. Maybe if you see her walking to class with a bunch of books, offer to help her. Or, when you see her in the hall, just say hi to her and keep walking, then the next time, say hi again but stop and ask her her name. You know, just little meetings like that until you become familiar to her. Or observe situations that might give you an easy way to talk to her. Hope that helps. Thanks for your answer. I had an entirely different concept in mind. I thought about starting a conversation the next time I see her and tell her... something... I don't know what exactly. Maybe that I've noticed her among all others and I like what she does (charity stuff). Would that scare her off? That books thing doesn't sound too bad but, as I said, we don't go to school at the same time of the day (I'm not American and here, in my country, there are "shifts" so half of the classes take place in the morning and the other half - in the afternoon). I could try saying "hi" a couple of times although I'm extremely shy. Also, we don't cross paths very often. I didn't mention this in my previous post but whenever I see her I can't stop staring and she could've noticed. So... yeah, a creepy guy staring at you and trying to talk to you is not what I want to be taken for.
Bejita463 Posted December 20, 2009 Posted December 20, 2009 So... yeah, a creepy guy staring at you and trying to talk to you is not what I want to be taken for. Then stop staring and start talking. Is it easy? Not at first, honestly. It is hard to approach someone you are interested in because you care what they think, and approaching them might end with negative results. After all, if you don't approach, you always have the "what if" with no chance of the negative outcome. Course, if you don't ever talk to the girl, you'll never get that positive response you hope for either. You'll still only have that 'what if'. Would you prefer to risk rejection, or to always wonder?
Zaraki Posted December 20, 2009 Posted December 20, 2009 I just would like to add that this is not ONLY a teen issue. This is a LIFE issue that most guys have to go through. You're not the only one. I have a problem with this too.
Angel1111 Posted December 20, 2009 Posted December 20, 2009 I had an entirely different concept in mind. I thought about starting a conversation the next time I see her and tell her... something... I don't know what exactly. Maybe that I've noticed her among all others and I like what she does (charity stuff). Would that scare her off? Then what about getting involved in the charity work that she's involved in?
Author PapiK24 Posted December 20, 2009 Author Posted December 20, 2009 Bejita463, I agree 110%. Then what about getting involved in the charity work that she's involved in? I've thought about it. See, assuming she has noticed me staring and bla-bla, wouldn't it seem too convenient that I happen to join that charity club (which doesn't have many members btw)? Seriously, there is something wrong with me. That is waaay to far-fetched.
Angel1111 Posted December 20, 2009 Posted December 20, 2009 Bejita463, I agree 110%. I've thought about it. See, assuming she has noticed me staring and bla-bla, wouldn't it seem too convenient that I happen to join that charity club (which doesn't have many members btw)? Seriously, there is something wrong with me. That is waaay to far-fetched. It's not far-fetched unless you think it is. Then do what the others suggested - just walk up to her and talk to her. I've had lots of guys stare at me and I never thought they were psychos because of that. Just bite the bullet and talk to her and ask her out. If you don't, you'll never have a chance with her. Even if she rejects you, at least you can't say you didn't try.
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