Peaceful Guy Posted December 21, 2009 Posted December 21, 2009 Do guys even have friend zones? well, friendzone implies that one person wants to be romantic, and the other just wants a friend.. so yeah, it happens all the time. Or, if a girl is attractive and the guy is heterosexual is being close friends more of a friends first kind of thing to them? in my experience the guy (me:)), its romantic from the start.. i might try to get to know the woman first.. like, is this really such a good idea??.. but then, after that, if we're still friends, then one of us is clueless.. er, not to say that if at one point im attracted to a woman we can't just be friends after, just that its probably healthy to move on/get some distance for a bit until the feelings subside.. Someone told me guys pick their close female friends the same way they pick their potential partners. sort of.. but the order is different.. when im interested romantically, physical attraction comes first, followed by getting to know their personality.. when its a friendship, im usually first attracted to their personality first..
gypsy_nicky Posted December 21, 2009 Posted December 21, 2009 I have a female roommate.. she's hot and fun and interesting.. but not my type.. she is my friend.. nothing more and I can't picture/imagine sleeping with her.. Her friends are a different story.. but yea she's a great looking girl but just not my type so I'd never sleep with her... It is possible to have a female friend and not be interested.. rare I guess but possible. ding ding ding. "She's hot fun, interesting...not my type"->> she's unattractive=friendzone I think the men here are posting elusively but implying the same thing I posted on earlier to avoid being downcast by women. It's very simple for us men, if your unattractive, your immediately in the friendzone.
Yukikazi Posted December 21, 2009 Posted December 21, 2009 ding ding ding. "She's hot fun, interesting...not my type"->> she's unattractive=friendzone I think the men here are posting elusively but implying the same thing I posted on earlier to avoid being downcast by women. It's very simple for us men, if your unattractive, your immediately in the friendzone. Maybe you missed the word.. hot in my comment. She is probably what would be considered an 8 or 8.5 I never looked at her as potential.. maybe its the freckles.. maybe cause I also know her taste in men and I am not it.. either way.. not interested in dating her. Yes I find it odd also cause she is a damn knockout in her lil blackdress or when she is dressed to the 9's.. Maybe I just have respect for her.. but I can't see hooking up at all. Attractive girl.. just not someone that sparked instant attraction in me.. weird I know but *shrug* its not a choice..
gypsy_nicky Posted December 21, 2009 Posted December 21, 2009 Maybe you missed the word.. hot in my comment. She is probably what would be considered an 8 or 8.5 I never looked at her as potential.. maybe its the freckles.. maybe cause I also know her taste in men and I am not it.. either way.. not interested in dating her. Yes I find it odd also cause she is a damn knockout in her lil blackdress or when she is dressed to the 9's.. Maybe I just have respect for her.. but I can't see hooking up at all. Attractive girl.. just not someone that sparked attraction in me.. weird I know but *shrug* its not a choice.. she's unattractive to you and that's all that matters, thats why she's in the friendzone.
aerogurl87 Posted December 21, 2009 Posted December 21, 2009 she's unattractive to you and that's all that matters, thats why she's in the friendzone. I agree with gypsy nicky. Someone can be hot and still someone may find them to be unattractive for whatever reasons. I think some of my friends are hot but I'm not attracted to them, hence I don't find them attractive. And attractiveness to me is the whole package, not just looks.
aerogurl87 Posted December 21, 2009 Posted December 21, 2009 If you go out with something you have known for a while though, what was it that made you go from friends to more than friends? There must have been a catalyst for that to happen. There was a catalyst, breaking up with my ex boyfriend and realizing I could do better. Of course when the ex and I were still together my current boyfriend knew then that we were strictly friends and nothing more. But when the blinders of love fell away, the ex and I broke up, and I got my self confidence back, then there was nothing there to stop us. :love:
b52s Posted December 21, 2009 Posted December 21, 2009 quite, in my experience the relationships that start out as "friends" turn out to cause the most pain and heartache Well, does it not make sense ....that if you can't be friends with someone, you probably won't want to date them either?
b52s Posted December 21, 2009 Posted December 21, 2009 quite, in my experience the relationships that start out as "friends" turn out to cause the most pain and heartache Please....elaborate.
viz Posted December 21, 2009 Posted December 21, 2009 Do guys even have friend zones? Or, if a girl is attractive and the guy is heterosexual is being close friends more of a friends first kind of thing to them? Someone told me guys pick their close female friends the same way they pick their potential partners. I don't pick friends. What I mean by that is I usually meet friends because we have mutual friends, like at parties, or we're co-workers. If we hit it off and click, we become friends and hang out. Goes for women and men. Generally, with any given friend, friendship picked us, not the other way around. It has nothing to do with how sexually attracted either of us are. If attraction is the reason for the friendship, it's not really a friendship. Conversely just because one person is attractive, doesn't mean the friendship isn't genuine. I have good friends who are very attractive and some that aren't. I like hanging out with them because they make me laugh and we have fun. I'm just one guy, but that's my take on it, and how things have worked out with me. I do have one friend who is more than a friend whenever neither of us are dating anyone else, but that's a long complicated story and we keep it platonic when either or both of us are dating. When we're both not dating anyone and sexually frustrated, sometimes there's a drunk-dial
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