b52s Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 When I saw this video http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showpost.php?p=2519137&postcount=1 I had to laugh. LOL (The British guy hitting on women with boyfriends). I had a similar situation. BUT....I didn't react in such a manner, but I did get upset, and BUT....rightfully so. I had been at a Bookstore, and there was a NEW manager who started working there....i was a regular at the store....and would kind of chat her up....I asked her to lunch....and we agreed on a time and date when she went on break. We go to the Cafe Court....get our food, and sit down to eat. We get to talking and getting to know each other.....and then she, like the women in the video....mentioned her boyfriend like they did. Instead of throwing her food all over the Cafe Court....lol. I did get upset, but my reaction was a bit more passive, "So....you're boyfriend mind you having lunch with men you just met?" She goes, "No he doesn't mind me having friends" It got awkward from there, kind of finished our food in silence, and then I said I had some shopping I had to go do and didn't even walk her back to the bookstore and never saw her again. But, I think I had a right be a bit upset....considering she agreed to a lunch date with me, and instead of saying, "Well, not sure my boyfriend would approve" You know, informing me of the boyfriend before getting together for lunch. We did go dutch, but that's not the point (in case you were wondering) but still. LOL
torranceshipman Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 Sounds like she presumed you guys were just friends, and you were just suggesting that you guys get lunch. Perfectly reasonable - but you misread the signs - you were the one who just assumed it was a date and clearly she wasn't aware that you had romantic intentions... I have a guy friend who does this - who reads friendly signs from a girl as romantic.
Author b52s Posted December 19, 2009 Author Posted December 19, 2009 Sounds like she presumed you guys were just friends, and you were just suggesting that you guys get lunch. Perfectly reasonable - but you misread the signs - you were the one who just assumed it was a date and clearly she wasn't aware that you had romantic intentions... I have a guy friend who does this - who reads friendly signs from a girl as romantic. Hm, well, I was pretty much a total stranger to her, typically when a new man asks a woman to lunch, there's a great chance she should use her common sense that he has some kind of dating interest in her. It's just common sense. I mean, I know what firendly is, but when she actually joined me one on one, a man and a woman alone together, I figured It'd suggest some kind of interest. I think this is the problem with a lot of women when guys ask them out, for some reason they think it's "just being friendly". I guess I should have just said, "Would you care to join me on a lunch DATE?" Emphasis on the word DATE. But, people advise against using the "D" word, because it scares women off.....so what is the new century of "phrasing" a word to ask a woman out? "Why don't we grab a bite to eat after you get off work?" It's very foggy area there, nothing is clear...but when she actually agreed to join a total stranger for lunch, figured she was interested.
green apples Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 But really, I had a guy ask me out once (I didn't assume it was a date) and then found out somewhere else that he had a girlfriend. He would probably have told me on the "date" that he was going out with someone. I don't know. He didn't. So after that, I still assumed he was just asking me out as a friend since I found out about his girlfriend.
green apples Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 b52s, would you have paid for the meal if you thought she was interested?
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