hurting.

[zapyou8]

uhh someone give me advice or something please.

So recently just got out of an epic two year relationship, heart break yada yada yada never thought i would move on etc.

 

Anyway, there is this guy i work with who i became really good mates with and talked to about my issues with my (now ex) boyfriend.

We became really close. So finally i broke up with my boyfriend and me and this guy i work with became closer, and ended up hooking up, for me admittedly it was a rebound (at the time).

 

He wanted to develop the relationship but i said i was not ready. So we just took it really slow. I really started to like him and as we were friends before i felt amazing because i never thought i would find anyone else.

Anyway one day he suddenly told me he was not interested. And started flirting with all the other chicks at work and acting really strange towards me. I am devastated!!!! He no longer likes me at all and we are not even friends. I am sooo upset. I became so attached. I HATE seeing him at work. It horrible. I really think i love him. Its like a do not exist. Its not even as thought he is just ignoring me, its almost like he DISLIKES me and i do not understand why. But im so upset.

 

AAAAAH!!

[dashing daisy]

admittedly it was a rebound (at the time).He wanted to develop the relationship but i said i was not ready.

 

one day he suddenly told me he was not interested. And started flirting with all the other chicks at work and acting really strange towards me. I really think i love him.

 

Did you come to this realization after he dumped you? I kind of think you know if you love someone...Or did you tell him you really liked him after you told him you weren't ready? I don't know, it sounds like you didn't really know what you wanted. He maybe wanted to be with you but changed his mind, or didn't think you could be that invested because it was a rebound. Or he's a jerk. I can't read his mind and neither can you. The bottom line is he broke it off, so now you need to try to move on.

 

Did you read any of the NC threads on the site? It's good advice (wish I followed it, made a royal mess when I didn't) but it might not be entirely possible because you work together.

 

What are you thinking of doing?

[Simon Attwood]

uhh someone give me advice or something please.

So recently just got out of an epic two year relationship, heart break yada yada yada never thought i would move on etc.

 

Anyway, there is this guy i work with who i became really good mates with and talked to about my issues with my (now ex) boyfriend.

We became really close. So finally i broke up with my boyfriend and me and this guy i work with became closer, and ended up hooking up, for me admittedly it was a rebound (at the time).

 

He wanted to develop the relationship but i said i was not ready. So we just took it really slow. I really started to like him and as we were friends before i felt amazing because i never thought i would find anyone else.

Anyway one day he suddenly told me he was not interested. And started flirting with all the other chicks at work and acting really strange towards me. I am devastated!!!! He no longer likes me at all and we are not even friends. I am sooo upset. I became so attached. I HATE seeing him at work. It horrible. I really think i love him. Its like a do not exist. Its not even as thought he is just ignoring me, its almost like he DISLIKES me and i do not understand why. But im so upset.

 

AAAAAH!!

 

 

You were afraid, understandably so, due to your recent experience you felt the needed to protect yourself. He did not understand your fear and he got afraid. He pulled away to protect himself.

 

Simples