Pentel Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 OK, i didn't follow NC,where did that left me? 2 months of suffering 2 months of breadcrumbs 2 months of torturing myself 2 months of wanting to kill myself 2 of the worst months of my life... don't believe me? se my threads http://www.loveshack.org/forums/search.php?searchid=12031831 so yea, you might try it once, but if it doesn't work... JUST LEAVEE... believe me... it isn't worth it... when we got "back together" i felt so bad with myself.. being with her after everything she did to me... i felt so bad... so really... go NC or die inside... easy as that... now im on the pits of hell... looking for God... looking for someone to pic me up, just because i didn't want to follow NC... i feel so stupid... i could have ended it all of it... but i didn't... i wanted to think i knew more than the guys from here... that my story would be diferent... that we were special.. that it wouldn't work with NC... now i feel so stupid for not following it...
Brightmoon Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 (edited) Pentel (((hugs))) So sorry you are going through such a hard time. It's OK to have tried your own way. Sorry it did not work out and you are in so much pain. Please don't be so hard on yourself. Edited December 19, 2009 by Brightmoon
LovelyDaze Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 OK, i didn't follow NC,where did that left me? 2 months of suffering 2 months of breadcrumbs 2 months of torturing myself 2 months of wanting to kill myself 2 of the worst months of my life... don't believe me? se my threads http://www.loveshack.org/forums/search.php?searchid=12031831 so yea, you might try it once, but if it doesn't work... JUST LEAVEE... believe me... it isn't worth it... when we got "back together" i felt so bad with myself.. being with her after everything she did to me... i felt so bad... so really... go NC or die inside... easy as that... now im on the pits of hell... looking for God... looking for someone to pic me up, just because i didn't want to follow NC... i feel so stupid... i could have ended it all of it... but i didn't... i wanted to think i knew more than the guys from here... that my story would be diferent... that we were special.. that it wouldn't work with NC... now i feel so stupid for not following it... RIGHT,RIGHT,RIGHT,RIGHT!!!!! I am about to post something similar, Pentel. We all need to understand something...they are an ex for a reason. They should be exed off the list of everything we do in this life from here on out. It's hard enough to maintain a good relationship but 100x worse when someone or both made the decision to end it. The problems of the past aren't easily fixed by passion and desire of missing each other. Not at all. If anything, it is like a recurring nightmare and then the 2ND breakup is even more devastating. I know, I have gotten back together with a couple of BFs in the past and all I wish is that we left our 1st breakup alone as it was...warts and all.
novack Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 don't worry man, your starting that road of NC will start to pick you up! Think of it like this, in 10 years will you even care/think of your SO ...no absolutely not! Its not going to take 10 years, but if your willing to admit that at one point you wont care than its a good start
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