bac Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 A year ago I met a player on Personals. He was in 40s. He had no good looks, no money, no car, no education, but he had a corn artist's talent. He knew everything that a girl wants to hear. He was great at communication skills, he asked personal questions, made emotional connection, told all the words that any girl would ever dream to hear. He was also good at sex. His game was to contact multiple girls from personals. Then, have with them 1-3 nights sexual encounters, and after that he gets busy with the next girl. I was his victim a year ago. He did not contact me the whole year. I was surprised that he emailed me in 1 year that he wanted to know how I was doing. He emailed me that he wanted to meet me. It does not make any sense to me. Why would a player want to meet his victim in 1 year?
Island Girl Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 Why would a player want to meet his victim in 1 year? Too lazy to find and have to try all that on a girl who may bit and be a victim - or may not. It is easier to recycle those that have bought in before. He already knows the button pushing he knows how to do worked on your buttons.
FilthMerchant Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 He's probably going through a dry spell or something. Help a player/corn artist out!
Lish Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 A year ago I met a player on Personals. He was in 40s. He had no good looks, no money, no car, no education, but he had a corn artist's talent. He knew everything that a girl wants to hear. He was great at communication skills, he asked personal questions, made emotional connection, told all the words that any girl would ever dream to hear. He was also good at sex. His game was to contact multiple girls from personals. Then, have with them 1-3 nights sexual encounters, and after that he gets busy with the next girl. I was his victim a year ago. He did not contact me the whole year. I was surprised that he emailed me in 1 year that he wanted to know how I was doing. He emailed me that he wanted to meet me. It does not make any sense to me. Why would a player want to meet his victim in 1 year? You're a victim? How so? Sounds to me like you were completely and utterly willing. So how that makes you a victim, I will never know. And if you fell for his bull****, then I'm sorry, but that's pretty much your own fault.
carhill Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 Speaking of buttons, there's a delete button on that e-mail client that really needs to be pushed
boogieboy Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 If it workeed on you one year, and he left you wanting more, then he figured he can go back for more, and you will be willing. Am I safe in assuming that since your younger man hunt didnt go a splanned, that you will be engaging this guy anyway?
jw90063 Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 He was in 40s. He had no good looks, no money, no car, no education, but he had a corn artist's talent. Wow, not your typical player. Sounds like a real winner. The nerve of him to play girls.
SoulSearch_CO Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 It's called recycling. He remembers you were a good lay and is testing the waters to see if you'd fancy another go.
Author bac Posted December 19, 2009 Author Posted December 19, 2009 If it workeed on you one year, and he left you wanting more, then he figured he can go back for more, and you will be willing. Am I safe in assuming that since your younger man hunt didnt go a splanned, that you will be engaging this guy anyway? I can not care less for the guy. It just seems to be so strange of him. As for young guys, after some of my experiences with them, I feel like dating men in 40s. It turned out that some young guys are immature and they might have some problems related to sex.
Author bac Posted December 19, 2009 Author Posted December 19, 2009 You're a victim? How so? Sounds to me like you were completely and utterly willing. So how that makes you a victim, I will never know. And if you fell for his bull****, then I'm sorry, but that's pretty much your own fault. I was a victim because he played with my brains. He told me that I am beautiful, amazing, smart, that he wants me to be his GF and move to his place, was interested in my life deeply, made me feel very special, and stuff like that. I guess it was my fault because at that period of my life I was very naive and did not know much about dating.
ordinary_girl Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 I think personals/internet dating is not a great idea. It is much better to try to meet people in real life from the start and build up a more realistic picture of them rather than use your own imagination while chatting with someone online. he is after sex and he just wanted to see whether you were up for it, nothing unusual about that. just delete his email. as for younger guys. I am always surprised when women complain that they are immature. erm.. yeah. they are young, it's what they are supposed to be. they also tend to be more innocent so please remember that also.
torranceshipman Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 Because a 1-3 day window in his schedule opened up.
Lish Posted December 20, 2009 Posted December 20, 2009 I was a victim because he played with my brains. He told me that I am beautiful, amazing, smart, that he wants me to be his GF and move to his place, was interested in my life deeply, made me feel very special, and stuff like that. I guess it was my fault because at that period of my life I was very naive and did not know much about dating. You learned the hard way about players and yes, you were well & truly played... but the fact is: you LEARNED from it. Aslong as you don't fall for the same thing over & over, I don't think being played once is always a bad thing. And I bet the sex was fun, too. You learned what a player is AND you had a great night - win/win?
harmfulsweetz Posted December 20, 2009 Posted December 20, 2009 You're a victim? How so? Sounds to me like you were completely and utterly willing. So how that makes you a victim, I will never know. And if you fell for his bull****, then I'm sorry, but that's pretty much your own fault. My thoughts exactly. A guy that says all the right things is always a danger, because it's rarely true, and they are often overused phrases that have worked in the past. To be fair, we could all probably say we fell 'prey' to a player, but realistically, it's not an involuntary action. I was played, the guy kept coming back and back, had four phones for each girl he was with (quite clever really) but the signs were all there, I just refused to see them. 'It would be different this time'-I said, it was no different. It's life. You meet people like him, make the unfortunate and unwise choice to follow it, and you learn. Just tell him where to go from now on.
westrock Posted December 20, 2009 Posted December 20, 2009 This guy was a player for sure, but be careful how you associate his actions otherwise it may affect your future relationships and when a true gentleman comes along worthy of a real relationship with you, you may accidently misjudge the new guy based on your experience with this player. He told me that I am beautiful, amazing, smart, that he wants me to be his GF and move to his place, was interested in my life deeply, made me feel very special, and stuff like that. Over time a true gentlemen will do the things listed above on a consistent basis (except for the part of having you move to his place, unless the two of you are in a serious committed relationship). You were a victim because after he said those things he then did the following: Then, have with them 1-3 nights sexual encounters, and after that he gets busy with the next girl.
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