CLC2008 Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 That's maybe it. The whole thing feels tainted to me. After our first date I told him I move slow when it comes to sex and dating, and he told me he would wait and whatever made me comfortable is what he wants. It's clear now he isn't in it just for sex, but I still can't shake it from my head. OK, so now you're aware and also keep in mind that it's only been 5 days since you first met him...
Author pandagirl Posted December 19, 2009 Author Posted December 19, 2009 OK, so now you're aware and also keep in mind that it's only been 5 days since you first met him... bahaha. Good point! I need to chill out.
CLC2008 Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 bahaha. Good point! I need to chill out. Yes. It's good to be aware of that very first thought/impression. Where it goes, at this point, it's just to soon to say.
Author pandagirl Posted December 19, 2009 Author Posted December 19, 2009 He just called me from NY (I'm away for the holidays now). He was at a party and he said he desperately wanted to talk to me, so he snuck out into the stairwell, and proceeded to say all sort of sweet and romantic things to me. I thanked him for helping me out this morning, and he said: "I want to take care of you." BUT, in going along with this thread of two-sided weirdness, he said: "I'll dominate you, but take care of you." WTF DOES THAT MEAN??
boogieboy Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 Oh jesus, stop worrying about it, and if youre not going to ask him yourself...either bail on him now, or wait till you find out what it means.
carhill Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 So does anyone here think this guy is a normal, emotionally healthy gentleman? As someone who's been the poster child for investing too much too early, this guy's words give me the chills. The boxers stay on for now, capisce?
jw90063 Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 I thanked him for helping me out this morning, and he said: "I want to take care of you." BUT, in going along with this thread of two-sided weirdness, he said: "I'll dominate you, but take care of you." WTF DOES THAT MEAN?? It means you need to run for the hills and run now. Enough said.
CLC2008 Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 He just called me from NY (I'm away for the holidays now). He was at a party and he said he desperately wanted to talk to me, so he snuck out into the stairwell, and proceeded to say all sort of sweet and romantic things to me. I thanked him for helping me out this morning, and he said: "I want to take care of you." BUT, in going along with this thread of two-sided weirdness, he said: "I'll dominate you, but take care of you." WTF DOES THAT MEAN?? OK, it just got weird with that comment...
Author pandagirl Posted December 19, 2009 Author Posted December 19, 2009 So does anyone here think this guy is a normal, emotionally healthy gentleman? As someone who's been the poster child for investing too much too early, this guy's words give me the chills. Elaborate. I think you mean "chills" in a Stephen King sort of way, and that is not good. haha.
CLC2008 Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 So does anyone here think this guy is a normal, emotionally healthy gentleman? As someone who's been the poster child for investing too much too early, this guy's words give me the chills. The boxers stay on for now, capisce? I personally did not, from her first post. But I do think the OP needs to explore her own thought process and views...and figure things out for herself along the way (with some gentle guidance ).
Author pandagirl Posted December 19, 2009 Author Posted December 19, 2009 OK, it just got weird with that comment... hhaha. OH MAN. He has used that word before: dominate. I don't understand what it means in his usage. I'm am no wilting flower over here. I am not passive nor have ever acted submissive. I speak my mind. He knows these things. so weird.
jw90063 Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 Elaborate. I think you mean "chills" in a Stephen King sort of way, and that is not good. haha. For all you know he is like that guy in the Stephen King novel "The Shining".
carhill Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 Elaborate. I think you mean "chills" in a Stephen King sort of way, and that is not good. haha. It means, either this guy is one of the Gamesters of Triskelion or he's a nutcase, in my humble opinion. If I was experiencing the female version of his behaviors, I'd be down in the survival bunker with the door welded shut. Those kinds of chills
Author pandagirl Posted December 19, 2009 Author Posted December 19, 2009 I personally did not, from her first post. But I do think the OP needs to explore her own thought process and views...and figure things out for herself along the way (with some gentle guidance ). My gut tells me he is not "crazy," but he is emotionally immature.
alphamale Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 He just called me from NY (I'm away for the holidays now). He was at a party and he said he desperately wanted to talk to me, so he snuck out into the stairwell, and proceeded to say all sort of sweet and romantic things to me. I thanked him for helping me out this morning, and he said: "I want to take care of you." BUT, in going along with this thread of two-sided weirdness, he said: "I'll dominate you, but take care of you." WTF DOES THAT MEAN?? this guy is weird
Author pandagirl Posted December 19, 2009 Author Posted December 19, 2009 It means, either this guy is one of the Gamesters of Triskelion or he's a nutcase, in my humble opinion. If I was experiencing the female version of his behaviors, I'd be down in the survival bunker with the door welded shut. Those kinds of chills Ahhhhh...!
Author pandagirl Posted December 19, 2009 Author Posted December 19, 2009 this guy is weird Oh yes, he is a little odd. It's honestly part of why I like him though. I don't like it when he uses the word "dominate," but I do enjoy his quirkyness.
jw90063 Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 My gut tells me he is not "crazy," but he is emotionally immature. Do you not see how things don't add up? Sometimes it doesn't take much to figure it out. You had doubts before, and some clues, and to me this is a major one. Maybe he didn't mean it like it sounds, but what else could it mean. Also, who goes around telling a girl "you are perfect". A guy who says to a girl: "I'll dominate you, but take care of you." by the third date, is not normal, but feel free to continue dating and find out. Maybe you will be able to free yourself from the basement, when he ties you up against your own will.
Yamaha Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 He has used that word before: dominate. I don't understand what it means in his usage. He means control, as in control you.
Author pandagirl Posted December 19, 2009 Author Posted December 19, 2009 Do you not see how things don't add up? Sometimes it doesn't take much to figure it out. You had doubts before, and some clues, and to me this is a major one. Maybe he didn't mean it like it sounds, but what else could it mean. Also, who goes around telling a girl "you are perfect". A guy who says to a girl: "I'll dominate you, but take care of you." by the third date, is not normal, but feel free to continue dating and find out. Maybe you will be able to free yourself from the basement, when he ties you up against your own will. Oh, that is terrible! But, I still laughed. haha. You're right. It doesn't add up. He's just so into me. I don't want to hurt him. I'm just going to proceed with caution. I'm gone for 2+ weeks anyway. Maybe he'll cool his jets.
Author pandagirl Posted December 19, 2009 Author Posted December 19, 2009 He means control, as in control you. That makes no sense to me. He knows he wouldn't be able to control me. I have displayed no personality characteristics that would led him to think this would be possible.
CLC2008 Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 That makes no sense to me. He knows he wouldn't be able to control me. I have displayed no personality characteristics that would led him to think this would be possible. Your first comment to him, when he first approached you. Your dating him now.... Get it?
carhill Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 I'm still waiting for an answer on the boxer issue
jw90063 Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 Oh, that is terrible! But, I still laughed. haha. You're right. It doesn't add up. He's just so into me. I don't want to hurt him. I'm just going to proceed with caution. I'm gone for 2+ weeks anyway. Maybe he'll cool his jets. Maybe its not as bad as it sounds, but what he said sounds creepy as all get out. I would almost be afraid of his reaction if you broke it off, because he seems very attached to you or maybe "obsessed". Not trying to scare you, but I definitely would proceed with caution as you say. Hopefully its not as bad as it seems.
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