Author Sandyumma Posted December 23, 2009 Author Posted December 23, 2009 I know what I am supposed to do and I know nothing is going to happen between us because I will never do anything to hurt my husband.But just out of curiosity, are there any guys out there who really found somebody other than the wife and have a good life with that other woman ever after? It does not apply to me, just want to know if it ever happens or all married guys are only playing.
Dexter Morgan Posted January 4, 2010 Posted January 4, 2010 I have this guy at work, he is smart, charming, everything I ever wanted. He smiles at me, winks at me, flirts with me, he has been given all these signals that he likes me. We have been working together for just over a year.Recently we have had more chance to talk about personal lives. He keeps saying that it was mistake that he got married so early(18), and keeps saying that I should leave my husband and get another guy. But sometimes, he would say it is wrong for married man to show interest to another girl. Sometimes, I find him avoiding me as well. I am just so confused, I really dont know what he wants or if he even likes me. uh...it shouldn't matter one iota what he wants or if he likes you...YOU ARE MARRIED. And if a married guy that would try to cheat on his wife, and possibly end up cheating, is your dream guy....well then....ok:confused: I am in a boring marriage, my husband is a nice guy, but I just find it hard for me to love him, I am only 25 maybe you are fit for marriage. If you are only 25, then you haven't been married long. maybe you just get too bored with any long term relationship, because things do cool down...the fire doesn't have to go completely out, but it does cool somewhat. If you can't handle that, then best that you aren't married. already feel like 40, our life is just too boring, he brigntened my life, this also made me feel guilty, but I just can't stop thinking about him, what do I do?PLEASE HELP ME!! your husband aside for a moment, is a man that would cheat on his wife someone that you would want? hell...divorce your husband, get this guy to come your way, and then deal with the new guy wooing some other hottie down the road when your marriage or relationship to him gets old and tired.
BlueeyedJonesy Posted January 5, 2010 Posted January 5, 2010 I'm sure many of the other women on this site who are proud of having affairs (and there are many) will come in here and egg you on. Listen to those who have been through this crazy war, not the ones who take pleasure out of this. Well said!
BlueeyedJonesy Posted January 5, 2010 Posted January 5, 2010 When things get boring you go to a sex store with your H..or go out on dates that you normally wouldn't follow through with. Make time for one another. Don't go for someone elses H! it will ruin you emotionally.
Bobby2010 Posted January 6, 2010 Posted January 6, 2010 Another Prince Charming at work story. *Sigh* You realize that if you had married this new guy back in the day instead of marrying your husband, you would still be bored now. Some other guy would make you "feel so attractive and special" As Dexter said, you probably shouldn't be married.
Author Sandyumma Posted January 6, 2010 Author Posted January 6, 2010 Another Prince Charming at work story. *Sigh* You realize that if you had married this new guy back in the day instead of marrying your husband, you would still be bored now. Some other guy would make you "feel so attractive and special" As Dexter said, you probably shouldn't be married. I think I just married too young, I have been with my husband since I was 16, just too young to make such a big decison. I
dazzle22 Posted January 6, 2010 Posted January 6, 2010 I think it helps to look at this the way Imagine said. It is a chemical addiction..to dopamine and other chemicals the brain produces when we feel attraction. The brain "in love" looks very much like a brain "on heroin" in PET scans. Have you ever seen the movie "What the Bleep do we know anyway?" Great movie explaining how our brains work, and how chemicals get turned on that make us do crazy things. You are bored and these flirtations make you feel "alive" again, so you mistake them for being "real" and so it goes down this path of misery. Don't start with a married man. If he didn't want to "have his cake and eat it too" he would get a divorce....
Bobby2010 Posted January 6, 2010 Posted January 6, 2010 I think I just married too young I'm just curious, did the guy at work ever say to you he thinks you got married to young?
temple Posted January 6, 2010 Posted January 6, 2010 Forget about this guy. Put him out of your mind. Save yourself the heartache. Someone else got him first. If you have problems with your own marriage I would first see if those cannot be rectified before jumping ship. If this MM truly wants to start a relationship with you, he will follow suit and get a divorce before anything deeper starts.
Author Sandyumma Posted January 8, 2010 Author Posted January 8, 2010 I'm just curious, did the guy at work ever say to you he thinks you got married to young? No, he only said he married too young.
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