Cthomson Posted December 18, 2009 Posted December 18, 2009 A few months ago I finished high school and I was certainly glad because I knew college life is more what you make it and not about any popularity bull sh*t or bullying. I had never had a girl friend and if I had come close to getting one then I certainly didn't know, never kissed a girl, basically never done anything with a girl. But now I've been in college for a few months and have been trying to date this particular girl I had cozen because we see each other a lot. I had no problem meeting her at first I sat down across from her seat during my lunch break and we talked about our common interests and we got along well. We started having lunch together since we both had the same lunch break hours, we would only have them twice a week and eventually I summed up enough courage to ask her for her phone number. She decided instead to exchange e-mails because (I'm paraphrasing this part) she didn't want her number to get into the wrong hands, considering the fact that she has had problems with stalkers in the past. I accepted this and we kept having lunches together and she let her friends join, witch I was alright with accept for the fact that I didn't feel like I was making any more progress in becoming her boyfriend, some of my friends think that the lunches I had alone with her were dates but I don't think she thought of them that way. When the school term was nearly over I told her how I would miss her and she smiled and recommended we plan some time together outside of my college. As the winter break went on she and I had a small e-mail conversation where I ask how things were going and she replied saying she was going well but was very busy between her volunteer work, her family and her boyfriend. I was surprised by the fact that she had never mentioned a boyfriend before the reply, so I asked her if she had gotten the boyfriend recently. she replied saying: Yea, my boyfriend and I haven't been together for too long, we met during the last school term. I was baffled I guess, I wanted to be that boyfriend so badly but I guess I certainly don't know how. Do you have any recommendations on what I can do to make things better? I realy feel like I have some sort of mental issue.
sallybee Posted December 18, 2009 Posted December 18, 2009 You should have told her that you were interested in her during the last semester instead of beating around the bush. You should have also asked her to do things outside of school like going out to a nice restaurant of movies. That way she knows what you want and whether she's ok with that.
Author Cthomson Posted December 18, 2009 Author Posted December 18, 2009 I'm sorry I didn't mention that part, I did ask her about meeting elsewhere, that's the reason I gave her when I asked for her phone number.
sallybee Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 She probably wasn't interested and thought you were just being a good friend =/
DollyMix Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 Don't think it over too much so you missed out on one girl don't waste time thinking of that one when you could be meeting another
boogieboy Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 You wasted time having all those lunches. for future reference, if you have lunch with a girl at school, you ask for her number that first meeting. If you dont, she will lose interest because youre not making any moves.
Lish Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 LOL, awwww. That's cute. You don't have any kind of mental issue sweetie, you like a girl...you got rejected....you're bummed about it. It's natural. Rejection can take a while to get used to.
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