Artist Posted December 18, 2009 Posted December 18, 2009 My ex broke up with via email. A few days before she cancels on me for our halloween plans. I say ok bye. She immedialty contacts me and says she wants to stay in contact I send email telling her what I feel is really going on. A few days later I text her "I don't thing we should date. Peace" She contacts me that night. She contacts me the next night, furious with me, says been crying every night. I say bye and do not contact her for 2 weeks. She sends a long email telling me how great I look. I see a pic of her and new boyfriend going out halloween night. I send her the following email, "Bye. Please never contact me again" I am not going back to her. I am not contacting her. This is the third time she has broken up with me. In the past I have been so understanding and always went after her. This time I just said bye. But I wonder if my last email to her felt like I was dumping her or would make it more likely she will contact me?
Zeegagge Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 I am not going back to her. I am not contacting her. Based on this does anything else matter? You've made your decision. That's all.
Author Artist Posted December 19, 2009 Author Posted December 19, 2009 I guess for the same reason everyone else on this board asks questions.
mark982 Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 the whole idea is your piece of mind. so it really don't matter if you're the dumper or not. just enjoy the peace.
meonly Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 ARTIST ! You're the man !!!! Great thinking ! You have 2 options here ! 1 Get her back because you love her (NC) 2 Get her back for benefits (sex and all) In between u can look for another one better than the ex !!!! After u found another g/f, dump her for good !!!!! She did use you,give back her change and some more. Again,great move man ! Good luck 2 u
Author Artist Posted December 19, 2009 Author Posted December 19, 2009 I do love her. That is the hell of it. I am feeling much better already but still sad. Still miss her. It is hard when you find out someone is not who you thought they were. I am not going to initate contact and I am not trying to be "the man" I just wonder how she is feeling. I miss her. I wonder if she misses me. And I wonder about the psycology of my last message to her. How it affects her. Does she not care? Or does it shift the power back to me in a way even though she broke up. I cut her off for my sake and I know I will eventually heal so that is why I am commited to not contacting her. But while I am healing I do hurt and miss her and wonder if asking her to never contact me makes it more likely she will reach out again. that is all.
threebyfate Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 the powerPower and pride/ego, two of the biggest relationship killers. Artist, it's time to move on. It doesn't matter who has power, who retains pride. Both of you have lost big time, once relationships become "the game" of love.
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