Peaceful Guy Posted December 21, 2009 Share Posted December 21, 2009 let me tell you a story leonard.. a few years ago a couple i knew and i went down to a lake near my house to relax. at the time we were all school teachers, working with kids with special needs. we hung out, swam around, dropped acid, and played in the yard with the dog. i rode my jet ski around and they sat by the side of the lake laughing. as the sun set over the lake (pinks and purples and oranges) we sipped strawberry daiquiris and sat on a small wooden bench that my father made. they went on to get engaged and teach school children in timbuktu africa.. ..not every woman that you meet will you date.. and not all interesting stories can be seen from the surface, or told at a kegger.. you need to find people that share your zest for life, your sense of adventure, and get out there and take chances with them. you can stay in the circles you're in now, and always consider yourself to be a little more above, a little more interesting, whatever.. or you can get out there and live.. Link to post Share on other sites
Peaceful Guy Posted December 21, 2009 Share Posted December 21, 2009 hey leonard, just so you know.. the above post that i wrote was in response to your original post.. i chose not to read the other posters ideas first so it has NOTHING to do with the conversation that followed, and was in every way meant to be supportive and helpful.. take it easy man, you rock! Link to post Share on other sites
Peaceful Guy Posted December 21, 2009 Share Posted December 21, 2009 p.s. its true! Link to post Share on other sites
Kamille Posted December 21, 2009 Share Posted December 21, 2009 I'm sure you worked very hard and saved all your pennies to pay for your extravicant adventures, can you say "bank of mommy and daddy". All of us don't have everything handed to them like you apparently do, grow up kid. To be fair, it's perfectly possible to create opportunities in your life. My parents have no money and yet my sister is as 'accomplished' as Leonard. (doctor (specialized), travel, adventure sports, etc,.) And yet, those are never the stories she brings up. I'm sure she would if a guy was on the subject, but she usually talks about more mundane things when we're out together. So, yes, as has been said, Leonard should pay attention to the bond he can build with a girl. But also, don't worry Leonard, I know a few women who share the qualities you are looking for in a partner. Link to post Share on other sites
threebyfate Posted December 22, 2009 Share Posted December 22, 2009 The minute there's even a whiff of money involved, people get up in arms with the hating, the envy and jealousy. It's annoying. Link to post Share on other sites
HeavenOrHell Posted December 23, 2009 Share Posted December 23, 2009 The reason you've had a few harsh replies is because of the arrogant way you come across, I understand what you're saying but the way you speak about women is so derogatory. There are diplomatic and sensitive ways of saying things! Link to post Share on other sites
Scottdmw Posted December 23, 2009 Share Posted December 23, 2009 Hi OP, FWIW, I didn't find anything offensive in any of your posts. It has generally been my experience that women do not do as much of the “exciting stuff” you're talking about as men do. It just isn't as much of a priority or interest for them—they have somewhat different priorities in general. If you are looking for an activity partner, you might be better off to look for other men. If you are looking for a romantic partner, understand that women bring different things to the table than you. A good woman will be willing to accompany you on some of your adventures, perhaps just to share the time and experience with you. But, personally I wouldn't make a big deal about trying to find a woman who does all the things you do. I would worry more about trying to find a woman who is a good person, who will treat you well, who is attractive to you, and who maybe shares some but not all of your interests or has an interest or two of her own she is active with. Scott Link to post Share on other sites
Phateless Posted December 23, 2009 Share Posted December 23, 2009 (edited) When I talk to some women I find that they happen to be the most boring people on the planet. I find myself not wanting to form a relationship with them even though some may be interested in me. I'm in my final year of medical school, I've been skydiving, travelling in Europe, climbed the highest mountain peak in southeast Asia, been a bassist in a band, personally met Kofi Annan at a UN meeting, made the most ingenious pranks in school, helped removed a cancerous tumor out of a man's colon, done street racing for a period of time, and more. I'm still at a tender young age of 23. Women I've met are the most boring creatures in the planet. I'm not sure if I'm meeting the wrong ones, but I've met a spectrum of them ranging from law school, to a random person at a house party. They have no stories to tell me to entertain me apart from drinking and parties. Is that all they do with their lives? I can't bear to mind that if I were to get into a relationship with any of these girls, they would be the bane of my existence because they are so incredibly mundane. I just want someone who is able to enjoy life with me as I do, and contribute into a relationship as interestingly as I do. I don't think being busy is really an excuse to be boring anymore because I know how to organize my life to fit my fun time inbetween work. Everytime a girl is interested in me, I feel as if I'm doing all the work being interesting and exciting, while she gives nothing back to hold my interest with her personality or life experiences. At the end of the day, I just flake or put her into the friend zone. It's a huge emotional/sexual turn off and I'm beginning to be afraid that one day I might have to accept that women are just boring as hell. Am I looking in all the wrong places, or are women really this boring? Wow, just wow... the level of maturity in the thread is astonishing... Leonard, there's nothing wrong with you, you just have high standards and I think that's admirable. Qualify the women you meet until you find someone interesting. Have you tried online dating or interest groups? If you can meet someone who already shares one of your passions that would probably create a better connection. I've noticed the same thing as you - a lot of girls (people actually) don't have anything interesting to say and it's really quite boring. I swing and salsa dance, work out, go mtn biking, ride motorcycles, go to concerts, etc, etc. I've found that the people I've met WHEN DOING THOSE THINGS are more interesting than the people I meet standing around in bars. I've meet cool women who ride motorcycles, swing and salsa dance, ride mtn bikes, and I've meet some cool ones in classes. What more interesting places have you tried to meet girls? Do you live in a big city or a small town? I've had much more interesting conversations in big cities than little nowhere towns. EDIT - Do some Googling for "assertive listening." You'll get some good tips on how to hear more of what people say and maybe find out something interesting about someone who otherwise seems boring. You should see how my eyes light up if a girl tells me she salsa dances. Moments earlier I may have been looking for a way to end the conversation, lol. Edited December 23, 2009 by Phateless Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted December 24, 2009 Share Posted December 24, 2009 I find Asian men sexually boring......* yawn * Link to post Share on other sites
Pizzaman81 Posted December 24, 2009 Share Posted December 24, 2009 I find Asian men sexually boring......* yawn * Hey that's what my ex girlfriend thought, until she met me... *ahem* Link to post Share on other sites
StalledGirl Posted December 24, 2009 Share Posted December 24, 2009 I probably sound strange but a man who is studying medicine , has travelled around Europe , met some UN people (off topic but I find the UN totally useless) and climbed a bit doesn't sound exciting to me at all but I guess we all have different standards. There's nothing wrong with wanting a person who stimulates you mentally and physically but it's important to know what you have to offer in return. Total arrogance in a man is a turn-off for a lot of women unless they are gold diggers , obviously. Link to post Share on other sites
selena_cat Posted December 24, 2009 Share Posted December 24, 2009 This guy poster is full of himself,why doesnt he start talking to men who is th exact replica of him,i'm sure they will have lots of things in common,even in the bedroom. Link to post Share on other sites
Peaceful Guy Posted December 24, 2009 Share Posted December 24, 2009 This guy poster is full of himself,why doesnt he start talking to men who is th exact replica of him,i'm sure they will have lots of things in common,even in the bedroom. i don't get you guys with this. sure, you can choose to take what he said that way.. but he's talking about a real issue. he's really not saying he thinks he's better than everyone else! Link to post Share on other sites
Peaceful Guy Posted December 24, 2009 Share Posted December 24, 2009 The reason you've had a few harsh replies is because of the arrogant way you come across, I understand what you're saying but the way you speak about women is so derogatory... i disagree! Link to post Share on other sites
Peaceful Guy Posted December 24, 2009 Share Posted December 24, 2009 I find Asian men sexually boring......* yawn * all of them? Link to post Share on other sites
Peaceful Guy Posted December 24, 2009 Share Posted December 24, 2009 No don't do that again. What kind of car do you drive? See? notice you get no attention from girls about street racing but just other dudes? Girls don't really care how fast you drive. this is true to some extent, but the recurring theme in the examples of life experiences he chose to relate are pretty much two things as far as i can tell. 1. taking chances 2. caring about people and its clear that he pushes himself to do these things! i think the real issue here is that he may be hurt that other people around him seem to be so shallow and into themselves.. funny that in trying to explain that he ends up having people say that about him! really, he's on the defensive.. "i chose to get out there and live life, take a chance, help people.. and you sat around manipulating your boyfriend? wtf!?".. maybe not that exactly.. but still. going on.. "now were at a party together and your pushing lots of sexual energy my way, but your not giving back what i think is important.. so i end up talking about myself.. but you don't really care, so you sit there, and flirt.. " now everyone acts like he's a conceited *******.. when he's trying to figure this out. seriously, leonard, you don't have to manipulate people, and you are feeling something genuine and good even though you and other people might not understand it.. even though its hard to put into words. there really are other people out there that value the same things as you do.. don't look for validation, don't look for praise.. look for adventure.. love.. peace.. go on your journey man, and don't look back, unless its to wave goodbye! i hope you feel me! Link to post Share on other sites
Pizzaman81 Posted December 24, 2009 Share Posted December 24, 2009 this is true to some extent, but the recurring theme in the examples of life experiences he chose to relate are pretty much two things as far as i can tell. 1. taking chances 2. caring about people and its clear that he pushes himself to do these things! i think the real issue here is that he may be hurt that other people around him seem to be so shallow and into themselves.. funny that in trying to explain that he ends up having people say that about him! really, he's on the defensive.. "i chose to get out there and live life, take a chance, help people.. and you sat around manipulating your boyfriend? wtf!?".. maybe not that exactly.. but still. going on.. "now were at a party together and your pushing lots of sexual energy my way, but your not giving back what i think is important.. so i end up talking about myself.. but you don't really care, so you sit there, and flirt.. " now everyone acts like he's a conceited *******.. when he's trying to figure this out. seriously, leonard, you don't have to manipulate people, and you are feeling something genuine and good even though you and other people might not understand it.. even though its hard to put into words. there really are other people out there that value the same things as you do.. don't look for validation, don't look for praise.. look for adventure.. love.. peace.. go on your journey man, and don't look back, unless its to wave goodbye! i hope you feel me! Well said! That's deep! Merry XMAS Link to post Share on other sites
shadowplay Posted December 24, 2009 Share Posted December 24, 2009 (edited) I'm sorry you think I'm 14. I get that quite a lot from some white people who are quite ignorant on how young asian people can look like. Our physical appearance doesn't age in the same way as other races. I have asian friends who sometimes get away with paying a child's fare for bus trips. You sound incredibly full of yourself to the point that I probably would get bored/irritated after talking to you for five minutes. Yeah, and a grown man looking 14 is a good thing? Edited December 24, 2009 by shadowplay Link to post Share on other sites
Peaceful Guy Posted December 24, 2009 Share Posted December 24, 2009 Well said! That's deep! Merry XMAS thanks man. that means alot! Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted December 25, 2009 Share Posted December 25, 2009 all of them? Well the reason I say that is : They don't usually like munching on the salad bar..... ya know what I mean ? Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted December 25, 2009 Share Posted December 25, 2009 Hey that's what my ex girlfriend thought, until she met me... *ahem* Prove it sir Link to post Share on other sites
TheBritishGuy Posted December 25, 2009 Share Posted December 25, 2009 You sound like an energetic eccentric guy and I have a newfound respect for your accomplishments given your only 23. It's impressive seeing somebody so well travelled at such a young age. It's unfortunate a bunch of jealous jackasses with insecurity issues felt they had to attack you at the beginning of this thread. Either way though I think you need to open your horizons a little. You are not going to run into many very women that have the energy you do or the range of interests. In general most people are quite simple and cocooned. While that is somewhat unfortunate its worth keeping in mind you don't have to date a girl that is interested in sky diving. Everybody has their own interests and while you won't find many women interested in doing a lot of what you are doing you will be given opportunities to date women who are interesting in their own way. You just need to expand your horizons and learn to appreciate other peoples accomplishments because we all have them. I think your real problem is going to be trying to be compatible with a girl that doesn't have your drive and energy. People with a high drive and energy can't sit still and their idea of a good time is in complete contrast to what most people do. You may have starkly different mentalities to aspects of life if she isn't a drive go getter like you. Always one out there though keep looking. Link to post Share on other sites
Peaceful Guy Posted December 25, 2009 Share Posted December 25, 2009 Well the reason I say that is : They don't usually like munching on the salad bar..... ya know what I mean ? i did not know that! ive never been with an asian man.. and im not sure if i have a salad bar.. hmmm.. Link to post Share on other sites
Pizzaman81 Posted December 25, 2009 Share Posted December 25, 2009 (edited) Prove it sir PM sent. Let me know if I am hired... Merry Christmas Mary! Edited December 25, 2009 by Pizzaman81 Link to post Share on other sites
Mary3 Posted December 25, 2009 Share Posted December 25, 2009 PM sent. Let me know if I am hired... Merry Christmas Mary! You are hired ! When can you come in for your drug test and background check ? Merry Christmas amazing Pizza Man Link to post Share on other sites
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