Author tigressA Posted December 21, 2009 Author Posted December 21, 2009 It is working out very well for me at this point. Like I posted earlier, I've got a solid track record going. At first I was unsure I'd be able to handle getting to know/seeing multiple people at once but I've become quite adept at it in a rather short time. At this point I know I could be seeing 5+ people if I wanted based on the volume of message/IM threads I've established, but I decided recently to not take on more than 3 at a time. I've found that's a good number. It's not too few, not too many. I see my experiences with each guy as separate from those with the others. I do what I feel is appropriate with each one under the circumstances, I stopped lumping it all into one consummate experience and making strict rules for myself in dealing with all of them. I don't really make comparisons between each guy; I just examine my connection with each of them and look at the potential for long-term compatibility with me.
looking4 green grass Posted December 21, 2009 Posted December 21, 2009 I see my experiences with each guy as separate from those with the others. I do what I feel is appropriate with each one under the circumstances, I stopped lumping it all into one consummate experience and making strict rules for myself in dealing with all of them. I don't really make comparisons between each guy; I just examine my connection with each of them and look at the potential for long-term compatibility with me. This is exactly what I have found works for me. I treat each guy as though he's the only one I'm dating. I try to look at each one to see what kind of potential each one has. I met another guy tonight for hot chocolate. And I've got a few more dinners lined up in the coming weeks. Christmas is putting a cramp in my dating style! lol Sometimes it's hard for me to relax into the moment, but once I force myself, it's quite easy.
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