lofi_tokyo Posted December 18, 2009 Posted December 18, 2009 So I've posted on this lots - I had a ONS in the summer. The guy called me a few times to hang out in the months since then, nothing panned out until about a month ago, when we actually went on a date. In a week we went out 3 times, and then I slept with him (oops). He stood me up on our next planned date, and called to say he didn't want a relationship. Two weeks later, he was out and about holding hands with someone new. So that sucks. Now, before this guy called me up again, I had two guys I was checkin' out, but nothing was going on with them at all. Both of them have now asked me out. One is thoroughly hooked and the other I have a date planned with later today. Then there's two OTHER guys. One that just asked me out for dinner tomorrow night, and another that is a work in progress. My problem is that any of these four guys holds potential... but... I feel stuck on that stupid ONS guy. Like maybe under normal circumstances I'd be super excited about all of this, but instead, I just feel depressed. How have I managed to get all these guys after me but the ONE I was really gung-ho about chose someone else? I think part of it really just has to do with the fact that I slept with the guy, so it made me feel more connected to him than I should be. Another part - seriously - is this friend group of his. I've known them since I was a kid and I love spending time with them. I'm crushed that I'll never really get back into it now. Sorry for all this typing, I'm just frustrated/upset/ and very confused.
boogieboy Posted December 18, 2009 Posted December 18, 2009 Youre not confused, you just want the guy you cant have and the one that rejected you. Dont worry about it, you have 4 separate dates, one of those guys has to be the one to make you forget about your ONS guy.
Author lofi_tokyo Posted December 18, 2009 Author Posted December 18, 2009 I know I only care because I can't have him... and to be honest, him and I were not compatible ANYWAYS. I guess I just feel weird being rejected then BOOM bouncing into a whole new set of dates. I can't tell if I'm going along with this because I'm lonely (/ego stroke) or if I'm actually interested in these guys. It's lame to complain about, I know. I'm just annoyed with myself I guess. I wish I was more resilient with regards to rejection.
boogieboy Posted December 18, 2009 Posted December 18, 2009 My vote goes for youre doing it because youre lonely, and you have to fill the void. ONE of those guys has to stick, make sure you give them all a fighting chance.
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