alphamale Posted December 18, 2009 Posted December 18, 2009 Sometimes you have to lead a woman while in bed.... indeed, its not unlike dancing
Ms. Joolie Posted December 18, 2009 Posted December 18, 2009 This thread is completely out of control. ....................lol
carhill Posted December 18, 2009 Posted December 18, 2009 I think I'll learn the mambo and pass on the rough sex
Ms. Joolie Posted December 18, 2009 Posted December 18, 2009 I think I'll learn the mambo and pass on the rough sex ......................kinky. lol
PJKino Posted December 18, 2009 Posted December 18, 2009 Not to mention she has a boyfriend, and while I know women have no control of their emotions and instincts, I do. And as a moral person, I could never bang a taken woman, it's just not right and a huge disrespect to the poor sap who is with her. Thast what scares me most about some women and their emotions Ive seen women in good relatinships at work who told me how great theyre husbands/boyfriends are great next thing i know theyre havign an affair with a guy at work becasue they were physically attracted to him and he kept feeding them compliment after compliment and some women cant resist that Its scary what a good looking ddue who constalty chases and compliments a women can do even if that womens content in her relationship
Jersey Shortie Posted December 18, 2009 Posted December 18, 2009 I can't believe I even need to say this. Would we be even having this conversation 5 years ago? Punching and choking women? that's your idea of "dominate?" I am a woman. I DO like to be dominated in bed. However, the whole purpose of beign dominated is to be with a strong, in-control man that does not ABUSE his power. No. I don't want to be punched. Thanks. No. I don't want to be hit. Thanks. No. I don't want to be strangled. Thanks. No. It does not sexually excite me for you to tell me I am worthless. But gee, aren't you sweet for thinking so. No. I don't want to be called names and mocked. A man does not have to be dominate to be abusive. What the heck is wrong with you guys? It sounds like you are taking your ideas about what you think women want from some pretty awful, degrading atriocous porn. Oh well if the girl in porn is moaning like a banchy and asking for you to smack her in the face then that must be what NORMAL EVERYDAY women want too! God. Grow up. Here is a clue guys, why don't you try learning about what *real* women in everyday life want. Not what your messed up fantasy world and "word of mouth from your buddy at the gym are telling you what women want. Why don't you stop telling women what you think they should want or telling us we don't know what we want and stop taking your education from porn. Art critic Sometimes you have to lead a woman while in bed.. but throwing her around and overpowering her without already having a relationship established is most likely going to end the sex quickly and then end what you might have had in the future. It isn't about being a nice guy or a bad guy in bed.. it is about knowing your partner and respecting their boundaries all the while you give them the excitement that they need to stay around. Whatever that excitement is that keeps them around is different for each woman.. IMO.. One of the few truly manly responses in this thread. Well done. Now sometimes I do enjoy being over powered. But like Art critic said, there needs to be trust established first and being overpowered doesn't mean i want to be choked, punched or hit and abused. And if the guy tosses me around like a nappy-sac, that it is just as boring as if a man has to ask me if he can touch me everytime he wants too. Some of you really need to LEARN about women. You clearly know nothing.
carhill Posted December 18, 2009 Posted December 18, 2009 ......................kinky. lol Of course, after learning the mambo, I might change my mind Its scary what a good looking dude who constantly chases and compliments a woman can do even if that woman's content in her relationshipIt is, but even a not so good looking dude who connects with women can cause havoc in their relationships and marriages. BTDT. Guess I'm not so nice after all, but they still got their rape fantasies fulfilled somewhere else.
jw90063 Posted December 18, 2009 Posted December 18, 2009 I can't believe I even need to say this. Would we be even having this conversation 5 years ago? Punching and choking women? that's your idea of "dominate?" I am a woman. I DO like to be dominated in bed. However, the whole purpose of beign dominated is to be with a strong, in-control man that does not ABUSE his power. No. I don't want to be punched. Thanks. No. I don't want to be hit. Thanks. No. I don't want to be strangled. Thanks. No. It does not sexually excite me for you to tell me I am worthless. But gee, aren't you sweet for thinking so. No. I don't want to be called names and mocked. A man does not have to be dominate to be abusive. I agree. I like some domination and rougher sex, but come on. Those things are a bit overboard. I accept that some people are warped and like them, but I think its a sign of a deeper issue they have. Seriously, strangled, punched; telling someone they are worthless of all words.
Pizzaman81 Posted December 18, 2009 Posted December 18, 2009 I'm trying to picture how you hit someone in bed and get aroused by it. Scratched is a bit different. Hahah ya I remember my ex used to scratch my back heavily during her climax. I looked like I had angel wings on my back the next day. I know the guys look at that in the locker room at the gym and wonders "wtf" GREAT SUCCESS!
jw90063 Posted December 18, 2009 Posted December 18, 2009 Hahah ya I remember my ex used to scratch my back heavily during her climax. I looked like I had angel wings on my back the next day. I know the guys look at that in the locker room at the gym and wonders "wtf" GREAT SUCCESS! The only time I scratched a guys back was when I lost my virginity. It hurt so bad, that I clawed him. It wasn't extreme to the point of drawing blood or anything though. Later he told me he liked it. I was like, oh interesting.
silic0ntoad Posted December 18, 2009 Posted December 18, 2009 I agree. I like some domination and rougher sex, but come on. Those things are a bit overboard. I accept that some people are warped and like them, but I think its a sign of a deeper issue they have. Seriously, strangled, punched; telling someone they are worthless of all words. I hope you don't think I am warped because I like my chest slapped and scratched. I like to bite lips and necks. But I'd never hit a woman beyond a few spanks and some hair pulling. I just tell her to hit me. Turns me on. And I am definately not warped.
DollyMix Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 this thread is lewd! just a word of advice i like it a little rough, probably not if i'd only just started out with someone, but if anyone said something mean to me that would be it lmao I'd hop off and give a really mean look so maybe play it safe on the name calling
mem11363 Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 JS, Great post - right on point. I can't believe I even need to say this. Would we be even having this conversation 5 years ago? Punching and choking women? that's your idea of "dominate?" I am a woman. I DO like to be dominated in bed. However, the whole purpose of beign dominated is to be with a strong, in-control man that does not ABUSE his power. No. I don't want to be punched. Thanks. No. I don't want to be hit. Thanks. No. I don't want to be strangled. Thanks. No. It does not sexually excite me for you to tell me I am worthless. But gee, aren't you sweet for thinking so. No. I don't want to be called names and mocked. A man does not have to be dominate to be abusive. What the heck is wrong with you guys? It sounds like you are taking your ideas about what you think women want from some pretty awful, degrading atriocous porn. Oh well if the girl in porn is moaning like a banchy and asking for you to smack her in the face then that must be what NORMAL EVERYDAY women want too! God. Grow up. Here is a clue guys, why don't you try learning about what *real* women in everyday life want. Not what your messed up fantasy world and "word of mouth from your buddy at the gym are telling you what women want. Why don't you stop telling women what you think they should want or telling us we don't know what we want and stop taking your education from porn. One of the few truly manly responses in this thread. Well done. Now sometimes I do enjoy being over powered. But like Art critic said, there needs to be trust established first and being overpowered doesn't mean i want to be choked, punched or hit and abused. And if the guy tosses me around like a nappy-sac, that it is just as boring as if a man has to ask me if he can touch me everytime he wants too. Some of you really need to LEARN about women. You clearly know nothing.
CLC2008 Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 Thast what scares me most about some women and their emotions Ive seen women in good relatinships at work who told me how great theyre husbands/boyfriends are great next thing i know theyre havign an affair with a guy at work becasue they were physically attracted to him and he kept feeding them compliment after compliment and some women cant resist that Its scary what a good looking ddue who constalty chases and compliments a women can do even if that womens content in her relationship You guys are hilarious. I guess this means that you can control your physical urges, but we (women) can't because we're "emotional".
tami-chan Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 Oh, I don't hit anyone! I never hit a lady. But she can slap me, like on my chest... That's hot. Not like a power slam or something, just a slap, and calling me a bad boy or something stupid and corny. I like to laugh while humping. It's supposed to be fun, right? <b*tchslaps silicOntoad across the face and back> you mean like that? Just kidding, ST!
Pink Cupcakes Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 Just "take"? Wow, you just described rape and no, women don't want to be raped.
Des Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 not the same way as holding her down, telling her you're going to F her hard, "choking" her (not violently), covering her mouth, calling her derogatory names, etc. Many women are also reticent to ADMIT to wanting this type of treatment, because they feel (unfortunately) ashamed to admit that's naturally appealing but socially denigrating. This is especially true in our feminist-minded society This is such a sick mentality. This is also a porn mentality, more importantly... What is so scary about it, is that some men truly believe this. Brainwash through the porn industry, men think that deep down women truly want to be abused and degraded, and that it's normal or okay. Even worse as pointed out here, is that this porn does in fact reinforce this "idea" that women won't admit to it that they like and want abuse. This message plays out time and time again in porn, "she may be crying and grimacing, but she loves it". I'd be willing to bet anything porn is where samspade "learned" this about women. Otherwise, he just started abusing them himself one day and miraculously found it to be true with every woman he came in contact with. Which is more likely? This idea that we have such a feminist-minded society to suggest that women don't by their nature, like being slapped, strangled, smothered and told they are worthless. Because we all know that's what women truly find pleasure in, humiliation, discomfort, pain, degradation, etc. I always hear the argument that the amount men who actually think this way are very limited, but when you can't go into any sexual discussion on any message board without hearing this kind of viewpoint from several men, I think that says something different. A lot of men really do think this way.
SoulSearch_CO Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 It's kind of like women with rape fantasies, it's not nearly as rare as you think, i would say it's common, but of course, hushhh... can't let people know about that. It's not common.. I can't stand beta and I hate that I'm agreeing with him...but it's actually pretty common. :| http://www.thefreelibrary.com/Women%27s+erotic+rape+fantasies:+an+evaluation+of+theory+and+research.-a0176374283 Overall, there are nine reports of the percentage of women who have had rape fantasies, with these estimates ranging from 31% to 57%. Estimates were evenly distributed, with a median of 42%. In addition, these may be underestimates. It's more of the power dynamic that women are fantasizing about, IMO. But I do not agree that that has to involved violence.
Jersey Shortie Posted December 20, 2009 Posted December 20, 2009 This idea that we have such a feminist-minded society to suggest that women don't by their nature, like being slapped, strangled, smothered and told they are worthless. Because we all know that's what women truly find pleasure in, humiliation, discomfort, pain, degradation, etc. I always hear the argument that the amount men who actually think this way are very limited, but when you can't go into any sexual discussion on any message board without hearing this kind of viewpoint from several men, I think that says something different. A lot of men really do think this way This is the second thread ina week or two that has been abount sexual violence towards women. And it is quite scarey to say the least. Perhaps, and hopefully for us women, this is just the kind of men LS attracts and NOT how most men are deep down. But I got to agree, I love how some guys use the word "feminist" like it's a dirty word just because women don't like to be smacked around and punched in the face. There are very few men in this thread that have any understanding of what true dominence is about. Or what true leadership is about. No woman that is healthy minded is going to follow you if your idea of being a man is your ability to raise your fist to them durning sex or make then choke. The sad thing is that I do think this kind of stuff displayed in porn is out of a deep seed hate for women and a deep desire to feel some sort of power in a world that has infact afforded women more power then men were ever use to. Too bad so many young boys are going to be growing up with this stuff at their finger tips.
aerogurl87 Posted December 21, 2009 Posted December 21, 2009 There is a line between rough sex and just being plain abusive. For me, I like to bite, scratch, and push my boyfriend on the bed sometimes. But he already knows that so it's not like I just spring it on him. Also if he tells me he doesn't want to have any "cat scratches" as he calls them (meaning scratches on his back) then I back off of the scratching or anything he asks of me. We respect each other, so when sex is just plain old f*cking it's just rough and not abuse. But just springing some crazy, animalistic move on an unsuspecting partner is abuse and wrong. For instance I'm very against a man calling me names even if it's in the bedroom, so if my boyfriend were to start doing that I'd count that as abuse.
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