ms.ac Posted December 18, 2009 Posted December 18, 2009 I posted my whole story not too long ago. I haven't talked to my ex since the whole horrible situation. My heart is broken and it seems even harder because of the holidays. I was close to his family and i know i can't go to their house for christmas regardless if they say i can, I plan to send a box of presents for his family and niece's but definitely not go there because it will be torture to me. I have to face that he has replaced me and that i can not call him. I am having a very hard time with everything and to make matters worse I can not stop dreaming about him. I have dreams we are still together, or that he breaks up with his new girl and is all about me, or that nothing has happened and we are happy and then have to wake up missing him and being completely miserable to face reality. I can not stop thinking about him with someone else and her taking my spot in his life... I have started hobbies... I keep myself surrounded by friends and family and Im still going insane, everything reminds me of him and my pain, I have to stop myself from calling all the time. I wonder if he thinks of me, and if he misses me even though he has someone else, I can't stop going over all of the mean things he said and the relationship he threw in my face wondering if it is all true... Does anyone have advice?? Please help.
Eisenhower Posted December 18, 2009 Posted December 18, 2009 No advice, sorry, but I'm going through much the same thing and all I can say is I'm sorry for your pain - I know what it's like. I'll have dreams that we're making love, or dreams about her being with her new guy, or dreams about her kids telling me how much they miss me ... it's torture when you wake up and realize the pain is going to be even worse today because of the dream you just had. It's got to get better though - Lord knows it couldn't get worse. So hang in there. Eisenhower
GrayClouds Posted December 18, 2009 Posted December 18, 2009 Ever night before bed get a pen and paper and write. Write all that comes to you write hard and fast with no edits. Write through the tears and write some more. Write until you can not write any more Get it out. It will help with the dreams. PS Write, not type, that is important and spelling does not count on your final grade. Just write. .
Zeegagge Posted December 18, 2009 Posted December 18, 2009 I too know exactly what you're talking about, have been through it and it sucks. It does go away eventually. As far as what Graycloud says about the writing, do it. Start tonight. He is absolutely 100% right. It may not fix everything but it will help, I promise.
Zeegagge Posted December 20, 2009 Posted December 20, 2009 One more thing, this may or may not work for everyone but it's worth a shot and has helped me, try sleeping with a little night light on.
blackbear_703 Posted December 20, 2009 Posted December 20, 2009 One more thing, this may or may not work for everyone but it's worth a shot and has helped me, try sleeping with a little night light on. I'll have to give that a try, thanks. One of those aquarium or night sky-type night lights might do the trick. And I'm sure writing will most definitely help. As for me, I had dreams about my ex earlier and now I'm having a hard time sleeping tonight myself. It was one of those where we were walking together on a sunny day and then all of a sudden started fighting. When I woke up...nothing. Hopefully these dreams will stop sooner rather than later.
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