viz Posted December 18, 2009 Posted December 18, 2009 Hello, I'm a guy who successfully got a date with someone and we went out. We went to an outdoor all day festival and both of us had a blast. We never ran out of conversation and when we did it was because we were dancing our asses off. She told me she had a great time, came back to my place and we had some wine. Then she had to go because her babysitting was up. (she told me this time before the date started) The next day her best friend calls me (who I am friends with, she dates my brother) and tells me I should have kissed her. I'm like great this is a good sign. I don't press anyone to make out with me on the first date. I just don't think it's cool. I called her we set up a new date but she had to cancel because she wasn't feeling well but told me ok we'll go out next week. I called her we set up the new time, had some conversation etc. On the day of, she tells me she has to cancel because her ex switched up off days. At this point I figure if I press her, I'll seem like a stalker, that 2 cancels is probably not a good sign so I call off the chase. Then she invites me to her halloween party. I go, she's there, and there's no guy. I went solo. She was hosting the party, grilling oysters etc, and generally being a great host. I had a great time, met her friends, liked them and by the end of the night we were all having a great time. I had to leave at around midnight so I say good bye, she's like "I am sooo glad you came, you really added a lot to my party, >big long hug< luv ya!" I'm in the friend zone now aren't I?
betamanlet Posted December 18, 2009 Posted December 18, 2009 Hello, I'm a guy who successfully got a date with someone and we went out. We went to an outdoor all day festival and both of us had a blast. We never ran out of conversation and when we did it was because we were dancing our asses off. She told me she had a great time, came back to my place and we had some wine. Then she had to go because her babysitting was up. (she told me this time before the date started) The next day her best friend calls me (who I am friends with, she dates my brother) and tells me I should have kissed her. I'm like great this is a good sign. I don't press anyone to make out with me on the first date. I just don't think it's cool. I called her we set up a new date but she had to cancel because she wasn't feeling well but told me ok we'll go out next week. I called her we set up the new time, had some conversation etc. On the day of, she tells me she has to cancel because her ex switched up off days. At this point I figure if I press her, I'll seem like a stalker, that 2 cancels is probably not a good sign so I call off the chase. Then she invites me to her halloween party. I go, she's there, and there's no guy. I went solo. She was hosting the party, grilling oysters etc, and generally being a great host. I had a great time, met her friends, liked them and by the end of the night we were all having a great time. I had to leave at around midnight so I say good bye, she's like "I am sooo glad you came, you really added a lot to my party, >big long hug< luv ya!" I'm in the friend zone now aren't I? Sounds like you are in the friend zone. She obviously complained to the friend that you didn't try to kiss her, hence she thinks you aren't confident, and that's a reason to dismiss you as she has other options who will try to kiss her. Learn and move on.
Ms. Joolie Posted December 18, 2009 Posted December 18, 2009 And since the halloween party? What's happened between then and now? From what you posted, it sounds like that was the last time you saw her. Sorry but that's like acquaintance zoned now... lol.
betamanlet Posted December 18, 2009 Posted December 18, 2009 And since the halloween party? What's happened between then and now? From what you posted, it sounds like that was the last time you saw her. Sorry but that's like acquaintance zoned now... lol. that's better than being a "friend" if you want to have sex with the person.
Ms. Joolie Posted December 18, 2009 Posted December 18, 2009 that's better than being a "friend" if you want to have sex with the person. Sex? ewww... that's not what he wants.
betamanlet Posted December 18, 2009 Posted December 18, 2009 Sex? ewww... that's not what he wants. I know, we can find out for sure if this woman describes him as "nice"
Author viz Posted December 18, 2009 Author Posted December 18, 2009 (edited) Got it. I'm going to an xmas party at my brother's GF's house tonight is why I'm bringing it up now. She'll be there and alone and I'm done with the relationship I had between October and now so I'll be alone too. Before you ask, I started seeing some flags so I ended it a couple of weeks ago. That relationship got off to a decent start. I didn't go for a kiss on the first date with her. Second date she rocked my world, so I'm definitely not a complete boob. She knows I'm confident :-/ That's beyond question. I just have a rule about kissing on the first date. I've been told by several women that going for it on the first date makes you seem like you are only after one thing. I prefer to be reserved and cool and not give that impression because that's not what I'm about. I'm not a one night stand kind of person. I'm looking for a girlfriend not a lay. Maybe this is the problem. I kind of feel like it's a crap shoot with a first date, damned if you do, damned if you don't. It's a respect thing, not a confidence problem, at least from my point of view. I'm definitely not afraid to kiss girls ROFL. She's just smart and very attractive and if I have a shot I'm going for it but it sounds like FZ. I'll wait till the alcohol starts flowing and see what happens. :-p Edited December 18, 2009 by viz
Ms. Joolie Posted December 18, 2009 Posted December 18, 2009 So your plan is to become intoxicated and then make out with her? Well.... that might work if she's drunk, too, and willing. Just make it a goal to ask her out again. Have a good time tonight, be your best self, and get that date from her.
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