Okeydokey Posted December 18, 2009 Posted December 18, 2009 Is "I'll call you next week" a kind of power grab? Went out for drinks a couple weeks ago with a guy that I've known through work for a few months. First thing the next morning he e-mails to say what a wonderful time he had, and I responded with something friendly. The next week I e'mailed to see if he wanted to hang out over the Weekend. He says: I'm out of town this weekend, but please don't take this as me not being interested. Maybe next weekend? I'll call you next week. No call. WTF? Before that he had been the one contacting me more and we aren't really good enough friends for me to e-mail again. Kind of feels like a power grab (I know it should be about that, but it is) to keep me wondering - and its working despite the cliche. Thoughts????
Ichi-boned Posted December 18, 2009 Posted December 18, 2009 Is "I'll call you next week" a kind of power grab? Went out for drinks a couple weeks ago with a guy that I've known through work for a few months. First thing the next morning he e-mails to say what a wonderful time he had, and I responded with something friendly. The next week I e'mailed to see if he wanted to hang out over the Weekend. He says: I'm out of town this weekend, but please don't take this as me not being interested. Maybe next weekend? I'll call you next week. No call. WTF? Before that he had been the one contacting me more and we aren't really good enough friends for me to e-mail again. Kind of feels like a power grab (I know it should be about that, but it is) to keep me wondering - and its working despite the cliche. Thoughts???? I don't think it's a power grab. I think it's you who should've grabbed something and didn't. And by something I mean his cock.
meerkat stew Posted December 18, 2009 Posted December 18, 2009 Who knows, he could be really busy. The types of people who are prone to power grabs are not the types who are going to insert "don't take this as a lack of interest" phrases into an email turning down an invitation in my experience. There's a chance he isn't that interested, busy, involved with someone else. Don't assume he's playing games just because you are feeling the same effect as if he had been playing a game. See his behavior going forward. Sorry to say, but I'm afraid he may not be that interested.
Author Okeydokey Posted December 19, 2009 Author Posted December 19, 2009 Thanks for the feedback. Sometimes on these forums you have a question that everyone has seen a million times so I hesitated to ask, but I'm glad I did. As you say could be any of those things. My friend just started a really tough new job 2 weeks ago, just moved to town, and just lost his mom. I don't want to make excuses for the lack of contact, but there are definitely a lot of other emotional and professional pulls right now. I guess I'll just see. Again, I appreciate that the 2 of you chimed in.
soconfusing Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 There is this one guy that I've been dating occasionally (we're not exclusive yet) and because of his work schedule, I will sometimes go an entire week without hearing from him. I am well aware that he is not dating anyone else (sometimes you just know) and I know that he is definitely very interested in me. So, with that being said, your guy could honestly just be really busy with work. But he did say for you not to think he wasn't interested. Hey, at least he made that known to you. If he wasn't interested at all, he might have just left it at "I'm working, I might call you next week". Just leave him be and let him make the next move.
westrock Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 My friend just started a really tough new job 2 weeks ago, just moved to town, and just lost his mom. That is a lot for anyone to handle. Reach out to him in a friendly way. I think it's okay to send him another friendly simple email just asking how are things going. Don't mention about getting together, that's his job to ask you out.
Author Okeydokey Posted December 19, 2009 Author Posted December 19, 2009 Thanks guys. Helpful to see that you feel like I can e-mail if I want to and not if I don't. My guess is that I probably won't just because I don't want to spend more time thinking about it now, which I will if I don't get the response that I want!!! haha. Your input was helpful - impossible to know what is going on: not super interested, interested but too busy, not super interested and too busy. Who knows? As we all know, it's the not knowing that is maddening. lol.
stevejohnson1976 Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 And by something I mean his cock. more women need to live by this.....
threebyfate Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 Okeydokey, don't call or wait. Date others.
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