Pentel Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 soo i broke up with my ex like 2 months ago, and she has been chaging her mind for all those 2 months, yes, no , yes,no and like a week or two , she said she wanted to get back with me, she said that she really loved me, and didn't want to loose me, and that she felt bad for everything, and we got back together 2 days ago, yesterday she said she didn't know what she wanted, that she tried, but she didn't felt comfortable, that she really loves me but she isn't comfortable with me, and that she wants to try it later, when she feels better
Island Girl Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 soo i broke up with my ex like 2 months ago, and she has been chaging her mind for all those 2 months, yes, no , yes,no and like a week or two , she said she wanted to get back with me, she said that she really loved me, and didn't want to loose me, and that she felt bad for everything, and we got back together 2 days ago, yesterday she said she didn't know what she wanted, that she tried, but she didn't felt comfortable, that she really loves me but she isn't comfortable with me, and that she wants to try it later, when she feels better You still have to have a backbone. There were reasons you broke up with her and those should have been addressed before reconciliation. And you never ever just jump back in. That is just bad for the relationship and effects both the dumper and dumpee. Right now you have given over everything and she is calling the shots. You just get spoon fed the way it is going to be, when, and how. You need to get your strength and your spine back. As much as you may care about someone if you can not respect them the relationship WILL fail. And who can respect someone who is kicked around and says "but eventually you will stop doing this and we'll be back together so I'll just let you keep kicking me around..."
Kantor Posted December 18, 2009 Posted December 18, 2009 You still have to have a backbone. There were reasons you broke up with her and those should have been addressed before reconciliation. And you never ever just jump back in. That is just bad for the relationship and effects both the dumper and dumpee. Right now you have given over everything and she is calling the shots. You just get spoon fed the way it is going to be, when, and how. You need to get your strength and your spine back. As much as you may care about someone if you can not respect them the relationship WILL fail. And who can respect someone who is kicked around and says "but eventually you will stop doing this and we'll be back together so I'll just let you keep kicking me around..." Agreed, your in a bad cycle that you are hoping for the best, but its just not going to happen. We've all been there and you need to get out and take some time to figure things out. Like IslandGirl said, you can't just jump back into your comfort zone. You really have to had enough time to start the process all over again and develop the comfort and connection you once had. Good luck.
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