Lovelybird Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 Good example.. "I slept with you, have another girlfriend, I am not interested in you" Her thinking: "OMG, I want him so bad. He is perfect!" "I find you attractive and would love to take you out to dinner tomorrow, when will you be ready?" Her thinking : "Boooring.." Psychologist has term for this kind of girl: splited. she cannot love her best friend, only have chemistry with the ones treat her badly or they have few common in their relationship. If you encourter this kind of women all the time, then there is a good chance that you are splitted as well. but there is cure for this
Author calizaggy Posted December 19, 2009 Author Posted December 19, 2009 Psychologist has term for this kind of girl: splited. she cannot love her best friend, only have chemistry with the ones treat her badly or they have few common in their relationship. If you encourter this kind of women all the time, then there is a good chance that you are splitted as well. but there is cure for this I do not follow your logic..If I approach various women in different places, even from different countries, and they turn out to be "splitted", then I am as well?
carhill Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Splitting_(psychology) Perhaps it's an attraction dynamic, aka 'signals'. Much is unknown about elemental attraction and why we initially gravitate towards certain people. Interesting stuff
DollyMix Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 you don't seem like a very good catch to me, your attitude to women seems warped
Lovelybird Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 (edited) I do not follow your logic..If I approach various women in different places, even from different countries, and they turn out to be "splitted", then I am as well? Well, that means these women cannot really relate to the man on a deeper level, only want superficial relationships, which in the end bring emptiness, if a man comes along, and he doesn't want deep connection or he doesn't know what is deep connection, in most cases he will be attracted the woman, so they will be 'safe' together to live superficially without being intimate So what is intimate? I just checked the definition because I was not sure I know it correctly. Dr. Henry said intimacy is "fully known by another at all levels and still be accepted by this person". SO sex only isn't intimate Edited December 19, 2009 by Lovelybird
stillafool Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 Yeah, maybe in Bangkok. In Bangkok, women approach men, often. No dear, in the United States of America. Women ask men out, ask them to dance and sometimes, (believe it or not don't mind paying).
meerkat stew Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 No dear, in the United States of America. Women ask men out, ask them to dance and sometimes, (believe it or not don't mind paying). Outlier behavior is outlier.
stillafool Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 Outlier behavior is outlier. Not at all! I know it kills some guys that women have options and money to do and date as they wish.
stillafool Posted December 21, 2009 Posted December 21, 2009 the overall theme here seems to be that girls tend to want what they can't have or something that present's a challenge. I don't see where the argument comes in and for all you ladies hear trying to crucify calizaggy and the others...hear is case in point. fixed on one person This poor girl has 4 separate dates that could turn out to be anything, maybe even the one. They are all fairly new and the clay is pretty soft. But still, shes hung up on the elusive guy that is no longer giving her the time of day. What is so different between this"poor girl" and the guys who complain about the same thing on this forum? They could date other women but they want that one "elusive" woman that won't give them the time of day.
stillafool Posted December 21, 2009 Posted December 21, 2009 Here's a great demarcation between the genders. Overwhelmingly, a man can't 'fix' a bitch, but a woman can use sex to fix a bad boy/*******/jerk/whatever negative behavior set. Too many women have married "bad boy/*****/jerk" only to find out that he cannot be faithful no matter how much sex you give him.
betamanlet Posted December 21, 2009 Posted December 21, 2009 Too many women have married "bad boy/*****/jerk" only to find out that he cannot be faithful no matter how much sex you give him. But that's his appeal. Women desire men that other women desire. There's drama in that, there's no drama in fidelity.
espec10001 Posted December 21, 2009 Posted December 21, 2009 But that's his appeal. Women desire men that other women desire. There's drama in that, there's no drama in fidelity. Dude, don't you get it. Romantic relationships ARE drama. They are like a rollercoaster. There are ups and downs, loops, highs and lows. If you want to find quiet and peace in a romantic relationship or a woman, you will not find it! I'm not saying women are bad, I love women. But I've been in enough relationships to know that they are akin to a drug. That initial rush, that high, gets you going. So you keep at it and then there are lows, trying to get the high back. It is all the game of desire. Women are the fruit on the tree of life, men have the fire inside them, the passion, that keeps the human species going. If they upset you that much, then find peace in solitude because whining about them won't do you any good. They are what they are.
PJKino Posted December 21, 2009 Posted December 21, 2009 Dude, don't you get it. Romantic relationships ARE drama. They are like a rollercoaster. There are ups and downs, loops, highs and lows. If you want to find quiet and peace in a romantic relationship or a woman, you will not find it! I'm not saying women are bad, I love women. But I've been in enough relationships to know that they are akin to a drug. That initial rush, that high, gets you going. So you keep at it and then there are lows, trying to get the high back. It is all the game of desire. Women are the fruit on the tree of life, men have the fire inside them, the passion, that keeps the human species going. If they upset you that much, then find peace in solitude because whining about them won't do you any good. They are what they are. So youre saying women are insane
espec10001 Posted December 21, 2009 Posted December 21, 2009 So youre saying women are insane No, I'm saying this whole world is an illusion, Maya, she is the Divine Mother. She is the Tree of Life, and her fruit is women. Just like a tree of fruit in real life, there are beautiful, bountiful, and nourishing ones; but also ugly, rotting, and deceptive ones. How can you decide which one is which by looks alone? You can't. We men are the fire, the passion, the burning desire which wants to have the women. We seek fulfillment in women, a sense of purpose in finding a female companion. But when we do this, we are continuing the cycle of life and death on this earth, and we fall for her over and over again. I'm saying women are what they are because that is just how it is. You can never truly know a woman unless you know the tree on which she comes from.
torranceshipman Posted December 21, 2009 Posted December 21, 2009 Listen...if you pick a confident girl who is nice and who respects herself, then you need to respect her, else she won't want to know you. If you do she'll treat YOU with respect too and you'll have a great R. If you pick a drama queen 20yr old who is insecure and needs to feel like she's won a man for all of her validation, then the stupid tricks like being a bit of an azzhole might well work. She'sthe type that'll probably end up cheating on you or acting crazy jealous or whatever. I'm presuming you only want the 2nd type, because of the subject of this thread. In which case you're going to have problems all the time. Also if you are misogynistic, carry your dating baggage around, etc, then again, only the 2nd type will want you. Enf of story - it's as simple as that.
stillafool Posted December 21, 2009 Posted December 21, 2009 Too many women have married "bad boy/*****/jerk" only to find out that he cannot be faithful no matter how much sex you give him. Yes much the same way men want other men's women and money.
meerkat stew Posted December 22, 2009 Posted December 22, 2009 Outlier behavior is outlier. Not at all! I know it kills some guys that women have options and money to do and date as they wish. So your position is that women asking men out and asking men to dance is -standard- behavior in U.S. culture, and not outlier behavior?
Woggle Posted December 22, 2009 Posted December 22, 2009 It is true that many women for some reason seem addicted to the drama that jerks bring but why would any man want a woman like this anyway. Many men in this thread are complaining about not getting women they wouldn't want anyway. Is a woman that needs to be treated like crap in order to stay attracted really what you want?
Author calizaggy Posted December 22, 2009 Author Posted December 22, 2009 It is true that many women for some reason seem addicted to the drama that jerks bring but why would any man want a woman like this anyway. Many men in this thread are complaining about not getting women they wouldn't want anyway. Is a woman that needs to be treated like crap in order to stay attracted really what you want? I do not think men want a "woman like that", but it seems women are wired that way. What are the choices? Let's say you meet a great girl... You can A: Focus on your own life, give her little attention, or B. Think that you found a really cool girl, start to see her more, and then fall into that trap again where she then becomes "bored" and "loses attraction"
skydiveaddict Posted December 22, 2009 Posted December 22, 2009 I do not think men want a "woman like that", but it seems women are wired that way. What are the choices? Let's say you meet a great girl... You can A: Focus on your own life, give her little attention, or B. Think that you found a really cool girl, start to see her more, and then fall into that trap again where she then becomes "bored" and "loses attraction" or C: treat them like s..t and they will be all over you
stillafool Posted December 22, 2009 Posted December 22, 2009 So your position is that women asking men out and asking men to dance is -standard- behavior in U.S. culture, and not outlier behavior? Women having been asking men to dance for decades now. Have you ever been to clubs? What is so odd about women asking men to dance or even asking them to go out to dinner? You know I don't understand you men. I have heard men whine about how they are afraid of being rejected and then when a woman steps up and takes the first step you act as if it is unappealing. Why is this a problem for you?
stillafool Posted December 22, 2009 Posted December 22, 2009 It is true that many women for some reason seem addicted to the drama that jerks bring but why would any man want a woman like this anyway. Many men in this thread are complaining about not getting women they wouldn't want anyway. Is a woman that needs to be treated like crap in order to stay attracted really what you want? I agree. They want the women who are attracted to what they call "jerks". Yet they want these women so bad they are willing to become "jerks" themselves just to have them.
Author calizaggy Posted December 22, 2009 Author Posted December 22, 2009 Women having been asking men to dance for decades now. Have you ever been to clubs? What is so odd about women asking men to dance or even asking them to go out to dinner? You know I don't understand you men. I have heard men whine about how they are afraid of being rejected and then when a woman steps up and takes the first step you act as if it is unappealing. Why is this a problem for you? Never in my life have I met any man that had a female he did not know come up to him and say "let me take you to dinner" Your style of arguing is similar to this... I might say: "Women generally like taller men" Then you chime in: "Not true! I have a friend that is attracted to midgets!" Obviously, as Meerkat would say, your friend exhibits "outlier" behavior, but you cannot seem to grasp that concept..
stillafool Posted December 22, 2009 Posted December 22, 2009 or C: treat them like s..t and they will be all over you If anything like what you are suggesting works, it's only because the women has mad physical and emotional attraction to the guy. So if that initial attraction isn't there, what you suggest will never work. Women treat guys like crap also and men stick around; but they also have mad attraction for her.
skydiveaddict Posted December 22, 2009 Posted December 22, 2009 If anything like what you are suggesting works, it's only because the women has mad physical and emotional attraction to the guy. So if that initial attraction isn't there, what you suggest will never work. Women treat guys like crap also and men stick around; but they also have mad attraction for her. i agree. most women are physically & emotionally attracted to jerks and a-holes. the quickest way to turn off a woman is to come across as a "sweet, caring guy" as a matter of fact, if a guy wants to dump his gf, all he has to do is start being "nice" to her. she will quickly get bored with the situation and quite likely end up dumping him first
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