scenester Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 So, yes my ex-girlfriend did call me yesterday afternoon. I was sort of excited to see her name ringing my phone...to say the least. I certainly didn't expect her to be calling considering our seldom interactions since I "called it off." Lets start off by giving you some info on our previous relationship. I met this girl of July 4th, at a buddies. I must say I was pretty drunk. She was my friends-friends-friend. The attraction between us was evident from the start. We started clicking that night and she was very flirtatious toward me; I was the same. So, basically to make a long story short, I got her number that night and things were steady. I felt very accomplished that night, that was the first girl, after a lot of girl I've dated that I felt really connected with. We both shared a lot of common interests. We start talking instantly the next morning and our connection grows. To fast foward awhile.... I've had soo much fun with this girl the four months that we were "talking" (July-October). I felt at home with her. It seemed no matter what we did together we always seemed to have fun and enjoy eachothers company. She really connected with my friends and really enjoyed hanging out with my friends and I. When it comes around to me asking her to be my girlfriend (september) she says she "can't." I start panicking cause I don't see why not after all the fun and enjoyment we've had together. She says that she doesnt want to hurt me and she just isn't emotionally ready to be in a realtionship. Lets note her she has only had sex with 1 guy prior, during our 4 months, I've been extremely close but she would always push me away, because she is scared of how it will be different. I was fine with this, I told her when you're ready we can do it. No biggie. So, anyways I suck it up and tell her "okay." Later down the road I feel her distancing from me. Not calling me/texting me as much. I told her I couldn't be just her friend at the time, it'd hurt to much, and thats what she wanted, but I was gonna stand my ground and not be her emotional tampon. We broke off contact in late September due to her not being able to be in a relationship with me. Me calling it off went pretty smoothly, it was a terrible breakup or anything....I understood I wanted her comitment and she wasnt ready to give it to me so I had to move on and I did just that. So after not talking with her for justa bout 3 months she calls me. I answer and she shoot out a big exciting "hey!" And I do the same....We talk for atleast 40 mins about everything possible. We both felt enlightned from hearing eachother. Anyway, I end the call and told her I was going to get a haircut. She informs me she is gonna be in my town later with her guy friend and I said thats great call me maybe if you would like to meet somewhere I dont really have plans tonight. She said sure, call me anytime to hangout or anything. So she never did call me that night btw. So, what I;m getting at is that I'm feeling kinda remorsful here. I felt soo good with that girl and now the nostalgia is setting in. I wish we coulda worked and now I'm sensing maybe she opened contact because maybe now she is ready to commit and she wants to see if i'll take the bait and show mild interest, which I did, sorta. I wont lie i'd take this gilr back for her to be my girlfriend. I would like to slowly work back to the way we were is what i'm saying. Is she showing me signs she has interest again? That she is ready to commit? ..Or is it she just misses and old 'friend' and wants to re-connect.' What are some signs I should look for if she's trying to get back? Cause if I see them I will deff make a move to get her back, but I'm certainly not gonna make it first, I frankly dont think I should need to at this point. Shes the one that couldnt commit in the first place and if she wants me back she'll show signs. What do you suggest? P.S. Sorry for rambling, just wanted to give you a real well understanding on everything.
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