Pentel Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 i mean have you ever got someone back thanks to NC? and after how long? have you ever stopped loving them? after how long? share story pleasee
Kantor Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 i mean have you ever got someone back thanks to NC? and after how long? have you ever stopped loving them? after how long? share story pleasee Not yet - 2 weeks (although i broke it today) Love them more then ever, even after beginning to learn the error of my ways and learning how to take steps to fix my commitment problems. So im a NC newbie, but wanted to share the story and get the ball rolling.
Renesis13B Posted December 18, 2009 Posted December 18, 2009 I try going NC but my ex keeps texting me every 2 days with a "hey" .. And damn I just can't help myself.. I asked her if I could call her today and she said of course I can.. But I hate going into shutdown NC, unless she actually says it's over for good. I would look like an ass if I don't reply.. Just my opinion.. Why? Every time I text her or want to call her, she texts back or answers. I'm also confused.. And to think I messed this up.. On Nov 15th..
McGrupp Posted December 18, 2009 Posted December 18, 2009 um..NC to heal not to get them back. NC so you dont over analyze every breadcrumb NC so they become a stranger NC so you dont become a Mcgrupp
Kantor Posted December 18, 2009 Posted December 18, 2009 NC so you dont become a Mcgrupp Ha - NC so you don't become many of us on here. *raises hand* Its a vicious cycle.
Author Pentel Posted December 18, 2009 Author Posted December 18, 2009 um..NC to heal not to get them back. NC so you dont over analyze every breadcrumb NC so they become a stranger NC so you dont become a Mcgrupp read your pm, and ill try to go NC right now, i don't want to, but i know i got too, if i ever want her back, i got to, if i ever want to forget her, i got to, if i want to become a better person... i got to
Kantor Posted December 18, 2009 Posted December 18, 2009 read your pm, and ill try to go NC right now, i don't want to, but i know i got too, if i ever want her back, i got to, if i ever want to forget her, i got to, if i want to become a better person... i got to You need to figure out whats best for you, you still sound very confused. Do you want her back? If so why? Sounds like she has done a lot to mess with you and all the breadcrumbs? Thats not fair to you. Don't do NC because you still have hope to get her back. Do NC because you deserve better, do it so you can move on and never be strung along again. Today was my last shot, and I crashed and burned too. Mine was after a short NC period (2 weeks) but I'm moving on, I'm not going to contact her anymore, because if she isn't going to treat me like I want to be treated (even if I was in the wrong in the break up) I deserve better. Im not going to contact her, not because Im hoping to get her back, but Im not going to contact her because I'm done with her. Thats it, thats enough. Be strong friend you can do this.
twinklecat Posted December 18, 2009 Posted December 18, 2009 I agree with others here, NC is to focus on yourself and move on, not to get back with someone. It did once "work" with me with a previous ex, he finished things by text so never contacted him again, a year later he contacted me and we tried again. It lasted something like 9 months, realised he hadn't changed, opened up a whole world of other crap, so I would say never look back, always look forward. Sorry to say this but if something did not work the first time around, it's unlikely it will the second time around.
selena_cat Posted December 18, 2009 Posted December 18, 2009 um..NC to heal not to get them back. NC so you dont over analyze every breadcrumb NC so they become a stranger NC so you dont become a Mcgrupp hahaha,analyze every breadcrumb, i like that!
tryagaintoday Posted December 18, 2009 Posted December 18, 2009 It helped me. Can't remember when I started but I don't care anymore. It didn't get her back - which is something that I don't want. It got me back, it got my family and friends back. It got me alot of things that I always wanted to do. And most important of all, it got me the cutest sweetest girl!
Kantor Posted December 18, 2009 Posted December 18, 2009 It got me back, it got my family and friends back. It got me alot of things that I always wanted to do. And most important of all, it got me the cutest sweetest girl! Yeah! Happy Endings!
USMCHokie Posted December 18, 2009 Posted December 18, 2009 Yep...NC is slowly working...but not to get her back...because that's not what I'm doing it for...I'm doing it for me...
Kantor Posted December 18, 2009 Posted December 18, 2009 Yep...NC is slowly working...but not to get her back...because that's not what I'm doing it for...I'm doing it for me... Tis' the best way, I blocked my ex on facebook today. Never felt so good yet! Not only can I not see her stuff, she can't see mine! I will admit i looked at her FB from time to time, now I won't see her posts on my friends wall, and don't have to see anything or hear from her! Out of sight out of mind! Horray!!
Author Pentel Posted December 18, 2009 Author Posted December 18, 2009 i just want to know that it will get better...
tryagaintoday Posted December 18, 2009 Posted December 18, 2009 i just want to know that it will get better... yes, Pentel.
Oh Moe Posted December 18, 2009 Posted December 18, 2009 (edited) I try going NC but my ex keeps texting me every 2 days with a "hey" .. And damn I just can't help myself.. I asked her if I could call her today and she said of course I can.. But I hate going into shutdown NC, unless she actually says it's over for good. I would look like an ass if I don't reply.. Just my opinion.. Why? Every time I text her or want to call her, she texts back or answers. I'm also confused.. And to think I messed this up.. On Nov 15th.. Do no contact !!!!!! My Ex. did the same to me for the first two months we broke. After the first 5 days of me being an ass she called all the time I even told her I was trying to not call her and she did, I would get the Hi, you OK, What's up and so on. it was for her own ego nothing else. Now I can't even get my things back and I haven't talked to her in 5 weeks or so other then a run in that didn't go well because I asked for things back and she shrugged her shoulders and ignored me. What an ignorant Fu**. She has turned into a disrespectful person not only to me but to all. It was her total loss all I did for her and the way I treated her. She's now dating a crack head LOL and I know she's not happy and in a way I'm glad. Edited December 18, 2009 by Oh Moe
USMCHokie Posted December 18, 2009 Posted December 18, 2009 i just want to know that it will get better... Of course it will...you may not think it right now, but it will...you are following in the footsteps of millions who have had their heart broken and bounced back to find happiness...
stace79 Posted December 18, 2009 Posted December 18, 2009 i mean have you ever got someone back thanks to NC? and after how long? have you ever stopped loving them? after how long? share story pleasee After begging, pleading & crying for six weeks, I went NC for one week. We spoke on a Thurs via phone; he called me Tues and left VM, and I didn't reply. He emailed Wed and I didn't reply. On Thursday (one week NC) he was calling both my cell and office numbers and emailed me again. I finally called him back b/c he made me think something bad had happened based on his VM (he's had a sick grandfather for awhile and his sis has health problems too). In that time, though, I was focused on getting myself better, not getting him back. And what I realized was that I don't want that R anymore. I still love him and miss him, but I know in my heart that being in that R = me being a miserable, unhappy person most of the time. So I am convinced that continuing NC is best and I told him that. I have felt better than ever the past two weeks since this revelation. Think of yourself first- if you're a mess you can't take care of anyone else anyway!
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