thisisrightnow Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 So a little background info. I met a guy from a dating site. We were talking for like two weeks before we met. We've known each other for almost 3 weeks now. At that point we were texting pretty much every day and he had started to call me cause I said I liked talking on the phone better. So we were talking on the phone for like 1-2 hours a day. I went and stayed the weekend with him (I don't need a lecture on how this is "dangerous"). I did not have sex with him. Hell, we never even kissed, though he was always trying to tickle me. He paid for all my stuff while I was there, though I told him a time or two that I did have money and he said he didn't mind. I met his parent and friends while I was there. I was under the impression he told his mom and roommate things about me prior cause they mentioned stuff about me. His mom knew that I was a vet tech and his roommate knew where I was originally from. His mom even said how she really "likes this one". It seemed like he made excuses to go over to his parents house while I was there. Like to return things such as an air filter, tin can and give them some money, which I think could had easily been done the next day when I was gone. So I met 3-4 of his friends and then met his parents twice. Anyways, I haven't heard a whole lot from him since I've been back. He told me to text him when I made it home, and also told me to let him know when I would be in town again, which I will be home 5 days for Christmas. So I had assumed that he wanted to see me again. I texted him yesterday cause I hadn't heard from him in a few days. I was like, "Hey, how are you doing? Haven't really heard from you lately.." He texts back and says "Hey! Sorry I've been really busy and hopefully this weekend will lighten :-\ How are you?" So I told him I had just gotten back from an interview and he goes, So.. how'd it go?" So I told him about it. I don't know if that is a genuine "I am really busy" reply or if he was just saying that. Though I've had guys straight up ignore me and never reply if they just weren't interested. I have also had guys use the generic "I've been busy" line, but that's all they said. They didn't elaborate. I would like to think that he has really been busy. I know his friend was bugging him about working on a project car and then he has to memorize some stuff for his mason meeting tonight. So hopefully he is being true and has just been really busy. I also had the feeling that maybe he wants to wait til I am living there to get to know me better even though we spent all that time on the phone prior to us meeting. Opinions? Am I wasting my time? Should I wait to see if we even meet up when I am home next week? Am I overreacting? haha
Ms. Joolie Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 It just seems like he hasn't even made the time to date you. You had to go over and spend the weekend with him in order to see him. What did you all do? Where did you all go? He's way "too busy" for you.
Author thisisrightnow Posted December 17, 2009 Author Posted December 17, 2009 It just seems like he hasn't even made the time to date you. You had to go over and spend the weekend with him in order to see him. What did you all do? Where did you all go? He's way "too busy" for you. Well, Friday when I got in, we went to eat at a place with his friend Tyler. It was a place like Buffalo Wild Wings. Then we stopped by his parents house and I met them, and then we went back to his friend Tyler's house where we watched a Jeff Dunham DVD. Then Saturday when we woke up, I asked if there was a McDonalds near by, so we went to get some breakfast, and then he said he had to look at his friend Nathan's car and he wouldn't be long. So we were there for about two hours while he looked to see what the problem was. He kept apologizing for it taking so long. Got some lunch and brought it back to his friend's house, then we left shortly after. He said he had to take some stuff back over to his parents house, so we went over there, and he picked up some Taco Bell for all of us and we ate over there, then we went back over to his friend Tyler's house where there were probably 5 or so people hanging out. I could had left Sunday morning, but I decided to stick around while he worked on his friends car for a bit. He even warned me it would probably bore me. So he grabbed me some lunch and we went over there. Came back to his house for a bit and I left a while later. I decided to drive there cause I wouldn't have been able to see him til a few weeks later when I was gonna be home for Christmas. I just hate waiting that long to meet someone.. not knowing if we would even click right now. Part of me thinks that he can't really "date" me right now considering I live 3 hours away. I don't know if it would be different with me living there or not.
Ms. Joolie Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 Yeah.......... kinda let this one go a bit. You went over to his place but he didn't really take you out. He took you to his friend's, to his parents, to get fast food, to his parents again, to another friends, to get more fast food.... You were like his sidekick for a weekend. That's no way to get to know someone. You deserve a date, and to be dated. He needs to make the time to get to know you, make the time for YOU. Putting that aside, a 3 hour distance is way to long for me personally. So distance on top of being "too busy" would turn me off pretty quick.
Author thisisrightnow Posted December 18, 2009 Author Posted December 18, 2009 (edited) Well, like I said in my post, I'm not always going to be 3 hours from him. I do have 5 interviews this month and I'm hoping to land one of those jobs. So if I did get a job there, I'd only live about 20-30 minutes from him. I might get to see him next week, so we'll see. I'm more concerned about getting one on one time with him rather than going on a date or whatever. I do feel like we didn't get much time alone. Also, he did IM me on facebook earlier tonight. He said he just wanted to say hi before he had to go to his freemason meeting. We chatted for a few minutes. I told him not to be a stranger. he said he would talk to me later. Edited December 18, 2009 by thisisrightnow
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