pandagirl Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 This is another thread in response to my recent thread about a guy I met while attempting to date multiple people: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=213519 I am leaving for the holidays for almost 3 weeks tomorrow. He says he wants to see me before he goes, so he said he will bring me dinner tonight, watch me pack, and stay with me until I leave for the airport at 4am. Guys: is this a sign of a man who is is merely infatuated with me, or really likes me? It's moving fast. I'm kind of glad I'll be gone to slow it down.
Bejita463 Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 I would not offer to help someone pack for a trip unless I liked them a fair amount. Nor would I were I not relatively sure they felt similarly, elseit would just be weird.
jerbear Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 I think it is both. Romantic, infatuated, and likes being around you. 3 dates in 5 days is a bit much.
northstar1 Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 This is another thread in response to my recent thread about a guy I met while attempting to date multiple people: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/showthread.php?t=213519 I am leaving for the holidays for almost 3 weeks tomorrow. He says he wants to see me before he goes, so he said he will bring me dinner tonight, watch me pack, and stay with me until I leave for the airport at 4am. Guys: is this a sign of a man who is is merely infatuated with me, or really likes me? It's moving fast. I'm kind of glad I'll be gone to slow it down. It's nice that he is interested (who woudln't be?), but he is putting on a full court press which shows a bit of desperation. I have been guilty of doing that in the past, and usually it fizzles out. Slow it down and see him when you are back.
Crow9726 Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 Seems to me that if he knows you are going to be gone for three weeks...he wants to spend some more time with you before you go. I don't see it as a full court press...or desperation...or clinginess. Some others here think 3 dates in 5 days is too much. I disagree. If you like him...and he likes you...what's the problem??? The issue??? Too much overthinking and overanalyzing will kill this budding and prospective relationship. Just go with the flow and what feels right to you! After all...how many people on these forums complain about the lack of attention they get...lack of chemistry...lack of manners and graciousness. If you want to see him...and he wants to see you...that should be a good thing...not a point of contention.
northstar1 Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 Seems to me that if he knows you are going to be gone for three weeks...he wants to spend some more time with you before you go. I don't see it as a full court press...or desperation...or clinginess. Some others here think 3 dates in 5 days is too much. I disagree. If you like him...and he likes you...what's the problem??? The issue??? Too much overthinking and overanalyzing will kill this budding and prospective relationship. Just go with the flow and what feels right to you! After all...how many people on these forums complain about the lack of attention they get...lack of chemistry...lack of manners and graciousness. If you want to see him...and he wants to see you...that should be a good thing...not a point of contention. If the OP is already thinking it's too fast, then it likely is, otherwise she wouldn't be questioning it.
boogieboy Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 W cant really tell if he is truly into you or not, but I'd guess he does. If its moving too fast for you, dont let him show up with dinner to watch you pack. Tell him its moving too fast and it makes you feel awkward, but you want this to work. He shouldnt be hurt when you assure him that you are into him.
D-Jam Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 Does he like you? YES Is he also worried? YES You're going to be gone for three weeks. In his mind he thinks you might change your mind about him, never call him or take his calls anymore, or worse reconnect with an ex or meet someone new and thus he loses out. If you fancy him in some way, then don't let him come over, but make some solid plans to see him when you get back. In his mind he'll know he's still got a shot and thus he'll calm down. His actions right now are more played out from the words many men receive to move fast and get in quickly, or else you'll get FZed or she'll change her mind. Not the best advice, but it's what drives many men like this and the ones who push to get sex ASAP.
SoulSearch_CO Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 Sounds like the guy I'm seeing. Our first 3 dates were within 5 days. The 3rd being RIGHT before a 10-day trip he was taking. And...I'd say he likes me quite a bit. LOL Those dates were in August. But yes...I'd say after that third date, slow down is not such a bad thing. It helped me get my feet back on the ground a little while he was gone and pretty much completely incommunicado (outdoors trip - no cell phone). So I say dive in, have fun...then enjoy your slow down time.
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