Have u ever pushed someone away u liked because you were afraid of getting hurt?

[ShunYi]

Guys or girls....just want to hear your stories if you've ever pushed someone away because you were afraid of getting hurt again?

[SoulSearch_CO]

Yes. Am currently dealing with that nonsense. We're both doing it - push/pull. Most recent was his turn, apparently. We've been on a two-week hiatus and are now talking to each other again. *Forehead smack*

[Kiowa]

I do it all the time. When I really start to like someone, I freak out and focus on the negatives. With the guys I'm with, I've found I was trying to find ways to not want to see him. Yesterday, I got all dolled up and went shopping hoping to find another guy I know is interested in me. I realized I was being stupid and so I went home and made a list of pros and cons to help me see what a good guy he really is.

[ppge4]

yes and no. If I'm 100% into somebody, nothing is going to push me away.

 

The times where I most often find myself pushing a guy away is when I haven't gotten over another relationship. I've noticed this about myself and now I try to give the guy a chance because I've realized it's hard for anyone to live up to someone you once loved (or still do) in a short amount of time.

[lorangie1]

I've never pushed someone away that I really liked - however, just like the above poster, I have pushed people away if I wasn't totally over my last relationship - but again, if I really liked him, that's never even a problem.

[conehead]

Yes. He broke up with me then months later he wanted us to try again. I didn't want to try and he even proclaimed 'you're pushing me away! why?'

 

Well duh, cuz I dont want to go through all that crap again....

[squeaky]

yes, unfortunately. i was crazy about this guy and i know he felt the same way. we dated for 3 months, but then when things started to get more serious i freaked out and started questioning myself and the relationship. i became distant and pushed him away. i didn't mean to, i was just scared and confused. finally he broke up with me because of it. i really really liked him, i regret it very much.

[Island Girl]

Yes. In my younger years I did that A LOT.

 

I even did that with my first husband. Committed to it all the way and then bolted. Then a couple of years later I went to him again to talk about having something again -- and then immediately I disappeared.

 

But it wasn't fear of getting hurt again - it was fear of getting hurt at all ever.