supdawg1985 Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 There's this girl I like who I can't get a feel for. Whenever I try to text her or make a move, she won't respond, I can't get anything out of her. She knows I like her and I'm almost positive she doesn't like me back. I had about enough and told her point blank "tell me you don't like me" and she still won't answer. She never seems to be annoyed by me and she was always nice around me (although I feel she's tried to make me jealous),but I just want a simple answer, enough already.
boogieboy Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 There's this girl I like who I can't get a feel for. Whenever I try to text her or make a move, she won't respond, I can't get anything out of her. She knows I like her and I'm almost positive she doesn't like me back. I had about enough and told her point blank "tell me you don't like me" and she still won't answer. She never seems to be annoyed by me and she was always nice around me (although I feel she's tried to make me jealous),but I just want a simple answer, enough already. You got your answer, you already know. Shes not into you, but she enjoys the attention of you chasing her, so of course shes not going to tell you. She knows if she says "Ok, i will never like you like that" that you will take her ego boost away from her. Best thing to do, take away her ego boost. IGNORE HER FROM NOW ON!!!!! NO TEXTS, NO CALLS, NO HELLOS, NO NOTHING!!! If she texts you, shes only testing to see if you will break. She friend zoned you because you proved your time and attention isnt valuable. You will never talk to her again, forever. Get it?
bbasher75 Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 You got your answer, you already know. Shes not into you, but she enjoys the attention of you chasing her, so of course shes not going to tell you. She knows if she says "Ok, i will never like you like that" that you will take her ego boost away from her. Best thing to do, take away her ego boost. IGNORE HER FROM NOW ON!!!!! NO TEXTS, NO CALLS, NO HELLOS, NO NOTHING!!! If she texts you, shes only testing to see if you will break. She friend zoned you because you proved your time and attention isnt valuable. You will never talk to her again, forever. Get it? Boogie what is your take on men who go after women over and over until they "win them over"? I know you are against that, but how do you feel about men who have done it and actually won the girl over? In your opinion, is it just not worth it even though it "could work" because the odds are so low? Or do you just feel that even if you "win the girl over" if she had to be convinced, she wasnt really in love with you but you sort of "forced" her into it?
Author supdawg1985 Posted December 17, 2009 Author Posted December 17, 2009 That's what I figured, I just wonder how many girls act like this. I know it's not a matter of hurting my feelings, she's done that already, but I made it pretty clear I could take rejection...she just wants to feel good about herself...fine. Amazing how guys differ, I don't need some girl to tell me I'm good looking or an interesting person to feel better about myself, and I certainly don't need to use people to get the influx of confidence. To be honest though, I might toy with her some more, just the thrill of the chase type of thing until someone else comes into view.
bbasher75 Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 That's what I figured, I just wonder how many girls act like this. I know it's not a matter of hurting my feelings, she's done that already, but I made it pretty clear I could take rejection...she just wants to feel good about herself...fine. Amazing how guys differ, I don't need some girl to tell me I'm good looking or an interesting person to feel better about myself, and I certainly don't need to use people to get the influx of confidence. To be honest though, I might toy with her some more, just the thrill of the chase type of thing until someone else comes into view. Its a big reason women will never get full respect from men. They are just too insecure about themselves, and way more hurtful towards men than vice versa. Mabye it has to do with how their brains are designed, who knows. But women are not wired properly upstairs, that much is certain.
Author supdawg1985 Posted December 17, 2009 Author Posted December 17, 2009 Yeah, women just want compliments, gifts, etc. Heck, even my mom married my dad, not because she actually loved him, but she was so confident that she would be treated like a princess since he tried so hard to get her. Once the chase was over though...35 years of bad marriage. She didn't divorce because she was Catholic and was taught that divorce would lead to Hell. The only thing I don't get is that fine line between girls becoming annoyed or just enjoying being pursued. Oh, the way they think still makes me wonder...
boogieboy Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 To be honest though, I might toy with her some more, just the thrill of the chase type of thing until someone else comes into view. You mean you will let her toy with you because you dont have any other prospects at the moment? BBAsher, I am SO against persistence in that regard, I wont even entertain the idea.
Author supdawg1985 Posted December 18, 2009 Author Posted December 18, 2009 You're prolly right, heh.
meerkat stew Posted December 18, 2009 Posted December 18, 2009 Wait a minute, besides texting, what other indications does she have that you are interested? Get her phone number, call her up, ask her on a date. If you haven't yet done this, it will give you your answer, and whether she says yes or no, you will feel better once you have the definitive answer.
dazzle22 Posted December 18, 2009 Posted December 18, 2009 I think if she were interested in you at all, she would send some flirty indication back to you. When I was young, I often responded like this girl did, not because I was an evil conniving attention seeker, I just didn't want to have to actually come out and say, "I don't like you that way". It is uncomfortable and the silence to the questions was the subtle hint for the guy to back away with his honor intact. Seriously. Practice your game on girls who respond in some way. If you continue to pursue someone who is giving you no positive signs, it looks stalkerish.
Ichi-boned Posted December 18, 2009 Posted December 18, 2009 (edited) There's this girl I like who I can't get a feel for. Whenever I try to text her or make a move, she won't respond, I can't get anything out of her. She knows I like her and I'm almost positive she doesn't like me back. I had about enough and told her point blank "tell me you don't like me" and she still won't answer. She never seems to be annoyed by me and she was always nice around me (although I feel she's tried to make me jealous),but I just want a simple answer, enough already. You got your hopes up way to high there buddy. And just because you like techno doesn't mean you'll be having an orgy with the Call on Me girls anytime soon. Edited December 18, 2009 by Ichi-boned
Author supdawg1985 Posted December 19, 2009 Author Posted December 19, 2009 Yeah I'm sure I did. She was pretty flirt before she started dating this guy, but I think all girls are somewhat flirty, even in a friendly kind of way. She found out I liked her when she was in a relationship that she's now out of. I think there was a window but it's now closed for good. I just get too picky I guess with girls...I don't even know what I want with dating anymore. Should I just pursue someone I'm attracted to or someone I hit it off with? It used to seem so easy...find a girl who gives me feelings and go for it, but those types of girls are so far and few between.
Green Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 I didn't read anything after the OP but I think you should just kiss her! it will put her in a position to either avoid you and yell at you, or love it.
Author supdawg1985 Posted December 19, 2009 Author Posted December 19, 2009 I haven't kissed her, but I've put my around her and she seemed to like it, but I've made it clear enough that I was interested. I shouldn't have to be the aggressor all the time, at some point she would have to make her move...which she never did, so I pretty much give up. It seems kinda useless pursuing someone who has no interest.
Green Posted December 19, 2009 Posted December 19, 2009 its a female move to let the other person know you like them and then expect them to make the move. Look you really have to put yourself out there, kissing her would be the right move. Just get her alone say you have a secret you want to wisper to her and then when she gets close just kiss her. Don't ever expect just telling a girl you like her to do anything. You can't just be "I like you" and expect the girl to start kissing you and asking you out and making any moves at all. You the man need to take action and yes do most if not all the agressing in the begining
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