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I know, waitresses are nice with everyone, but please let me explain before you jump to conclusions... :)

 

I go to this place near my house several times a week. I usually stay quiet, eat lunch and read my newspaper.

 

One of the waitresses asked me what kind of work I do... Then a week later she asks whether I can give her some advice on her school assignment. I think those are unusual questions coming from someone who doesn't know me.

 

Do you think there's an opportunity for me to ask her out for coffee or something?

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I know, waitresses are nice with everyone, but please let me explain before you jump to conclusions... :)

 

I go to this place near my house several times a week. I usually stay quiet, eat lunch and read my newspaper.

 

One of the waitresses asked me what kind of work I do... Then a week later she asks whether I can give her some advice on her school assignment. I think those are unusual questions coming from someone who doesn't know me.

 

Do you think there's an opportunity for me to ask her out for coffee or something?

Tis how i ended up with my last gf.. I realized when she was asking questions that didn't have anything to do with food and the taking my picture really gave it away.

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Do you think there's an opportunity for me to ask her out for coffee or something?

no, there isn't

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Dont ask her for coffee right there, just tell her to give you her number. Once you talk to her on the phone, you can make a coffee date then.

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Sounds like you already have a golden opportunity here since she is the one asking you questions. If you think you may be interested in this girl then this is a good chance.

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Leave a note with your number when you leave your tip on the table.

 

Don't ask her while she's on the job, she could get in trouble for fraternizing with a customer.

 

That will show her that you respect her job, and she may appreciate that you didn't put her on the spot at her workplace..............

 

Good luck!

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no, there isn't

 

 

I agree with Alpha..

 

ALL wait staff are only being courteous and friendly to patrons as that is their job.

 

Can you imagine the tips of a waitress if she was a cold stone person to every guy she got hit on by ?.. No tips..

 

It is possible to date someone like that but it really takes more than being a regular.. being a regular means she will protect the friendship even more as the better she gets to know you the more she makes in tips..

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Forget this note crap.. find out discreetly if possible when she gets off work.. then go in there about an hour or so before hand and at some point tell her you think she is an fun and interesting person and you are going to pick up a cup of coffee after you eat/drink and wondering if she'd care to join you after she gets off work.

 

A note doesn't show you got stones.. it shows you are afraid of getting rejected face to face so you are leaving it up to her.

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Guys, thanks for the advice.

 

I eat out quite a bit and I know waitresses are paid to be nice. However waitresses usually stick with non-personal things

 

If I get turned down, I can always change restaurants...

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If I get turned down, I can always change restaurants...

 

Isn't that kind of a selfish view on things..

 

The reason she is being nice is to protect her income and here you are saying that if you have misinterpreted her niceness then she loses you as a customer..

 

She isn't at work serving patrons looking for a husband...

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Ask her out. If she says No, so what? She should take it as a compliment.

 

If she says Yes, you got a date.

 

If you change restaurants you're gonna look like the teeniest weenie your side of the Rio Grande. What's next, ducking behind clothes racks if you see her out shopping? See what I mean?

 

Just be confident.

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why don u do the same,as what shez doing.ask her a couple of questions!!! totally unrelated ;) you know what i mean.if shez wise and interested she will get the idea and it will be clearer to u if shez interested or not :) SIMPLE!!

 

OMG learn to type

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Guy, go with your initial thought. You'll be fine. Let su know what happens....

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