Lost-n-confused Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 I need advice on a missed connection. I was at a party and met a girl who was quite amazing. I felt she was interested for a few reasons. As soon as we started to talked we both completely lost touch of the other people we were talking to. It started with a simple chat then after an introduction we started to get to know each other. She told me about her business and was showing me pictures on her phone. At one point she put her hand on my arm and I then light touched her hand. I started to think hey this girl maybe interested in me. She told me who she was and where she came from and she eventually shifted the conversation from who she was to who am I. She even mirrored me when I straightened out some poker chips she started to do the same thing and I sat and watched thinking shes mirroring me. Even my friend later said that as soon as he heard her laughing with me he knew his chances with her were gone. Eventually we got separated by the roommate and we made eye contacted a few times and each time ours eyes met we both kinda blushed and smiled. Very shortly after we got separated her friend wanted to leave and she was gone. I was just about to ask her for her number and to coffee. I feel I will never see her again. So I contacted my friend who doesn't know her but knows her friend. So I figured id send her friend a message on facebook explaining what happened and that Id like to get in contact with her. I have nothing to loose by doing this. Here is my proposed message. Hello. I know we haven't met but we were both at Andrews 25th birthday party. You probably will recognize me in my profile photo. You brought a friend I believe her name was Mara? Andrew says its Mala. Anyways she and I were talking, getting to know each other. You know talking about her business and where she came from, her job at homeland security. We flirted and laughed, we seemed to have been hitting it off very well. She seemed to be quite amazing and I was quite enamored with her. We got separated by Andrews roommate and before I had the chance to ask her for her number she was gone. The party was the first time I saw Andrew in 3 years and she is just a friend of a friend to him. I feel I will never get a chance to see her again to ask her for her number. I was hoping you could point me to her facebook so I could try to get in contact with her. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thanks, Victor
Yukikazi Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 Here is my proposed message. Hello. I know we haven't met but we were both at Andrews 25th birthday party. You may recognize me in my profile photo. You brought a friend I believe her name was Mara? Andrew says its Mala. Anyways she and I were talking, getting to know each other, we seemed to have been hitting it off very well. I was hoping you could point me to her facebook so I could try to get in contact with her. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thanks, Victor Fixed for brevity.. cause honestly dude.. all that gushing in your first draft makes you sound like a lovesick wuss.
callingyouuu Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 Congrats on meeting her! She sounds awesome. A few things about the message you plan on sending... Hello. I know we haven't met but we were both at Andrews 25th birthday party. You probably will recognize me in my profile photo. You brought a friend I believe her name was Mara? Andrew says its Mala. Anyways she and I were talking, getting to know each other. You know talking about her business and where she came from, her job at homeland security. We flirted and laughed, we seemed to have been hitting it off very well. She seemed to be quite amazing and I was quite enamored with her.We got separated by Andrews roommate and before I had the chance to ask her for her number she was gone. The party was the first time I saw Andrew in 3 years and she is just a friend of a friend to him. I feel I will never get a chance to see her again to ask her for her number. I was hoping you could point me to her facebook so I could try to get in contact with her. Part in bold: One key thing to remember when meeting someone you're interested in, always try to remember their name. I know you just can't remember this one, but for future reference, lots of people find it rude when you don't, kind of like they didn't make a good enough impression on you for you to even remember one of their most important characteristics. Part that's underlined: I feel like you might want to leave this out. First, this might just be me, but I think expecting her to recognize you from your picture is a bit presumptuous. Also, I don't think it's necessary to let her friend know the details as to what you talked about, her relationship with Andrew, etc. She just needs to know that you met, you couldn't get her number, and you're asking for her help to get in contact with Mara/Mala. Good luck! I hope you guys get reconnected.
Author Lost-n-confused Posted December 17, 2009 Author Posted December 17, 2009 (edited) It was loud and she had a one of those names you have to hear like 5 times. It was something like Mora.. Mara.. Mala.. I want to say Mora. I hybridized them together this is what I think I will send her. Hi ..., I know we haven't met but we were both at Andrew's 25th birthday party. You brought a friend; I believe her name was Mora? Andrew says its Mala. Anyways, she and I were talking, getting to know each other, we seemed to have been hitting it off very well. We got separated by Andrew's roommate and before I had the chance to ask her for her number she was gone. I was wondering if you could point me to her facebook page so I could try to get in contact with her. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thanks, Victor sent. Thanks guys. Edited December 17, 2009 by Lost-n-confused
nocode Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 Did you try looking on this person's Facebook friends list to see if there's a "Mora/Mala" listed there? Maybe you'll be able to contact her directly.
Author Lost-n-confused Posted December 17, 2009 Author Posted December 17, 2009 Did you try looking on this person's Facebook friends list to see if there's a "Mora/Mala" listed there? Maybe you'll be able to contact her directly. My firend looked through her profile and couldn't find her. She probably doesn't have a profile but now her firend knows that I'm interested. Maybe she will tell Mora and I'll endup with a phone number or have mine passed on to her.
Author Lost-n-confused Posted December 18, 2009 Author Posted December 18, 2009 She accepted my friend request but I got no response to message I sent with the friend request. After looking through her friends List Mala isn't on it. She must not be on facebook. I feel like sending her a message going something like this. Hey .... I don't know if you read the message I sent to you in the friend request. I felt Mala and I hit it off pretty well at the party. We got separated and before I had the chance to ask her for her number she was gone. Apparently Mala isn't on facebook and Id like to establish contact with her. Could you give her my number and tell her to give me a call? 555-555-5555 or... Hey .... I don't know if you read the message I sent to you in the friend request. I felt Mala and I hit it off pretty well at the party. We got separated and before I had the chance to ask her for her number she was gone. Apparently Mala isn't on facebook and Id like to establish contact with her. Could I get Mala's number so I can give her a call? Something in my gut is telling me to try. I know this is a terrible way of getting someones number but I felt Mala and I could have chemistry. Now I did just get the friend request accepted an hour ago so who knows maybe tomorrow she will tell Mala that Im interested but she may also of just have accepted my friend request and ignored the message. Should I wait 24 hours to send her a message?
callingyouuu Posted December 18, 2009 Posted December 18, 2009 It sounds like you're starting to get attached, even though you've only met her once for a few hours. Pull yourself together! I'm just afraid that you've already put her on a pedestal. The second paragraph is better, and I would wait at least 24 hours, preferably 48, for a response before sending it. She might want to talk to Mala about it first before getting back to you. If she's already seen the message you sent with the friend request and she gets the one you're about to send very soon after, you start to reek of desperation. Also, there's a chance you won't be able to connect again. Don't put all of your eggs in Mala's basket; keep looking! You might find someone you have even better chemistry with.
Author Lost-n-confused Posted December 18, 2009 Author Posted December 18, 2009 (edited) I'm waiting for a call from a girl I met online. So I have other things going on. I'm also talking to another two girls online. I get a few new girls that message me every day. I didn't send the second message... I'm waiting at least 24 hours if not 48 hours to see if she responds. Edited December 18, 2009 by Lost-n-confused
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