Ms. Joolie Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 Okay, so your assignment is to meet new, nice girls at new, enjoyable scenes! That is your challenge, your mission! Tell us about it, talk about it, post lots of threads about it..... get busy with that! Get busy thinking about this new challenge, this new mission. There are PLENTY of attractive, nice girls out there for you! You just have to get your game back on. You're OK! It's OK! Everything is fine. You just have to begin a new game and do it. I want to hear about you approaching and talking to new girls. I want to hear what worked and didn't work. I want to hear about some new, nice girl you met and about your first and second dates. I want to hear how it didn't work out with that girl, but there's another one that you find interesting and she is responding better to you. Get out of the "i'm sitting here alone" game and into the dating game!
nobmagnet Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 abso....f*ckingloutely!! put you aggression and tinasity out there! you dont need to commit. Dating is a game everybody knows that. you dont have to live with them or marry them just explore and have fun. However you need to keep a check on your emotions. relationships early on after a heartbeak can be blown out of proportin one way or the other.Dont use women. Dont lead them on. Dont replace her face as your ex's and continue you old hang ups. be vivasious, charming and truthful............you Mcgupp will shine xx
Author McGrupp Posted December 17, 2009 Author Posted December 17, 2009 its not about a new girl i dont think...idk...maybe i just want her. and i cant get that back. and i want out of this lifestyle i have. and the traveling thing...well everyone here is telling me not to do it. that im running. that ill still pine for her even if im in cali or fla. idk what to do anymore. i want to see her again and do it again this time differently.
Ms. Joolie Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 i just want her. and i cant get that back. and i want out of this lifestyle i have. and the traveling thing...well everyone here is telling me not to do it. Okay, fine. Then list out ten great things you can do to get her back. How well do you know her parents? Any chance you can have a real conversation with them about this? What about flowers? Have you thought about having flowers delivered to her house? In other words.... you need to think about extraordinary things to do that will get her back. That's where me and my ex are at. He emailed me, I ignored it. He texted me just in the last two days, I ignored it. If he wants me back, he's going to have to man up and do something extraordinary. Why? Because he hurt me. I've no reason to go back anymore, unless he truly loves me and proves it in some great way. I need to *know* he LOVES me, best expressed by a simple, bold, new action. THAT would make me notice, turn around and we can open up discussion again. But so far, he's just sent weak ass emails/texts.... that's not going to work anymore. In fact... *evil confession alert*.... I hope he is hurting like you. If he's hurting and not doing anything about it, it serves him right. He can keep hurting and either get over it and move on or freakin' DO SOMETHING TO LET ME KNOW HE REALLY CARES. ahhhhhhhhh......... but he doesn't. He doesn't care enough. All the energy is gone. We've already tried and tried, it never worked for multiple reasons. It just didn't work. His stupid ongoing contact which I've started to ignore is..................... well, just stupid. Not affecting me at all even. Except for this rant. Thank You.
Ms. Joolie Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 Oh, and the traveling thing.... take a vacation if you can first. Get away for just a week if you can.... really! Do it! That's what you need! A vacation! Come to Houston! We'll have fun! lol We should probably have a huge HeartAcher's Convo in Houston. lol
Author McGrupp Posted December 17, 2009 Author Posted December 17, 2009 yeah but he dumped you? no? so im like ****ed...cant even send flowers or anything. idk what would i say. kinda just dont want anymore rejection. would rather her wake up in 6 months and say "what happened to him?" instead of me wondering what happened to her. she knows she hurt me, but that doesnt make a woman want to come back. at all
soheartbroken Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 and its not just the breakup, its the upheavel of my life. its moving out of the city back to my parents. its her staying in the city and probably getting ****ed by some wall sstreet tycoon well im working alone in an office all day and thne sitting at some crappy towny bar, while she probably goes to who knows what cool things. i hate my job. i hate my face. everytime i look in the mirror i get depressed. i hate this town, and i hate her for doing this to me. I hear you. I moved back home as well, living with my parents. Left school, working part-time for minimum wage at a job I hate. And she's probably doing awesome things having the time of her life, relieved to be free of me. I really do understand. You're gonna pull through because there is so much spirit in you.
Author McGrupp Posted December 17, 2009 Author Posted December 17, 2009 are we losers? are we the ones they talk about and joke around with thier husband on the couch when they are older? i know my mom had this pyscho ex...is that me?
Ms. Joolie Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 yeah but he dumped you? no? so im like ****ed...cant even send flowers or anything. idk what would i say. kinda just dont want anymore rejection. would rather her wake up in 6 months and say "what happened to him?" instead of me wondering what happened to her. she knows she hurt me, but that doesnt make a woman want to come back. at all I suggest you send her flowers. Let her know you've been thinking about her and all the mistakes you made. After all, you all were together for quite a while.... lived together and all... so this sort of intimate act would be so great. So great... As for who dumped who in my story.... I don't know exactly. I stopped seeing him in July. In September, he calls and we then go out again for a couple of weeks. On week 3 was a big party which he had already set up a date for like a month in advance with some woman he met on the net. He told me about her, but never said he had a date set with her. He finally sent me an email saying that he had this date with this woman, and he wanted assurance that I was going to "stick around" this time before he canceled on her. I said for him to keep his date. We were over. I was so blinded by hurt and my ego was so bruised that I shut down and ran away. I knew it was over. All my in and out of the relationship had done it's damage. So for the last time, I told him, we had to break up. We tried to call each other once each by phone, but didn't talk. We exchanged emails for weeks. I kept saying "no, go away" and I don't even know what he was saying, tbh. So that's the story. That's the mess. Now he emails or texts every 2 weeks and I don't care. I just want to move on. Does he want me still or what? What is he doing? I don't care. I just want to move on. He hurt me with his stupid date he had and asking for my assurance, so I dumped him. I don't know. It's a mess. I feel both like the dumper and the dumpee.
soheartbroken Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 I don't think so, though I've wondered about that. My ex certainly knows that I moved back home and left school. I think, though, that having followed many of your posts, that your ex is not gonna judge you too harshly for it. She will realize that you needed time to sort yourself out, and that you were only in your old city because of her. Taking time off (including moving back home) to recover and regain your footing is no big deal I don't think. Although maybe not ideal, lots of people do it post-divorce/breakup. The scary question is, are you and I going to regain our footing at set out on our own again? Sounds like you are planning on getting out and about, so that's a good start. I have decided that I must go back to school in the fall, come hell or high water. My ability to concentrate will be the main obstacle.
Author McGrupp Posted December 17, 2009 Author Posted December 17, 2009 i might send the flowers. kinda 50/50 on the whole thing. i mean its a good way to go out on top. write something like: "hope you and your family have a happy holiday, best - mcgrupp" wouldnt expect a response problem is i lost her work address lol... also if she's seeing someone else...**** it
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