rateyes Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 sorry this should be in a dif section, but this is rather serious and this is the most viewed section. I have a friend whose BF broke up with her(long distance) and she is takin it horribly. She keeps sayin shes not good enough for anyone else, tried suicide once, has become anorexic, and is bein completely irrational. She wont stop talkin to him. Ive told her she needs to cut contact(atleast for a little bit to get her head straight), but she wont listen. The guy keeps tellin her shell never be happy without him, she keeps beleiving him. he wont stop talkin to her and all he says is negative things to her, yet she keeps contactin him, and thinks things will get better. what is there for me to possibly do for her? She says shes gonna go to therapy, but i hoenstly dont think it will help, she wont even listen to what i say, and shes like my older sister. She says she refuses to delete his number even if the therapist says to.
deebeechrisyo Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 First, beat the crap out of the guy who keeps contacting her. He's making it 100000x worse for her by keeping in contact. Ultimately you can only do so much, it's up to her to be comfortable with herself.
Author rateyes Posted December 17, 2009 Author Posted December 17, 2009 First, beat the crap out of the guy who keeps contacting her. He's making it 100000x worse for her by keeping in contact. Ultimately you can only do so much, it's up to her to be comfortable with herself. ive tried tellin her she can get plenty of guys(she can...), and you need to fail to succeed, but she wont listen. i tell her im here for her, and all her other friends, but its not enough. the guy is in Texas were in GA... and im hesitant to say anything to him in fear he says something to her and she does something rash(since shes already tried suicide once)...i offered to help pay for therapy, guess thats all i can do..
boogieboy Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 Theres nothing you can do. She is broken hearted right now and cant think rationally. You cant fight her will, you cant change her mind, all you can do is talk her down from suicide. She has to deal with it her way, she will only learn by dealing with it.
SoulSearch_CO Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 Theres nothing you can do. She is broken hearted right now and cant think rationally. You cant fight her will, you cant change her mind, all you can do is talk her down from suicide. She has to deal with it her way, she will only learn by dealing with it. Exactly. There's no way to make her do or feel anything. She's going to have to figure this thing out on her own. Just be there to support her. If she does keep talking suicide, try to get her to call a suicide hotline. I think it's 1800SUICIDE. They can talk her down. And if she makes an actual attempt, then you call 911 for her. All you can do is be a support. This is just one of those things that one has to live through and figure out on their own.
Author rateyes Posted December 17, 2009 Author Posted December 17, 2009 Exactly. There's no way to make her do or feel anything. She's going to have to figure this thing out on her own. Just be there to support her. If she does keep talking suicide, try to get her to call a suicide hotline. I think it's 1800SUICIDE. They can talk her down. And if she makes an actual attempt, then you call 911 for her. All you can do is be a support. This is just one of those things that one has to live through and figure out on their own. she says she already tried to OD....which is why i made this, to see if theres anything i can do to stop another.
harmfulsweetz Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 There's not an awful lot you can actually do. She has to do this for herself, she has to cut contact because she wants to, I know it's hard. It's always hard to see people we love sink, knowing there's nothing we can do to make it better. Be there for her, to listen, to cry on, etc. You can't force her to do anything that is against her will, I'm afraid. It's easy for us all to say she needs to cut contact, but when you are her, it's so cloudy. She depends on him right now, wrongfully, but all the same. It's just one of those things she has to get herself through, she has to make the decision to help herself, and you can't do that for her. No one can. I'm sorry it wasn't much help, but she will pull through it, hopefully soon she'll realize what trash he is.
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