SadandConfusedWA Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 Is this a good idea? My BFF who I always spend NYE with is traveling around the world. I had plans with another friend that just fell through. I hate staying at home for NYE. I found this singles event organized by match.com in my city. It is a huge party and over 25 (years old) singles are invited. It also says that you are welcome to some alone and they will assign you to a group of people that also came alone. All this year I have besically gone to work and gone home and barely met any new people. Do you guys think I should go to this event? Will it be scary and awakward? I mean it would be so much easier to just stay at home and go online...but I would love to meet someone.
monkey00 Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 I don't see any reason not to go and mingle, since you don't have plans?? Even if you don't meet someone, you might make some new friends who are in the same boat as you.
rateyes Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 Is this a good idea? My BFF who I always spend NYE with is traveling around the world. I had plans with another friend that just fell through. I hate staying at home for NYE. I found this singles event organized by match.com in my city. It is a huge party and over 25 (years old) singles are invited. It also says that you are welcome to some alone and they will assign you to a group of people that also came alone. All this year I have besically gone to work and gone home and barely met any new people. Do you guys think I should go to this event? Will it be scary and awakward? I mean it would be so much easier to just stay at home and go online...but I would love to meet someone. its only as scary and awkward as you allow it. Go in there proud to be alone and it doesnt bother you. I go to events all the time alone, and sit alone acting like it doesnt bother me, and i usually get someone to approach me and i meet a few people that way if im not feelin like approaching people that day. Just find a area that interests you and start small talk.
Ariadne Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 NYE...singles event organized by match.com That's pretty lame alright..
D-Lish Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 Just go and have fun. There are so many people out there in the same boat as you. You might also meet some new single friends that you can network with. Even if you don't meet a guy, you might meet some girls in the same boat, and you can build a little social circle.
Author SadandConfusedWA Posted December 17, 2009 Author Posted December 17, 2009 Yep and of course if I am having a terrible time I can always just turn around and go home. A, you would be better off doing this too. We are not getting any younger and have to be open to new men or friends. Living in a fantasy land has only made both of us miserable. I will ask a friend from work (a single girl) if she wants to go with me, but if not I still plan on going alone...
Ariadne Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 Yep and of course if I am having a terrible time I can always just turn around and go home. A, you would be better off doing this too. We are not getting any younger and have to be open to new men or friends. Living in a fantasy land has only made both of us miserable. I will ask a friend from work (a single girl) if she wants to go with me, but if not I still plan on going alone... Well, you'd imagine people would want to spend NYE with their parents, relatives, friends, someone... But to go meet strangers on that day? Sounds like a pretty lonely crowd.
SoulSearch_CO Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 I'll reserve comment on who should be judging lameness. :| Anywho - why not? I say go for it. It's either the "lame" event (), or sitting on your ass at home alone. I would go if I had something like that rather than having to work.
Author SadandConfusedWA Posted December 17, 2009 Author Posted December 17, 2009 Well, you'd imagine people would want to spend NYE with their parents, relatives, friends, someone... But to go meet strangers on that day? Sounds like a pretty lonely crowd. A, of course I always have the option to spend it with my parents. But in the past all we did was eat, watch TV and fall a sleep at about quater past midnight. Not exactly my idea of a good time. Besides, I will spend Chrsitmas eve and day with the parents.
meerkat stew Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 Rather than a match.com event, maybe scope out several area parties at various venues and pick the coolest two so you have a plan B. Have dated using match lots, but just have a sketchy feeling about a match.com party. Or you could go to the match thing but also have a backup or two. Having backup is good. One other thing, if you hit the hip bars around Christmas and meet new people, you might get clued in on private parties in the area that could be much cooler than a big public party.
Author SadandConfusedWA Posted December 22, 2009 Author Posted December 22, 2009 So I have given up on the match.com event. I have been invited to go sensation white (the biggest dance party in the world) with a bunch of people so looks like I will be doing that I have never even been to a rave before but I am excited as I like new experiences. The only catch is you have to wear an all white outfit. I am trying to find a decent dress that doesn't make me look horribly fat.... I hate drugs but I love alcohol so I plan to drink up
curiousnycgirl Posted December 22, 2009 Posted December 22, 2009 Good for you! While I absolultely hate going out NYE - if it's your thing I think it's great to get out there where you can meet lots of new folks and have a good time. Excellent way to start the new year IMHO!
Ariadne Posted December 22, 2009 Posted December 22, 2009 So I have given up on the match.com event. I have been invited to go sensation white (the biggest dance party in the world) with a bunch of people so looks like I will be doing that I have never even been to a rave before but I am excited as I like new experiences. The only catch is you have to wear an all white outfit. I am trying to find a decent dress that doesn't make me look horribly fat.... I hate drugs but I love alcohol so I plan to drink up Cool!!! And I love the idea of wearing white for New Year's! In Brazil that's what they do, they dress in white and go to the beach (pic).
betamanlet Posted December 22, 2009 Posted December 22, 2009 What's the big still about staying in? Some of the best times I've ever had have been from staying in. Men get called this a lot, but you're told if you cannot be happy alone, then you don't deserve to be with someone. Does the same apply to women? Or ANOTHER double standard?
D-Jam Posted December 22, 2009 Posted December 22, 2009 I agree with most of the opinions here. I'd go with an open mind and no big expectations. You never know if it'll be awesome or "ewwww". You might walk in and see loads of guys you would never message, but they'll all be on you trying to see how far they can get. Rather than immediately think it's a wasted effort, just be sociable, pass off those who try to move to fast (number, afterhours, etc), and make some friends. I'd also have a Plan B in your back pocket. Look around your town. There are events many throw that are aimed more for singles simply because NYE has become such a couples-centric holiday and they want a place for those who don't have a SO or a date. I give you credit. When I was single I usually just stayed home and treated NYE as another night. Even now I'm throwing a NYE event at my condo and working very hard to make sure it's not couples-centric. I don't like my single friends feeling uncomfortable.
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