Island Girl Posted December 16, 2009 Posted December 16, 2009 Some of you out there have a One That Got Away. Sometimes people can find their ideal emotional, mental, and physical and the relationship ends. Yet those memories of that person live on. We all remember our exes as they were when they were with us but time passes and physically that person ages. If you have a One That Got Away that you loved and still on a very real level DO still... IF you got the chance to reconnect with them MANY years later (both of you single) and everything else was still there would it matter if they changed physically?
gopher Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 I was once engaged to a woman who was very sweet and very cute. One day I was sitting in a parking lot waiting for her, and I saw my ex. She had dark blonde hair and was wearing a gold down winter coat, and seeing her took my breath away. I knew she was married, and I would never have her. But, I also realized that my fiance deserved better than someone who was pining away for a past ex. I broke up with her, and several years later met my current g/f. She is perfect for me, and truly has made the memories of my ex fade away. I know if I saw her now, I wouldn't react the same way.
D-Lish Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 I didn't date the one that got away- I friend-zoned him. I was 21, in school, and I had just gotten out of my first long term relationship. I liked the guy, but I truly wasn't ready for anything serious- we did everything together, then lost touch after school ended. I think of him now as the one I allowed to get away. I remember all my gf's trying to bang him, and he just stayed loyal to me, even though I didn't want that kind of loyalty from him. I don't think I'd care if he's gone bald or put on a few pounds. He was so charismatic. My mom still brings him up and teases me that I let that handsome guy get away. I think it'd be cool to see what has happened to him. If he happened to be the same guy- I think the "cute" would fall back in place for me.
jerbear Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 I never dated the one that got away but she and I grew up together. We did a lot together, she could get me to do things I would not normally do and I would be fine with it. If she is single without kids now, I would marry her.
carhill Posted December 17, 2009 Posted December 17, 2009 You know my opinion. If we had both been single, the bed would've grown rocket engines. I wouldn't have cared if it ultimately drilled a hole in the desert. Truth: When our SO's saw us together (socially), the first comment was 'what the hell is going on with them?" We had not spoken a word. I remembered that response from decades ago, at another meeting, where a co-worker politely just left the room, as we again spoke no words. My advice is to trust your instincts. For some, time is irrelevant. Physicality is irrelevant. Only you know your dynamic. You know the person intimately, from the past. Go with that knowledge.
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